Afraid of the future

Me and my gf are in a great relationship and we have been together for a year. We are still crazy about each other.

I know im inlove and im with the only girl that means something to me. We share every thing together, we talk about every thing together, we cant live with out each other. I am 17 years old and we are both just so right for each other.

I read the threads about how relationships tend to low, but i know with this girl i could never stop this feeling. I am as close to her as i ever could be with some one, I love her more than anything in the world and would do anything for her. I m afriad of what the future has to come.

I am very over protective with and gets very jelous, i cant help it. She is the same with me. She goes Uni next year in my home town (Which is good)

I know as time goes guys will try it cause she is such an amazing and attractive girl, this what scares me the most. I know my jelous will be of the roof, Cause i cant control my over protectiveness over her. And possibly her feelings could while meeting other guys, clubs, etc and that sort of stuff.

I dont know what im trying to get across here.

To be honest if i ever split with my gf i would seriously end my life. I cant see a future with out her.

The more i think about the future the more im scared to be inlove. I could never love another person as much as i love my gf now. If i was ever to be heartbroken i couldnt take the pain of going through another relationship. I could just cry thinking about it. I dont want to be with out her.

Firstly, how long have you been with this girl?

I felt that way about my bf too until he broke up with me just to get back together with me. I did actually go through a short phase of "I don't care if this car runs over me". But that's stupid. It is stupid to die over some guy, or some girl, in your case. I know she's not just "some girl" - but I'm just trying to put things in perspective.

Another thing to think about - you two should NOT constantly be jealous! Why should you be jealous? Don't you trust her? Doesn't she trust you? So why are you jealous? I think this is an issue you've overlooked. Over-protectiveness is NOT a good thing. Protectiveness is, overly so, no. What then are you gonna do when your gf makes guy-friends? Get jealous every time she hangs out with them and make yourself insecure? You gonna ban her from having guy-friends or are you gonna freak yourself out every night she goes out with them? A healthy relationship should NOT be like this. Don't be so blinded by your emotions and think logically - a healthy relationship should build each other up in trust and in safety - it should not make you insecure and why be so very jealous if you're not insecure, if you do trust her?

Now my final point - say you sort out your jealousy issues and you still realise you can't live without her. Start talking about marriage then. Find out if you two are right for each other for life and not just for as long as you're 17 and relatively immature (I'm not calling you immature, I'm just saying the maturity of a 17-year-old is very limited). And then if you're sure, though you are still young, ever thought of proposing to her? You never want to lose her - so I shall take it you wanna grow old and die with her. So ask her to marry you. Then you won't have to worry about losing her.

You seem really experienced in this kind of stuff.

Just been thinking of this stuff of late, so yeh

wow there are some cynics in this forum

Firstly, how long have you been with this girl?

I felt that way about my bf too until he broke up with me just to get back together with me. I did actually go through a short phase of "I don't care if this car runs over me". But that's stupid. It is stupid to die over some guy, or some girl, in your case. I know she's not just "some girl" - but I'm just trying to put things in perspective.

Another thing to think about - you two should NOT constantly be jealous! Why should you be jealous? Don't you trust her? Doesn't she trust you? So why are you jealous? I think this is an issue you've overlooked. Over-protectiveness is NOT a good thing. Protectiveness is, overly so, no. What then are you gonna do when your gf makes guy-friends? Get jealous every time she hangs out with them and make yourself insecure? You gonna ban her from having guy-friends or are you gonna freak yourself out every night she goes out with them? A healthy relationship should NOT be like this. Don't be so blinded by your emotions and think logically - a healthy relationship should build each other up in trust and in safety - it should not make you insecure and why be so very jealous if you're not insecure, if you do trust her?

Now my final point - say you sort out your jealousy issues and you still realise you can't live without her. Start talking about marriage then. Find out if you two are right for each other for life and not just for as long as you're 17 and relatively immature (I'm not calling you immature, I'm just saying the maturity of a 17-year-old is very limited). And then if you're sure, though you are still young, ever thought of proposing to her? You never want to lose her - so I shall take it you wanna grow old and die with her. So ask her to marry you. Then you won't have to worry about losing her.

Thanks for the advice that was great! I know my jelous is bad and i do trust her 100% Its really nothing to do with that its just i dont trust the surrounding. Like reading loads of threads about how relationships tend to die out eventually or how your gf cheats on you and stuff like this. I know i should losen up . We have been together a year and she has changed me completely in such a good way and i thank her for that. I not as clingly as you think, shes more of the clingy 1 but i love it. Im just afraid how it will all turn out at the end. Is it just young love? Is it just first love? I want her to be the 1 i grow old with and have chilidren with , We always talking about this sort of stuff. But then again were only 17 i could carry my whole life with her and she probly could as well. But she starts Uni next year, i hear so many stories about how relationships dont last and how indviduals can change completely when going to uni.

To understand her is to understand me,
Just look at my life, and its her you'll see

Cause thats how close we are.

She talks with me
She walks with me
She's holding me
And yes, shes teaching me
Everything i can't do
Everything i can't say
She does for me
She prays with me
She cries with me
She's loving me
Nothing could compare to the love we share
So that woman and man
Who understands
You can say:

Heart to heart
Breath to breath
She fills me up til there ain't none left
No space, no time
Her spirits my mind
You see, that's how close we are

try talking to her about all of that. she will be able to reasure you better than anyone on the internet can.