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think mum has been thru my things...
well, title says it all.
i came home from work to find my top desk drawer half open, n the only person who could have done that is my mum, n she knows i hate it when people touch my things n she has absolutely no reason to have opened the drawer. i dont kno what she was looking for, n she didnt mention it to me. but that drawer contained some personal things, including one of my completed personal journals, with stuff i would never want her to see in it.
the thing is, i dont know if i should confront her about it, in case whatever she may have read goes public i.e. my dad gets to hear about it. she's acting perfectly normal with me, so i'm a bit uncertain as to how to go about dealing with this.
any advice from out there?
PS: she's done this b4, but last time it was when i was at a really low point in my life n she found stuff to help her understand, though i was SO mad afterwards. but now i'm happy in my situation, so it cant b worry of a relapse that may have made her go thru my stuff again...
i came home from work to find my top desk drawer half open, n the only person who could have done that is my mum, n she knows i hate it when people touch my things n she has absolutely no reason to have opened the drawer. i dont kno what she was looking for, n she didnt mention it to me. but that drawer contained some personal things, including one of my completed personal journals, with stuff i would never want her to see in it.
the thing is, i dont know if i should confront her about it, in case whatever she may have read goes public i.e. my dad gets to hear about it. she's acting perfectly normal with me, so i'm a bit uncertain as to how to go about dealing with this.
any advice from out there?
PS: she's done this b4, but last time it was when i was at a really low point in my life n she found stuff to help her understand, though i was SO mad afterwards. but now i'm happy in my situation, so it cant b worry of a relapse that may have made her go thru my stuff again...
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I hate it when my mum does this...
I either,
1> Go through her stuff see how she likes it
2>Temper Tantrum to rival bb's Nikki
3>Don't eat or at least not infront of her...
That sorts her out for a while!
I either,
1> Go through her stuff see how she likes it
2>Temper Tantrum to rival bb's Nikki
3>Don't eat or at least not infront of her...
That sorts her out for a while!
vector771
What's she likely to have seen that's so bad? Might be an idea just to let it go and invest in something that you can lock up personal items in.
i'm not allowed a bf, n, well, everything's in there abt him. i'm going 2 have 2 stop writing now n dump what i have, but if she's already seen it, she may b bidding her time to drop the bombshell
why aren't you allowed a b/f?
my mum wld never go thru my stuff, that's a total lack of privacy! she always knocks on my door and makes sure it's ok to come in as well. i wouldnt really want to go thru her stuff because if theres anything there i wldnt want to find then, id really rather not find it! Im sure it's the same for her. If she is worried about me or something then she'd ask me, rather than invade my privacy, cos she knows that wld just make me angry and drive me further away than trying to talk to me. Obviously your mum has trust issues and perhaps you should sort this out with her? Maybe she's worried about you, but i dont think she shld just go thru your things. Maybe she didnt read anything, but i think you should ask anyway and just point out your stuff is private etc...
well you should tell her that you should be aloud some privacy and youre realy upset that shes done it, make her feel bad, mope around her for a few days and dont speak to her.
good ways of seeing if someones been through your stuff, take a picture of things and then compare when you return to see if things have moved. take a hair and attach it across the edge of the drawer, if the drawer is opened the hair will break
good ways of seeing if someones been through your stuff, take a picture of things and then compare when you return to see if things have moved. take a hair and attach it across the edge of the drawer, if the drawer is opened the hair will break
My mum goes thru all my stuff, always. Thing is, as long as u live in her house you cant do anything about it. You basically have two options - accept it or move out, personally i am going with the cheaper option and staying put, but i no longer keep a diary, have disposed off all my old ones, and i almost expect her to go through my mail/email so keep anything i dont want her to know restricted to actual conversation. Sucks, but you will be out of there eventually and can enjoy all the privacy you want!
think positive - maybe, because she's not acting any different, she hasn't seen anything. If my mum saw something like that, she would definately act different, and I'd just know something was up.
My mu just checked my emails!! Rude.. fortunately msn or the student room wasn't on! grr..
Argh. My mum used to do that all the freaking time. I would be downstairs watching TV and actually hear her going through my stuff. I had to find some pretty good hiding places. I suggest: The underneath of drawers - you can make like a little pocket to hold things, down the back of a chest of drawers - below the bottom one, cut a block out of the middle of some pages of the most boring book you have and hide stuff in there, if there are old boxes/cupboards, wrap stuff in clothes (ie vodka bottles) and stuff them down at the bottom, old computer boxes (like graphics cards) that she won't understand are good for hiding stuff, just make sure you put it underneath the cardboard inside.
She'll grow out of it.
She'll grow out of it.
I really cant believe all your mums go through your things! It just seems so out of order to me...
Omg how rude! Tell her to mind her own business, it doesn't sound like she's trying to help you.
The thing that really pisses me off is when my mum opens my mail, or reads my texts. If Im expecting mail, I get up early especially so I can get it without her opening it. I read her texts to get her back once, but believe me, i regret doing that after what I found....... 
At least I have some dirt against my parents now , for when they really piss me off.
At least I have some dirt against my parents now , for when they really piss me off.
so_this_is_sam
I really cant believe all your mums go through your things! It just seems so out of order to me...
my mum would never have such a lack of respect! 
maybe i am just naive and don't want to believe my mum would do that...but she just wouldn't
she knows i have nothing to hide, and she always asks before she comes in etc.My mum listens to my brother's and (probably) my telephone conversations by pressing her ear against the wall of the room next door. She goes through our stuff too - letters, cards and what not. I think the best thing to do is to buy a padlock really, 'cos no matter how inventive a place you find to hide things there is a chance that someone will come across it accidentally, and it is hard to resist curiosity if someone has taken care to hide something, I suppose.
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