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Regard to all these virginity threads lately

Ok it seems we have a big problem with this lately with all the threads going round here in health and relationship so again apologise in advance if I sound like I’m going on but….

First off for example lets say your 19 years old and you are desperate to lose it then please calm down it’s not the end of the world and if your looking to get laid you will actually find it harder to get laid, anyway if you try and get laid with the first thing in sight it is more likely to end in tears. You got to have patience.

You are not some kind of loser just because you haven't done it or got no sexual experience as its the same way if you have done it, it does not matter either way.

Secondly a lot of people seem to be frowning over the fact there is quite a few virgins here, telling them to go out and live is not helpful and further more putting them under pressure is wrong, it is their chose that they are a virgin and waiting for the right person, there is nothing wrong with it.
I can’t see how it is missing out or living a worse life, many people are proud of the fact that they are virgins.

You just got to remember some people rather lose it to someone they are comfortable with or in a proper meaningful relationship and it's not nice to bash them about it, but on the flip side some people are not so bothered about it who have perhaps had a bit more experience again it don't mean they are dirty.

As it is the same for someone not waiting again it’s up to that person, I mean surely it is no big deal whether any person is a virgin or not, you be who you want to be is the most important thing.

But above all the best thing to do is be careful especially if you like lots of casual sex or one night stands and those who are still virgins don't worry take your time.

So bear that in mind different people have a different way of going about it.

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Reply 1
Carl1982
Ok it seems we have a big problem with this lately with all the threads going round here in health and relationship so again apologise in advance if I sound like I’m going on but….

First off for example lets say your 19 years old and you are desperate to lose it then please calm down it’s not the end of the world and if your looking to get laid you will actually find it harder to get laid, anyway if you try and get laid with the first thing in sight it is more likely to end in tears. You got to have patience.

You are not some kind of loser just because you haven't done it or got no sexual experience as its the same way if you have done it, it does not matter either way.

Secondly a lot of people seem to be frowning over the fact there is quite a few virgins here, telling them to go out and live is not helpful and further more putting them under pressure is wrong, it is their chose that they are a virgin and waiting for the right person, there is nothing wrong with it.
I can’t see how it is missing out or living a worse life, many people are proud of the fact that they are virgins.

You just got to remember some people rather lose it to someone they are comfortable with or in a proper meaningful relationship and it's not nice to bash them about it, but on the flip side some people are not so bothered about it who have perhaps had a bit more experience again it don't mean they are dirty.

As it is the same for someone not waiting again it’s up to that person, I mean surely it is no big deal whether any person is a virgin or not, you be who you want to be is the most important thing.

But above all the best thing to do is be careful especially if you like lots of casual sex or one night stands and those who are still virgins don't worry take your time.

So bear that in mind different people have a different way of going about it.
:dito:

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Respected!
moved to word! i wud rep you if i cud!


y is the virginity thing such an issue atm? any ideas? lol the heat...
Reply 3
it's summer. we're like cats on heat
anjurdsg
:dito:

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cheers for the rep :biggrin: remind me hand out some more rep when it's midnight
Reply 5
Carl1982

You are not some kind of loser just because you haven't done it or got no sexual experience as its the same way if you have done it, it does not matter either way.

When does it become an issue though? Not at 19, sure, but there was that film last year called '40 year old virgin'... I'd say 28 or so is the point at which it starts to become slightly unusual.
Reply 6
username24
When does it become an issue though? Not at 19, sure, but there was that film last year called '40 year old virgin'... I'd say 28 or so is the point at which it starts to become slightly unusual.
i'd say when you're about 69, you need to start thinking about how to get your first kiss

start looking on the internet for you're standard pick-up lines... you're best and the first way to start would be here: http://thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=265628
username24
When does it become an issue though? Not at 19, sure, but there was that film last year called '40 year old virgin'... I'd say 28 or so is the point at which it starts to become slightly unusual.


Well personally its not an issue either way but in some of the threads, some people said anyone who is a virgin is not living and wasting their life, which is so not true.

On the flip side you got those saying oh i am so desperate to get laid, again what i am saying is its not a big issues whether your a virgin or not.
Reply 8
Carl1982
cheers for the rep :biggrin: remind me hand out some more rep when it's midnight
no probs! a good post deserved a good pat on the back :p:
Reply 9
Its only a big thing if you make it a big thing.

For some people it is just the next step up along the usual line you take with girlfriends.
I think it is becaus there are some people who are about to go to Uni and think that they musn't be a virgin at Uni as they will be surrounded by people who are not virgnis. I think this is highly doubtful and I am sure there will be plenty of people at Uni who won't have lost their virginity.
Reply 11
matt@internet
I think it is becaus there are some people who are about to go to Uni and think that they musn't be a virgin at Uni as they will be surrounded by people who are not virgnis. I think this is highly doubtful and I am sure there will be plenty of people at Uni who won't have lost their virginity.

I was just about to say that. I reckon it's American Pie syndrome.
Reply 12
squirly
I was just about to say that. I reckon it's American Pie syndrome.
i dunno could it be the British Pastry syndrome?
yeah its like american pie lol or all those other teen movies you see going round
anjurdsg
i'd say when you're about 69, you need to start thinking about how to get your first kiss

start looking on the internet for you're standard pick-up lines... you're best and the first way to start would be here: http://thestudentroom.co.uk/showthread.php?t=265628


"I know whether I'm attracted to you, so I don't need a pick up line," says Sara, a 28-year-old barmaid in South Africa."Just come on over and say hello."
Reply 15
blondemoment
moved to word! i wud rep you if i cud!


y is the virginity thing such an issue atm? any ideas? lol the heat...


the heat definitely makes a difference! last year i had to go and see a nurse at my bfs uni (i needed a post-op dressing changed) and my bf being the type of guys he is was like 'soo, you been busy today?' to the nurse and she said that she's given out loads of morning-after pills because the sun made everyone silly :rolleyes:

lou xxx
it might be a hot summer but you still got to wrap up.
Reply 17
It all depends on whether you grew up in an environment where losing virginity, acting promiscuously meant instant popularity. Usually among the less intelligent, less attractive crowd that's usually how things work. If being a virgin meant instant embarassment and the only solution was to either lose your virginity or like many others, pretend you had, well you definitely felt the pressure.

Outside that mentality (specially made for the not-so-attractive crowd), it's normal to not want to have to wait forever to lose your virginity, if just out of curiosity! If (like myself), you grew up with people who had something going for them other than their burberry cap and their moped and their ugly face then things are different. Going around saying you had lost your virginity, only got a bit of attention. If you were a virgin, you stayed quiet about it, distorted the truth a bit or simply were honest. The only real pressure was that you wanted to know how it felt more than being able to go around telling people you'd screwed around.

I know loads of attractive and intelligent people who lost their virginity far later than all the unclassy people. Even well into uni. Sure some simply lacked confidence to just go ahead and lose it with the first person but many just wanted to make sure things were right. They weren't waiting for prince or princess charming. They just wanted to let things take their course: first have their first relationships, then see if they felt like getting intimate. Finally, when they felt comfortable in their relationship, then they went ahead with it. That's very different to the mentality of people who just want to jump all the steps, lose their virginity so they can tell their mates and then wonder why noone wants to go out with them.
Carl1982
it might be a hot summer but you still got to wrap up.

WICKED!

:rolf:
Reply 19
Carl1982
Ok it seems we have a big problem with this lately with all the threads going round here in health and relationship so again apologise in advance if I sound like I’m going on but….

First off for example lets say your 19 years old and you are desperate to lose it then please calm down it’s not the end of the world and if your looking to get laid you will actually find it harder to get laid, anyway if you try and get laid with the first thing in sight it is more likely to end in tears. You got to have patience.

You are not some kind of loser just because you haven't done it or got no sexual experience as its the same way if you have done it, it does not matter either way.

Secondly a lot of people seem to be frowning over the fact there is quite a few virgins here, telling them to go out and live is not helpful and further more putting them under pressure is wrong, it is their chose that they are a virgin and waiting for the right person, there is nothing wrong with it.
I can’t see how it is missing out or living a worse life, many people are proud of the fact that they are virgins.

You just got to remember some people rather lose it to someone they are comfortable with or in a proper meaningful relationship and it's not nice to bash them about it, but on the flip side some people are not so bothered about it who have perhaps had a bit more experience again it don't mean they are dirty.

As it is the same for someone not waiting again it’s up to that person, I mean surely it is no big deal whether any person is a virgin or not, you be who you want to be is the most important thing.

But above all the best thing to do is be careful especially if you like lots of casual sex or one night stands and those who are still virgins don't worry take your time.

So bear that in mind different people have a different way of going about it.

well said on all that!