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Rewarding myself with masturbation and porn, interfering with work and life quality

Since I was dumped I've been masturbating semi-obsessively instead of doing work. Not all day nor is it a problem every day but some days especially when I'm on the computer too much (which I've become addicted to) I struggle to stop, even when it's limp and I can't get hard anymore. I'm not trolling but I'd rather stay anon thanks.

Masturbation and the computer are some of my primary reward mechanisms and coping mechanisms in general, but they often-especially the masturbating/porn-enable me to procrastinate, get to work/lectures/outings late, stay up late and be tired in the morning (becoming more dependent on the computer) etc. It's a vicious cycle. Basically leave me home alone long enough, I will end up on porn. I'm still in bed now, it's embarrassing.

I'm also worried that this is changing my views on women for the worse, making me insecure in my body, and making my social anxiety harder to overcome.

I tried NoFap with NoPorn for Lent, and failed about Day 14.

I have anxiety, is it possible that this addictive compulsion is related to it and avoiding work/my fears?

Reply 1

Holby_fanatic

Anyway, I think the best thing to do is go cold turkey. Only go on your computer if you REALLY have to. Otherwise, turn it off. Go to the library to do work if you must.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 2

Zarek

Go for beer and sharking instead. Far more wholesome.

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

Original post by Holby_fanatic

Anyway, I think the best thing to do is go cold turkey. Only go on your computer if you REALLY have to. Otherwise, turn it off. Go to the library to do work if you must.

It's the in-between work that's also the problem. This is my primary hobby these days...

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 4

Maid Marian

Just try to distract yourself so that you don't masturbate as much.

(edited 9 years ago)

Reply 5

Georgie_M

Everyone has something which helps them to procrastinate you've just chosen masturbation.

You need to find ways of overcoming procrastination not mastrubation, IMO.

Reply 6

Treeroy

Original post by Georgie_M

Everyone has something which helps them to procrastinate you've just chosen masturbation.

You need to find ways of overcoming procrastination not mastrubation, IMO.

^this.

Masturbation is not the issue here.

Reply 7

huhwhat

Focus on your life. Figure out what you want to do with it. Do stuff.
Do that enough times and eventually abstaining will be easy. BUT IT TAKES TIME!

For me it took an entire year after I realised that I should get porn under control, to actually be able to do it. And even now my brain is tricking me from time to time.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

Original post by Georgie_M

Everyone has something which helps them to procrastinate you've just chosen masturbation.

You need to find ways of overcoming procrastination not mastrubation, IMO.

Original post by Treeroy

^this.

Masturbation is not the issue here.

Original post by huhwhat

Why do I struggle with procrastination so much?

As an example, I started thinking about careers. Then I read Bertstare's thread on an arts degree meaning f all and got scared :-/

Reply 9

Georgie_M

Original post by Anonymous

Why do I struggle with procrastination so much?

As an example, I started thinking about careers. Then I read Bertstare's thread on an arts degree meaning f all and got scared :-/