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Maybe you and your mates are just drifting apart and as hard as you try to pull it all in together again it won't work... it's sad but a fact of life, friendships have an average life expectancy of five years 
I'm sure though that you will meet new people who aren't gonna take your friendship for granted.
I'm sure though that you will meet new people who aren't gonna take your friendship for granted.
Carl
I'm sure your friends find you super organized and probably the one with all the ideas. They just sit back and let you get on with it. Just mention to one or two of them that you get the impression you're doing all the work. I'm sure it's not deliberate on their part.
yep i agree, try talking to them they may not realise that this is happening.
Bubblebee
Maybe you and your mates are just drifting apart and as hard as you try to pull it all in together again it won't work... it's sad but a fact of life, friendships have an average life expectancy of five years
I'm sure though that you will meet new people who aren't gonna take your friendship for granted.
I'm sure though that you will meet new people who aren't gonna take your friendship for granted.
I think its always been like this though but ive never really noticed or it didnt used to bother me.
Reply 5
I seem to organise most things that go on in my group of friends but we don't seem to do too much at the moment because of holidays and the fact that I probably won't see them much anymore.
I wouldn't worry too much - they probably do appreciate it but don't show it. I organised a holiday for my friends which was quite a lot of hassle and 2/6 thanked me - 1 of the 2 even got me some chocolates to say thanks
They probably just need a shove up the arse to say thanks every now and again.
I wouldn't worry too much - they probably do appreciate it but don't show it. I organised a holiday for my friends which was quite a lot of hassle and 2/6 thanked me - 1 of the 2 even got me some chocolates to say thanks
They probably just need a shove up the arse to say thanks every now and again.
Reply 6
Especially if it's always been like this, they probably just don't realise - in our group of friends, one girl's similarly always been the one with the ideas who does all the initiating, and always organised things like outings & birthdays etc. If you just mention it to a few of your friends, they probably haven't realised that it's been bothering you - we always assumed our friend enjoyed it (and I think she did previously, until this year or so) and was good at it, so we let her do it and none of us bothered to do much organising, until we found out she felt like she was always doing the work - now we all organise & come up with things no problem.
People just take on roles in groups, based on personalities. It happens everywhere, it's not really a conscious or deliberate thing. Get 5 strangers together and give them a task and some will be leaders, some will be followers, some will sit back, some will get stuck in, it just happens and you seem to be a 'leader'. At times I am too, it doesn't really bother me. I guess you could just stop suggesting things and see what happens?
Reply 8
maybe they don't like you.
Reply 10
birdth
Very much similar to you also they never ring me unless i ring them i mean how rude. Mine deffo do like me I think.
Wouldn't worry about it i NEVER ring up my friends, not coz i don't like them or anything but just coz I'm lazy lol I'm surprised they even bother sometimes.
Reply 11
Don't worry...this happens in all relationships bf/gf or among friends...the only advice i have is try to do your part, and see if they reciprocate. if they don't then dont dwell on it. I know some of you may think that you're not supposed to be so calculative on eevery single thing you do in a relationship, but i believe in relationship its a 2 way constructive process, and 'contributions' shall we say is required from both persons.
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