Just wondering...

I met this guy, we got closer, i thought we were going to end up going out. He then told me he wasn't good with relationships, its bad timing etc so we agreed to just be friends, at least for now, but I took this to mean he wasn't really that interested or he would have made more effort. I was disappointed as I was really starting to like him as I got to know him but not heart broken as I hadn't completely fallen for him yet. Now we speak once or twice a week on MSN. Most of the convo is just normal chat but he keeps asking me about my love life. Why does he do that? Its only been a few weeks since we agreed to be friends. I think he felt guilty that he might have hurt me so could this be his way of trying to feel less guilty (ie if I'm seeing someone else)? Or does it mean he might still like me? I just find it weird cos I'd never dream of asking him about his love life straight out like that!

Reply 1

username47781

20

maybe go out and have a drink and socialise a bit and get to know him more you never know the friendship could grow.

Reply 2

-- Dan --

6

He's probably still interesred.

Reply 3

Profesh

20

It's sheer compunction. Trust me; once you appear to have 'moved on', he'll cease asking.

However, should he persist irrespective, the prevailing likelihood will then be that he remains genuinely 'interested'; unfortunately, said eventuality would seem to place you in somewhat of a Catch-22 predicament.

Wait and see.

Reply 4

Anonymous #2

i would take tht to mean, he doesnt want a relationship, but he likes you and prob wants to do stuff with you but just not have that gf bf thing.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Profesh

It's sheer compunction. Trust me; once you appear to have 'moved on', he'll cease asking.

However, should he persist irrespective, the prevailing likelihood will then be that he remains genuinely 'interested'; unfortunately, said eventuality would seem to place you in somewhat of a Catch-22 predicament.

Wait and see.

Yeah I'm gonna have to wait. Thing is I wouldn't really want to tell him if I did have any love life to speak of. But quite what he thinks is gonna happen in a week! Its just bloody annoying cos I think I could really fall for this guy but I haven't yet. So I was all convinced he wasn't interested & I was ok with that. But now I don't know! Maybe he's just nosy! Guess I'll just have to wait til I go back to uni...

Reply 6

Anonymous #3

This happened to me before - I asked a guy out and he told me it was the wrong time and he was scared that he would hurt me (which at the time I thought was just a cop-out excuse). But I still remained really good friends with him and talked just like we used to, on msn, at college and stuff. About two weeks after I asked him out (once it had stopped being awkward between us) he started being really friendly again and acting as thought he liked me again (cos he used to act like the before I asked him out). And eventually, about 3 months later, he asked me out, and we are still together 6 months later.
So it may be that this guy has realised he made a mistake. Or it could be that he just doesn't want you two to lose the friendship that you had before. I would say ask him, but that could just make things even more awkward, so maybe just leave it and see what happens, like I did.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

Thanks, that does make some sense. It was kinda odd how he left it, he basically said he wasn't good with relationships and didn't have much time over the summer but then kind of left the decision up to me. Problem is I don't know how much I will see him when I go back to uni cos I met him thru a friend of a friend sort of thing! But hopefully I will still see him & then I guess I'll just have to se what happens!

Just wondering...

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