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Being attracted to schoolgirls...

OK, before I get lambasted, I've not done anything.

However, when I do see one or drive past I can't help but think some are actually quite fit.

They are I guess, between 13 to 15.

Is this normal?

I'm 23, will this lead to something sooner or later?

I don't want to feel these thoughts, but I can't help it.

I'm not saying I'll do anything, but just wondering about being attracted to school girls and if this is potentially a massive problem?

I'm actually quite a normal, lovable bloke, irl.

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Reply 1

meenu89

Original post by The Entity

I'm saying I'll do anything, but just wondering about being attracted to school girls.

I think you might want to correct this part of your post... Although I think this thread maybe deleted.
I'm sorry but as a soon to be mum this sicken me.

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Reply 2

The Entity

Ffs, I meant not.

Genuinely, looking for advice btw.

Hope this doesn't get deleted.

Reply 3

donutaud15

You'll have to control yourself to not actually do anything. it won't go well if you do something about it. maybe speak to a counsellor about the attraction, see if counselling may help.

(also agree with meenu)

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Reply 4

The Entity

Original post by meenu89

I think you might want to correct this part of your post... Although I think this thread maybe deleted.
I'm sorry but as a soon to be mum this sicken me.

I'm not talking about little kids here.

And I'm not talking about doing anything either.

I have self control and restraint.

However, just the fact I find some school girls fit, I find worrying.

Reply 5

redferry

Face it, you have peadophilic desires. Do not act on them!!!

Reply 6

FedUpCitizen

Original post by The Entity

I'm not talking about little kids here.

And I'm not talking about doing anything either.

I have self control and restraint.

However, just the fact I find some school girls fit, I find worrying.

I am asexual so I don't have that problem

Reply 7

jama mj

i would say its a bit worrying, you don't seem to be doing it on purpose like hanging around school's that would be a huge, flaming red flag but i would suggest maybe looking up a councellor in your local area online. you sound like you can keep it together i think it would be a good idea to just take another route, it could lead to some trouble down the line for you. seriously you don't want this to escalate further. get help asap and stay as far as possible from those schools.

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Reply 8

pane123

Some 15 year old girls would be able to get into nightclubs, so I don't think there is much wrong with being attracted to a girl who looks 5 years younger than you. Acting upon that attraction is a different story, of course.

13, however, is pushing it. I would be able to tell you if one 13 year old was better looking than another, but I'd be slightly worried if I felt any sort of attraction to them.

Reply 9

arson_fire

They`re beyond puberty and physically very similar to fully-grown adults so a degree of attraction is not unreasonable - especially if you`re only a couple of years older. The problem starts if you begin to have a preference and think it`s ok to hit on them. Try googling ephebophilia.

Reply 10

gr8wizard10

Well.. they have boobs & a bum, it's not unnatural to have some sort of sexual attraction. If they haven't passed puberty yet, it may be a little weird.

Reply 11

German123

Original post by The Entity

This is something that shouldnot be over looked as this could lead to something serious. Get your mind of that think of something else Why not be attracted to your age mates.

Reply 12

benh84

I don't think it's anything to really worry about tbh. These aren't very young kids we are talking about here.

Looking at evolutionary instincts or human instincts, the girls you are thinking this about are more than likely fertile. (Which makes it entirely natural that you notice them.) Yes they may be wearing a school uniform, however, if it was a Saturday and you saw one of them in town in regular clothes, you would have still noticed her and had the same thoughts, perhaps not knowing that she was a school girl.

The big thing you need to see here is that in current society have labeled this as being wrong and I'd say that it is also wrong too because the girls aren't developed emotionally until they are older, say 18 - 21! (I've known girls older than this who still aren't emotionally stable, you can't easily tell.)

I'm sure most men would not admit this! However, provided your thoughts AREN'T turning to young kids or are sexually explicit, there's nothing to worry about, it's just human instinct. That DOESN'T mean you should act on it!

My overall advice is to steer clear of interactions with these younger girls. By the fact you are posting this here, I can see that it bothers you, which tells me that you should be able to control this anyway!

Good luck and if anything changes for the worse, seek guidance from a counselor.

By the way, all this crap about them being paedophilic thoughts, ignore it! Some people spout big words without knowing the full meaning. A paedophile is someone who acts on their instincts with young children (whether that's physically or collecting porn.) Just thinking a pubescant female is fit (and she probably looks older than 16 anyway because girls do generally look older), does not make you a paedophile!

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Reply 13

GenialGermanGent

Respect for not posting this anonymously.

Reply 14

The Entity

Original post by German123

This is something that shouldnot be over looked as this could lead to something serious. Get your mind of that think of something else Why not be attracted to your age mates.

I'm not saying I'm not attracted to women of above age, of course I am.

I was in a relationship for 19 months between 2012-2013.

Reply 15

Reue

Moved to Relationships forum. Please keep discussion on-topic and do not post offensive replies.

Reply 16

The Entity

Original post by benh84

Tbh, in my eyes your post is spot on.

However, I get the feeling my thoughts are frowned upon.

I've dealt with this for a few years, tbh.

Hard to explain, but I feel that something is wrong with me?

I'm sure there isn't, because I'm genuinely a normal bloke.

Reply 17

Plumstone

Well, when my boyfriend was your age, I was 10.... although to be fair to him, I'm pretty sure he wouldn't have fancied me back then :tongue:

Reply 18

Reue

Original post by redferry

Face it, you have peadophilic desires. Do not act on them!!!

Being attracted to 13-15 would not make someone a pedophile.

Similarly, the age of consent is 14 in a large proportion of European countries.. and was even less than that here in the UK relatively recently.