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Dog calling (male equivalent of cat calling) does happen daily
Ugh. I can't for the life of me understand why some women do this.
I, like many men, have faced and am a survivor of sexual harassment and dog calling in public spaces but the sheer mention of this is either met with one of four responses:
1) You're lying you're too ugly
2) take it as a compliment
3) Ogling and women chatting you up isn't illegal
4) If wouldn't be harassment if she was hot
The idea that all men are lying about this and you have to be a bodybuilder to face this is clearly debunked on face value and not even worthy of indulging.
The third and second are related, they are both intentionally conflating things. They assume we are over exaggerating and by harassment we mean a pick up line. A polite and socially acceptable conversation where you show interest in me is not harassment or dog calling. I was harassed at an MMA centre where a trainer kept touching me inappropriately in ways she didn't with the girls, I reported her and she was let go, making it safe for me to continue, this is what needs to happen, women need to listen instead of just tell us what we experience.
Yes, ogling at people is legal, but so is coughing in people's faces, both are extremely impolite and if you follow me that becomes stalking which isn't legal. Dog calling, harassment and ogling all act as if we are objects to be leer at and are ways of females trying to control public space, that if we enter we must be judged outwardly by them, god forbid a covert glance or socially acceptable conversation where we are treated like humans.
We're sexualised and fetishised just by walking down the street and seen as something to conquer, the sense of entitlement that the girls who do this show is unbearable. You are not entitled to somebodies time or attention.
Shouting insults is not a compliment, feeling entitled to my time is not a compliment, Staring is not a compliment, Groping on the tube is not compliment. A compliment is being treated like a person.
It wouldn't be harassment if she was hot? Stop with this myth, an attractive person can still act inappropriate, assault and harass people. People might be more willing to look past it, that doesn’t make it okay though.
If you don't want to be treated like a creep because of assumptions then call out the other women who do this and support us. Don't make contradictions.
Isn't it ironic ) that one of the primary mainsplaining "avoid your rape" tips is tantamount to "assume the worst! Always sense danger everywhere outside your tightly locked home!" But in practice, it's always, "but IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII'm different! I just want to talk and compliment you!"
I, like many men, have faced and am a survivor of sexual harassment and dog calling in public spaces but the sheer mention of this is either met with one of four responses:
1) You're lying you're too ugly
2) take it as a compliment
3) Ogling and women chatting you up isn't illegal
4) If wouldn't be harassment if she was hot
The idea that all men are lying about this and you have to be a bodybuilder to face this is clearly debunked on face value and not even worthy of indulging.
The third and second are related, they are both intentionally conflating things. They assume we are over exaggerating and by harassment we mean a pick up line. A polite and socially acceptable conversation where you show interest in me is not harassment or dog calling. I was harassed at an MMA centre where a trainer kept touching me inappropriately in ways she didn't with the girls, I reported her and she was let go, making it safe for me to continue, this is what needs to happen, women need to listen instead of just tell us what we experience.
Yes, ogling at people is legal, but so is coughing in people's faces, both are extremely impolite and if you follow me that becomes stalking which isn't legal. Dog calling, harassment and ogling all act as if we are objects to be leer at and are ways of females trying to control public space, that if we enter we must be judged outwardly by them, god forbid a covert glance or socially acceptable conversation where we are treated like humans.
We're sexualised and fetishised just by walking down the street and seen as something to conquer, the sense of entitlement that the girls who do this show is unbearable. You are not entitled to somebodies time or attention.
Shouting insults is not a compliment, feeling entitled to my time is not a compliment, Staring is not a compliment, Groping on the tube is not compliment. A compliment is being treated like a person.
It wouldn't be harassment if she was hot? Stop with this myth, an attractive person can still act inappropriate, assault and harass people. People might be more willing to look past it, that doesn’t make it okay though.
If you don't want to be treated like a creep because of assumptions then call out the other women who do this and support us. Don't make contradictions.
Isn't it ironic ) that one of the primary mainsplaining "avoid your rape" tips is tantamount to "assume the worst! Always sense danger everywhere outside your tightly locked home!" But in practice, it's always, "but IIIIIIIIIIIIIIIIII'm different! I just want to talk and compliment you!"
(edited 10 years ago)
Original post by Genocidal
Didn't read. 
Oh, if you didn't read then you wouldn't have seen what I did
Original post by The_Dragonborn
Oh, if you didn't read then you wouldn't have seen what I did
You definitely have too much time on your hands
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Original post by Wade-
It didn't take long
What you did there, I see it 
"Dog calling" 
The Dragon_Born and Queen Lupita sitting in a tree. K-I-S-S-I -N-G...
Let's face it would rather be attractive and get cat/dogcalled or would you rather be ugly and not have it happen?
Deep down I think they like it
Deep down I think they like it
U really are the bottom feeder of TSR
What if Dragonborn is Queen Lupita? :O
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I can testify , one even grabbed my ass the other day . I felt violated.
Original post by Me123456789
The Dragon_Born and Queen Lupita sitting in a tree. K-I-S-S-I -N-G...
The syllables don't really work, but good try.
Original post by Me123456789
The Dragon_Born and Queen Lupita sitting in a tree. K-I-S-S-I -N-G...
First comes love, second comes marriage and then comes a baby in a baby carriage ...
OP,
I experience 'dog-calling' pretty much everyday I'm outside and dressed reasonably nice. Not such much in the way of whistling, but I get approached by woman a lot, comments come flying my way often too.
But to everyone who asks me, I'm always lying, or "Stop dreaming".....
I experience 'dog-calling' pretty much everyday I'm outside and dressed reasonably nice. Not such much in the way of whistling, but I get approached by woman a lot, comments come flying my way often too.
But to everyone who asks me, I'm always lying, or "Stop dreaming".....
For someone who is well behind on terminology..
what is cat calling?
what is cat calling?
Maybe its cos they think you like it rufff
Original post by Genocidal
Didn't read.
Didn't ask
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