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Changing your personality at University

Someone said the other day they wanted to become more outgoing at University. Its pretty much a fresh start, make a new image for yourself, or stay the same.

I think im gonna try stay pretty much the same, and play it cool :cool:

. Maybe get a bit more relaxed about everything, take everything as it comes. Rather then try and sort it out and organise like i do now. Although I do need to keep an organised work ethic from what ive heard about the load during exam period.

Hows about you guys? Want to go from Emo so skater? or Mosher to Indie Kid?

Reply 1

supertramp

9

I'm quite happy to stay "drunken girl", thank you very much :wink:

Reply 2

sheryl06

1

I know what these people are saying in a way. However I'm not going to change my personality as such I think I am just going to be more 'me'. At my school I always felt wierd about wearing the stuff I wanted to in 6th form. I don't really know why but I figured that when I get to uni I will just not care and wear what I want. That's the only thing I plan to change.

Reply 3

sunscreen

7

lol i don't think it really works... I tried to be calm and polite when i first moved into halls but after a few drinks i was f'ing every other word lol
theres no point in being fake as people just see your being fake!

my flatmates know exactly what im like and so do my friends and i've made loads of friends

if they dont like you for who you are then they aren't worth having as friends

Reply 4

vicki-xox-

i dont wana change like who i am, part from i want to be more confident..i can b shy sometimes...its stupid and annoyin

x

Reply 5

aleathiel

16

I'm just gonna be me but hopefully me when I was more chilled out and not me now, stressed because of family crap and exam hell (even though exams are over!!) :p:

I'm also gonna be more relaxed about what I wear, and get my hair cut shortish and not care what people think because it's what I wanna do hehe! :biggrin:

Reply 6

Tennessee

You know, this is something i've thought about a lot. Because all my friends easily pick things up from one another...i've started thinking...who the hell am i going to be when i'm on my own?? I think i'll start off pretty much like i am now, but i recon i'll change from what i was, not drastically, but enough to notice, although that entirely depends on the characters around me! If i'm the boldest then i doubt i will lol

Reply 7

kinkajou

15

i'm really really quiet & shy with ppl i don't know at the moment, i'm just hoping i can prove myself to ppl at uni and come out of my shell a bit :redface:

i just want to be able to have the confidence to go up to people and have a random convo, without expecting ppl to come up to me, cos it just doesnt work like that. i need to get over my shyness!

Reply 8

leona

12

I'm not gonna make a conscious effort to actually change who I am, cos that would be kinda contrived and fake. I think that uni will change us naturally, purely because we're in a completely new environment that we need to adjust to in whatever way. The change in my brother was dramatic, he went to uni a kinda shy, geeky boy scientist and came back a few terms later a popular, confident, kinda good looking man! Hopefully I will change for the better in a similar way.

However, I can say until I'm blue in the face that I'm going to be more organised with work but we all know there'll be ice in hell before that happens :rolleyes:

lol

Reply 9

dhutch

17

I made a consicous effort to become more outgoing and social adventuous duing my first year.
- Not trying to be fake or anything. But doing stuff that i wouldnt usally have done, such as going out fairly reguarly, trying to meet new people, etc.

Before i went to uni, and to a certain extent still, i was very quite and basicaly didnt go out at all, and had no freinds out of school.
- I went to the 6thform socials, buts thats a close as i got to going out at all really!

Uni is a chance for a freash start, which is nice really.

Daniel

Reply 10

Clarence

14

I think i'll be able to be myself and come out of my shell that living within the society i do has put me in.

I can't wait to finally express myself and my feelings.

Reply 11

thegreatstupendo

2

I have to say I'm pretty damn happy with who I am right now, I have no intention of changing, though I don't expect myself to be the same person in 3 years time.

Reply 12

Bluelight

13

Im going to have to rein myself in a bit for uni. Im going to stop looking down on things and stop shouting over people.

Reply 13

dreamqueen

3

I'd like to be able to be less serious and more relaxed. But I'm also quite worried about stuff - like I don't drink and I'm worried that people at uni will find that weird

Reply 14

halfoflessthan50p

12

Im going to be ridiculously nice to everyone i meet

Reply 15

Kittennffc

15

Before going to university, I used to be very confident and outgoing within my group of friends, and when I'd had a drink with other people. I mean I was never a recluse, or that shy, but I was quite self conscious, but now i'm at uni, i'm so much more confident and out going with everyone. You have to make friends, or you'll be totally alone, so I forced myself to talk to anyone and everyone. But uni is such a friendly place where everyone is in the same boat, so it makes it much easier :smile:

Reply 16

kateykat

Clarence

I think i'll be able to be myself and come out of my shell that living within the society i do has put me in.

I can't wait to finally express myself and my feelings.

Yeah same here. I don't really feel I'm displaying my true personality at the moment. I hope I find myself surrounded by friendly people and have good times.

Reply 17

SuperhansFavouriteAlsatian

Tennessee

You know, this is something i've thought about a lot. Because all my friends easily pick things up from one another...i've started thinking...who the hell am i going to be when i'm on my own?? I think i'll start off pretty much like i am now, but i recon i'll change from what i was, not drastically, but enough to notice, although that entirely depends on the characters around me! If i'm the boldest then i doubt i will lol

I know what you mean. Like there's little things you say and do with your friends that no one else does. When you go to uni you'll pick up new things like that from your friends, and when you come back to see all your old friends, you'll all be talking a bit different etc. It'll be weird but refreshing.

Reply 18

Gman1617

trust me doin that doesn't work you will always go back to your old ways unless you constantly remind your self every minute that this is the new u.

Change doesn't come that easy it takes time.
But still it would be foolish of any one to say don't try it.

Cos it happened to me when i moved schools i tried tio be more load and outgoing i had it goin for the first two weeks then i turned back into myself gradually.

But overall over the two years i was there i slowly changed and now i can say i am more social 100 and 50 % moreso than i was before.

remember rome wasn't built in a day.

Reply 19

sexysax

14

I didn't go to uni with the thought that I'd totally change my personality. I expected a bit of change, as I was making friends with all kinds of different people, and I was in more of a freer environment to do what I wanted.

I don't think I have changed much really, I've become a bit more laid back I think, but that's it.

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