ahah strange situation

ahh so this is quite weird, basically im one of those ppl that grew into their looks if you like, but ive always been shy.

anyway when i was not really looked at in the physical way i used to get more girls!! this is because i suppose they didnt expect much from me, but then they realised im a nice guy after talking to me for a while resulting in them usually asking me out. although my looks have changed im still the same guy so now when girls approach me because of my looks they chat to me for a bit but because im shy i dont really say much until ive known them for a bit, so they end up going away either thinking im im arrogant or too quiet i guess.

i suppose there is no real question in this thread, just do people think of my situation?

thanks!

Reply 1

so_this_is_sam

I guess a lot of girls take your shyness as rejection? But the ones worth bothering about would get to know you and realise that you're just shy. Dont worry about it, just be yourself. But honestly, there isnt much reason to be shy around us girls, we're quite harmless.... :smile:

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

Girls approach YOU cos they think you're such a hottie. Congratulations, welcome to about 1% of the male population. Now stop bitching and do something about your totally random advantage

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

cheers for ur replies guys, will try not 2 be as shy lol

Reply 4

Anthony Arundel

so_this_is_sam

there isnt much reason to be shy around us girls, we're quite harmless.... :smile:

Ha, you're not fooling anyone. You're not harmless. You are a bunch of Psirens! :p:

Besides, OP, shyness can be a positive quality. To many people it can disable the early parts of getting to know someone - that is, making all banal varieties of small talk - but I think a lot of people prefer shyness over brash and off-putting confidence. Extroverts can be fun, but many of them can also happen to be in-your-face and, ultimately, quite boring. Many of the introverts, on the other hand, often prove to be genuine and interesting. Just like you said of yourself, I suppose (I'll take your word for it :smile:

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I'm not sure why you wonder if girls see you as arrogant; shyness tends to go side by side with modesty.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

lol thanks but lets reverse the situation, you approach a girl and she doesnt really talk to you, what would you think?

Reply 6

Anonymous #2

BITCH! Let's kidnap her.

Reply 7

Anonymous #2

Har Har, Only kidding :biggrin:

lol

I happen to find reserved guys rather intriguing lol :biggrin:

Well, you just gotta meet the right girl, I suppose. No reason and no need at worrying about it or thinking of changing yourself. Whatever girl you go with needs to like/love you for who you are and that includes the shyness and quietness.

My bf was shy and quiet too and I thought he was boring, quiet and uninteresting. Lukcily I had a perceptive friend who decided there must be a random side to him and insisted on getting to know him. No one ever managed to dig that random side out of him but I know how random he can really be :biggrin: