Failing second year of uni ? So upset

This is going to sound harsh, but you can't blame those things for your poor academic performance.

I commute to and from uni every day, and I could most definitely find a way to blame the commute for any poor marks I might receive, but rather than allow that to happen, I work my butt off to ensure that the commute I make each and every day is worth it.

I'm sure you must have had a say as to when your room got re-done? Surely during the academic year wasn't a great idea? If you didn't have a say, then you just have to accept it and get on with it. Sleeping downstairs shouldn't affect your grades in a way that sleeping in your room would :/.

It sounds to me like there are some deeper issues at home rather than just the commute, but no one can help you if you don't address them.

But how can it be my fault I never wanted to go the this uni, I wanted to go to Liverpool, my parents sort of tricked me and now im facing the consequences, there's always arguements too at home which makes it harder for me to work as I can hear it. No I didnt have any say in my room being they just did it and wouldn listen to me anyway.

I am trying but the circumstances are hard but I should get an extension for my assignments that will give me some breathing space. Well when I was applying I realised the commute was going to be too much so I wanted to change to my insurance choice which was Liverpool, when I was going to do that I told my parents and they were saying no it would be easier for me at home, I still wanted to go but then my parents weren't talking to me or anything they made it out as if I murdered someone, not talking to me or anything. So I thought if I move my relationship with my parents would become really bad so I go to this uni now. It was really hard as it was a big decision for me and my parents not talking to me didn't help either.

You absolutely shouldn't get an extension because your home is noisy and because you commute. Consider the students living in halls, do you think they live in a quiet environment? No.
Do they still get the work done? Yes.

As far as the university is concerned, you are an adult who chose to make the commute and therefore will be given no sympathy. I commute to uni, I also work in the evenings, then I come home after my 12 hour day to catch up with anything I may not have had time to do in the library. If you want to do well at university, you will, no matter the circumstances. Stop blaming your parents.

I'm going to ask for an extension because I have been ill with an infection which lasted a week. If it wasn't for that I would have the work done and I have also had stress related symptoms such as stomach problems that's why.

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I'm going to ask for an extension because I have been ill with an infection which lasted a week. If it wasn't for that I would have the work done and I have also had stress related symptoms such as stomach problems that's why.

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Speak to your tutor or your head and just pile on the tears, they'll extend your deadline ignore the "tough love" people are giving you in this thread they don't know your situation so they can't judge you. Not everyone is cutout for the commute every morning. I had especially annoying motion sickness so catching the bus/train to uni every morning was a big no-can-do so I moved to the city.

Good luck having a career if you can't handle not living within walking distance. You can't move house every time you get a new job, and the job market is not such that you can rely on getting a job near where you live. There are things that alleviate motion sickness.

Also, it isn't tough love, it's called being realistic and addressing the situation like an adult. If we all got poor grades whenever something rough happened then no one would ever get consistent good grades.

You don't even know the OP's situation beyond the fact that he's been displaced out of his bedroom and that his home life is chaotic due to an undisclosed reason. The extended deadline is available for students in the OP's situation so I see no harm in utilizing the system to his advantage to slow things down a bit.

It's not uncommon for students to commute two hours to university which is especially distressing if you have motion sickness I would imagine most people's work is not 2hours+ away in fact people move to be near their jobs. I'm not sure what you're getting at here and I also don't understand why you're taking this hard-line approach when the OP's circumstance screams extenuating circumstance.

You don't even know the OP's situation beyond the fact that he's been displaced out of his bedroom and that his home life is chaotic due to an undisclosed reason. The extended deadline is available for students in the OP's situation so I see no harm in utilizing the system to his advantage to slow things down a bit.

It's not uncommon for students to commute two hours to university which is especially distressing if you have motion sickness I would imagine most people's work is not 2hours+ away in fact people move to be near their jobs. I'm not sure what you're getting at here and I also don't understand why you're taking this hard-line approach when the OP's circumstance screams extenuating circumstance.

You're right, I don't know the OP's situation outside the information they have provided, hence I can't be shot down for giving what I feel is an appropriate opinion on the situation presented to me.

I have never heard of a student commuting 2+ hours each way to University (not that I'm saying it doesn't happen) and I would doubt that the OP is commuting such a long distance. It might just be ignorance here, but I would assume if the commute was that long, the OP would have mentioned that.
With regards to moving close to work, yes, many people do choose to do that, but it is entirely unrealistic to think that you can just pack up shop and move every time you get a new job. Eventually, you settle down in a home, most likely with a partner/family and when that happens, you can't just move whenever you fancy being within walking distance to work. It also isn't always possible to get a home close to your work, so there's that.

I guess we just have to agree to disagree. I don't think the OPs circumstance screams extenuating circumstance from what has been posted.
Loud family members? Sucks, but not an extenuating circumstance. Like I said, most students live in halls which are notoriously noisy, noise isn't an extenuating circumstance.

Commute? I commute to uni, so again, I don't see this as an extenuating circumstance. You either get on with it or you don't. If the commute is over 2 hours then yes, that sucks big time, but the OP mentioned that the only thing stopping them moving out was their parents. As far as I'm concerned, if you're adult enough to go to uni, you're adult enough to make your own choices regarding that and should be choosing a uni based on what is right for you.

Sleeping downstairs? Sorry, not an extenuating circumstance. Bedroom is being decorated, OP won't be sleeping downstairs forever.

Virus? Sucks to be ill. It really does, but unless you felt bad enough to see a doctor and get a medical note, then that wouldn't stand at my uni.

Stomach issues due to stress? This is the bit I have most sympathy for. I have severe anxiety and stress issues that cause me to vomit up to 15x a day when it's at it's worst (I lost a stone and a half in the 3.5 weeks of my exams last semester). I completely understand that. However, like I mentioned before, I don't see that as a reason to ask for an extension. I can't imagine anything worse than prolonging that.

I'm not purposely trying to be rude about it (although it seems like I'm being rude anyway), I just don't feel like the situation the OP has presented would allow for extenuating circumstances. My tutors would laugh you out of their office if you tried bringing some of those issues up to them. I'm trying to get the OP to realise that no matter what is going on outside of uni, you can't let it heavily affect your studies otherwise nothing would ever get done.

I'm going to commute starting September it's an hour and 30 minutes away.
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