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is this bullying?
well right from yr7 to now (end of GCSES) most of the girls in my form in particular 3 of them have been not so nice to me. they have
-made fun of how i looked and talked
-called me names
-try to embarrase me in front the class
-take advantage of me at the expense of me making a fool of myself
-try to get me upset
-left me out of discussions.
ive even cried in front of them before which wasnt really a good thing to do, but when i got to yr 10/11 i realised not to let them see im upset and it worked but inside im still upset i just dont let them see it. but because of what they did, i was reduced to the point where i was frightened to even enter my form room.
but i am an easy target i suppose..
i have a hearing problem which makes me quite shy when talking to people and so i dont stand up for myself. they know i dont and cant stand up for myself.
they think im a boring loser with no life but i do have friends they just dont see them.
coincidentally everytime i bump into them in town im by myself
yesterday i bumped into them in town and well i said hello, but this wave of fear came across me and i stupidly hid behind a shelf but they saw me and smirked and laughed, although one looked like she was embarased to even be seen with me.
on msn they would pretend to be someone else and try to get me to fall in love with said person and get me to tell them stuff etc....but i knew it was them.
is this bullying? im going into the 6th form in sept and im glad i wont be in their form anymore but still i wil see them a lot, they could be in some of my lessons and well im a bit worried..
-made fun of how i looked and talked
-called me names
-try to embarrase me in front the class
-take advantage of me at the expense of me making a fool of myself
-try to get me upset
-left me out of discussions.
ive even cried in front of them before which wasnt really a good thing to do, but when i got to yr 10/11 i realised not to let them see im upset and it worked but inside im still upset i just dont let them see it. but because of what they did, i was reduced to the point where i was frightened to even enter my form room.
but i am an easy target i suppose..
i have a hearing problem which makes me quite shy when talking to people and so i dont stand up for myself. they know i dont and cant stand up for myself.
they think im a boring loser with no life but i do have friends they just dont see them.
coincidentally everytime i bump into them in town im by myself
yesterday i bumped into them in town and well i said hello, but this wave of fear came across me and i stupidly hid behind a shelf but they saw me and smirked and laughed, although one looked like she was embarased to even be seen with me.
on msn they would pretend to be someone else and try to get me to fall in love with said person and get me to tell them stuff etc....but i knew it was them.
is this bullying? im going into the 6th form in sept and im glad i wont be in their form anymore but still i wil see them a lot, they could be in some of my lessons and well im a bit worried..
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fight fire with fire
get them back by doing reaaly snide things e.g. hiding their things
but stop when they stop or youll be as bad as them
get them back by doing reaaly snide things e.g. hiding their things
but stop when they stop or youll be as bad as them
what can i do? im rather frightened of them...i really ashamed to be feelings like this. is it worth telling a teacher if it continues. i feel like what they have done isnt really anything.
dont tell a teacher !! thats like giving them the white flag, and is only going to make them more angry and bully you even worse
people like these bullies do it because they get a reaction from you.be that crying or hiding behind a shelf. they set out to upset you and arnt satisfied until they see you upset. because you show that you are upset they feel satisfied and will do it again and again. untill you break that cycle by showing that you're not upset (even if you are, hide it).
they will then see it as a waste of time, and will stop.
all you haveto do is let them know thattheir actions do not affect you at all, and you have the ability to brush it off at any time.
then they would have lost because they think you're not upset.
geddit ?
people like these bullies do it because they get a reaction from you.be that crying or hiding behind a shelf. they set out to upset you and arnt satisfied until they see you upset. because you show that you are upset they feel satisfied and will do it again and again. untill you break that cycle by showing that you're not upset (even if you are, hide it).
they will then see it as a waste of time, and will stop.
all you haveto do is let them know thattheir actions do not affect you at all, and you have the ability to brush it off at any time.
then they would have lost because they think you're not upset.
geddit ?
Any bullying I received, If told a teacher it stopped. I even got into 2/3 fights at school and didn't get in trouble for any of them as the teachers new I wouldn't start fights, and that, at school anyway, I wasn't an aggressive person, but a little shy.
unfortunatly that is bullying.
i got a lot of bullying through high school, at times it was worse than others but i just thought that i was better than them, coz i was.. and it proves it now because i'm in a place where i'm applying to uni, they're not even in college!
often they'll bully you because they're jealous of you being smart? that usually is the case, there are hardly any people that bully you for the fun of it, thats just a pretty ladish thing to do.
as for 6th form, trust me you'll love it. if they're that bad they may not even get in, but even if they do, they and you'll be wrapped up in your own worlds hopefully it'll never get to thebullying stage again.
i remember the girl who hated me and tried slating everything i did apologised to me in year 11, it was a bit like ;O wow, but yeah.. i moved on to a different school and alls been good since.
dont get put down by it! speak to teachers, i gave up being scared of what the bullies would do to me, i was like.. feck it i'm trying my best in school and i don't want people to affect me. teachers do help & you get preference by them ;P which is also good.
i got a lot of bullying through high school, at times it was worse than others but i just thought that i was better than them, coz i was.. and it proves it now because i'm in a place where i'm applying to uni, they're not even in college!
often they'll bully you because they're jealous of you being smart? that usually is the case, there are hardly any people that bully you for the fun of it, thats just a pretty ladish thing to do.
as for 6th form, trust me you'll love it. if they're that bad they may not even get in, but even if they do, they and you'll be wrapped up in your own worlds hopefully it'll never get to thebullying stage again.
i remember the girl who hated me and tried slating everything i did apologised to me in year 11, it was a bit like ;O wow, but yeah.. i moved on to a different school and alls been good since.
dont get put down by it! speak to teachers, i gave up being scared of what the bullies would do to me, i was like.. feck it i'm trying my best in school and i don't want people to affect me. teachers do help & you get preference by them ;P which is also good.
assuming i tell a teacher, does it matter which teacher i tell? even ones that dont teach me but still know me well?
In 6th form people generally chill out a bit and are more open to what others are like. At least that is how it is in my school... the other day I saw this boy in town who used to bully me and he ASKED FOR MY NUMBER!!!
I guess what I'm trying to say is that, one day they WILL regret what they have done and be ashamed of their behaviour!
good luck xx
I guess what I'm trying to say is that, one day they WILL regret what they have done and be ashamed of their behaviour!
good luck xxZafda
unfortunatly that is bullying.
i got a lot of bullying through high school, at times it was worse than others but i just thought that i was better than them, coz i was.. and it proves it now because i'm in a place where i'm applying to uni, they're not even in college!
often they'll bully you because they're jealous of you being smart? that usually is the case, there are hardly any people that bully you for the fun of it, thats just a pretty ladish thing to do.
as for 6th form, trust me you'll love it. if they're that bad they may not even get in, but even if they do, they and you'll be wrapped up in your own worlds hopefully it'll never get to thebullying stage again.
i remember the girl who hated me and tried slating everything i did apologised to me in year 11, it was a bit like ;O wow, but yeah.. i moved on to a different school and alls been good since.
dont get put down by it! speak to teachers, i gave up being scared of what the bullies would do to me, i was like.. feck it i'm trying my best in school and i don't want people to affect me. teachers do help & you get preference by them ;P which is also good.
i got a lot of bullying through high school, at times it was worse than others but i just thought that i was better than them, coz i was.. and it proves it now because i'm in a place where i'm applying to uni, they're not even in college!
often they'll bully you because they're jealous of you being smart? that usually is the case, there are hardly any people that bully you for the fun of it, thats just a pretty ladish thing to do.
as for 6th form, trust me you'll love it. if they're that bad they may not even get in, but even if they do, they and you'll be wrapped up in your own worlds hopefully it'll never get to thebullying stage again.
i remember the girl who hated me and tried slating everything i did apologised to me in year 11, it was a bit like ;O wow, but yeah.. i moved on to a different school and alls been good since.
dont get put down by it! speak to teachers, i gave up being scared of what the bullies would do to me, i was like.. feck it i'm trying my best in school and i don't want people to affect me. teachers do help & you get preference by them ;P which is also good.
My dad never went to uni. Are you better than him? Though I agree you are better than the bullies.
matt@internet
My dad never went to uni. Are you better than him? Though I agree you are better than the bullies.
oh its not a personal attack, sorry if you got it that way.
i have nothing against people who decide college isn't for them, its just they always thought they were amazing, abused anyone that worked just the slightest bit hard, because they thought they'd do well without working or even turning up to school.
sorry for saying that =[
Zafda
oh its not a personal attack, sorry if you got it that way.
i have nothing against people who decide college isn't for them, its just they always thought they were amazing, abused anyone that worked just the slightest bit hard, because they thought they'd do well without working or even turning up to school.
sorry for saying that =[
i have nothing against people who decide college isn't for them, its just they always thought they were amazing, abused anyone that worked just the slightest bit hard, because they thought they'd do well without working or even turning up to school.
sorry for saying that =[
S'alright
. My dad couldn't go to uni because he wasn't bright enough 'academically'. He did something I consider equally as good, but it's ok if other people don't.Anyway, I just see it here and there, the idea, that "if you don't go to college and uni that you are not as good as me" mentality, and it gets on my nerves, espaecially as I'm struggling to go to uni.
I just thought mabye you were one of those people. Glad I was wrong
matt@internet
S'alright . My dad couldn't go to uni because he wasn't bright enough 'academically'. He did something I consider equally as good, but it's ok if other people don't.
Anyway, I just see it here and there, the idea, that "if you don't go to college and uni that you are not as good as me" mentality, and it gets on my nerves, espaecially as I'm struggling to go to uni.
I just thought mabye you were one of those people. Glad I was wrong
. My dad couldn't go to uni because he wasn't bright enough 'academically'. He did something I consider equally as good, but it's ok if other people don't.Anyway, I just see it here and there, the idea, that "if you don't go to college and uni that you are not as good as me" mentality, and it gets on my nerves, espaecially as I'm struggling to go to uni.
I just thought mabye you were one of those people. Glad I was wrong
My father was in borstal and only got one GCSE. Now he owns his own business and before that has been the managing director of a trans-national corporation.
Academic achievement isn't everything, which a few people on TSR need to realise!
Bubblebee
My father was in borstal and only got one GCSE. Now he owns his own business and before that has been the managing director of a trans-national corporation.
Academic achievement isn't everything, which a few people on TSR need to realise!
Academic achievement isn't everything, which a few people on TSR need to realise!
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?Glory
yeh, sounds like what i went through when i was at high school. Although i see them now, 7 years on working in supermarkets and in dead end jobs. And im earning more than them now. What goes around comes around.
good for you!! To the OP: it IS bullying and it's not easy to deal with. People often post advice such as "tell somebody" or "stand up to them" but it's hard, I imagine. I can't offer any such advice as i have (thankfully) never been bullied. What I can say however, is don't let these scum (because that's what they are), affect you, your studies or your aims.The quote up there by 'Glory' is motivation enough for you I hope that you will succeed.
yea it's bullying. I 've had similar things happen to me in the past after I fell out with one of the girls. It's humiliating and embarasing but I tended to just ignore them and get on with it. Whether this was the right thing to do I don't really know but like you I continued into sixth form and they left so it all sorted itself out.
Raz
kick him in the nuts as hard as you can. theres notthing better than giving a good kick in the nuts every once in a while. it might get you in more trouble.........but damniiit it feels good.
Oh no, you never hit a man in the dingle-dangles'. It's just not cricket
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i've found with people who make fun of me (not that i've been particularly bullied or targeted) it hepls to have a front, I call mine i'm laughing but inside i actually wanna rip your face, this shows them thai can se the funny side of what they say, this may not work because there isn't always a funny side especailly if your the target. What i would do and what my brother did which helped him is pick up some witty one-liners to throw back at them, they will be shocked cos they won't be expecting a retaliation in such a way, it is more adult and sophisticated.
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