Don't know what to do???

My gf broke up with me last wk, cos her dad found out about the relationship :frown:

. If I come near her again, he will prob kill me!! She is really scared and said it would be the best thing to stop the relationship before anything horribly bad goes wrong. The thing is, her dad said she can date other guys... just not me !!! I really miss her and think the world of her :frown:

What can I do??

Reply 1

yo-sup-man

1

I kno how you feel man . me and my gf have been going out for a year.. and her dad cannot know about me yet.. (cos his really over protective) If she loved you that much , she wudent let anything stop her being with you. even if it means carrying on the relationship with out him knowing. You gota talk to her about it..

Reply 2

Zafda

8

hmm.
sticky situation indeed.
if you guys broke up pretty recently, it may be handy to give her a bit of space, but if you guys see each other every now and then, do try to be her friend.
a lot of dads are idiots like that, they always jump to conclusions about guys. he may not feel like he knows you well or something, it may be good to let him see the good side of you?

out of curiosity why is he so against you and not any other guy?

just try and be friends, i'm sure she really cares for you too, just stay patient coz if the relationship meant something it will pursue, if it didn't then i'm sorry - you will meet someone a lot more worth it, i promise.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

Well our families are pretty good friends.. well her dad and my mum. But on my dad's side, something happend ages ago between her aunt and my uncle. This happend behind her dad's back and he didn't like it at all, and he probably feels the same thing is happening to his daughter. I know you might say if she loved me enough, she should at least try, but her dad is a pretty scary guy. I'm crazy about her, but her dad refuses to see that and thinks it's a revenge plot by my family. I really hate this crazy life :frown:

Reply 4

Zafda

8

Anonymous

Well our families are pretty good friends.. well her dad and my mum. But on my dad's side, something happend ages ago between her aunt and my uncle. This happend behind her dad's back and he didn't like it at all, and he probably feels the same thing is happening to his daughter. I know you might say if she loved me enough, she should at least try, but her dad is a pretty scary guy. I'm crazy about her, but her dad refuses to see that and thinks it's a revenge plot by my family. I really hate this crazy life :frown:

ah.
that is pretty shoddy, i hate it when families have disputes and its always taken out onto the next generation.
all i can say is just hang in there, don't give up but don't push it, either way it'd cause you a lot of hurt, so yeah just try and still be good friends with her, go out with her every now and then, i dunno if you could but try and talk to her dad in a man-to-man way, its hard to explain how you could do that, but do you ever get into situations where its just you two?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Nah not really. If me and her dad ever do meet, it's usually at family gatherings and stuff, where were surrounded by loads of family members etc. The wierd thing is, he doesn't want me to act wierd around him, just act if nothing was wrong??!! My 'gf' told me to wait for about a year, until she reaches uni and then she would be out of his control. But how long can she resist the temptation of other guys??

Reply 6

hitmanuk2k

How old are you? There probably ain't a lot you can do if you're under 16.

Reply 7

Zafda

8

A YEAR?
at uni she's bound to meet other guys, very few old relationships last beyond the start of uni, freshers week - lovers week. i know its gunna sound harsh but you know how in some relationships one person likes the other a lot more, i think you have a lot more affection for her than what she does. that isn't a bad thing, i think thats really nice, but if shes really like that then i dunno, i think someone else may deserve your love.

Reply 8

Sithius

16

=/

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

I'm 18 and she's 17. I just don't think I can let go that easily. We were going sooo well :frown:

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Reply 10

username47781

20

Zafda

A YEAR?
at uni she's bound to meet other guys, very few old relationships last beyond the start of uni, freshers week - lovers week. i know its gunna sound harsh but you know how in some relationships one person likes the other a lot more, i think you have a lot more affection for her than what she does. that isn't a bad thing, i think thats really nice, but if shes really like that then i dunno, i think someone else may deserve your love.

Not everyone is like that at university

Reply 11

Zafda

8

Carl1982

Not everyone is like that at university

true, but it is likely though.

Reply 12

Zafda

8

Anonymous

I'm 18 and she's 17. I just don't think I can let go that easily. We were going sooo well :frown:

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i know =[ its poo, its always hard to let go, i'm not advising you to let go, thats never easy, is she prepared to still be good friends with you?

Reply 13

username47781

20

Zafda

true, but it is likely though.

yeah maybe lots of people do but not everyone, and i sure ain't one of them neither was my girlfriend

Reply 14

Zafda

8

sorry! i wasn't trying to make a personal attack.
its just that pretty much everyone i know that#ve gone on to uni said that.
apologies once again, i won't generalise like that!

Reply 15

username47781

20

Zafda

sorry! i wasn't trying to make a personal attack.
its just that pretty much everyone i know that#ve gone on to uni said that.
apologies once again, i won't generalise like that!

thats ok and its true i know lots who have cheated as well, but i don't agree with cheating at all.

Reply 16

Anonymous #2

get rid of her dad...

Reply 17

bunthulhu

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Zafda

A YEAR?
at uni she's bound to meet other guys, very few old relationships last beyond the start of uni, freshers week - lovers week. i know its gunna sound harsh but you know how in some relationships one person likes the other a lot more, i think you have a lot more affection for her than what she does. that isn't a bad thing, i think thats really nice, but if shes really like that then i dunno, i think someone else may deserve your love.