General emptiness in life.

everyone goes through droughts of excitement in life, could this be one of those? maybe things will pick up?

Reply 2

janesmith

you need to just get up and do something. try a new hobby. go to a club or bar you've never been before and just start talking to someone. you realise you dont want to live your life like this but its only you who can change it. just slowly build up your confidence and get active. look to your family for support or your cousins or siblings to hang with. most importantly dont let it get you down anymore. cheer up

Reply 3

generalebriety

16

If it helps, I feel like that often. It fluctuates. Find something you really enjoy doing, and do it, and find an aspiration, and work towards it, and get a hobby, and generally don't look back. :smile:

I understand the hopelessness you must feel when you're counting up the hours you've been online because there was nothing better to do in the last week, but nothing will change that now, and instead of complaining about it, get out there and do something. Learn an instrument or a language or, I dunno, collect something, or race toy cars (they're called toys but bloody hell, they cost £1000+ :eek:

), or go skydiving or swimming or play croquet or go fishing. Find something you like doing because you clearly don't like msn. :smile:

Reply 4

Dr Doom

ambition, my friend. thats what you need, AMBITION

Reply 5

I'm the only child, so my parents actually PREFER it that I stay at home and be a loner. This discourages me to go out more, even on my own.

I always end up arguing with them whenever I do go out at night, even though I am 22. I can't afford to move out and that probably won't solve anything.

My cousins - well, they are mostly at least 8 years older than myself. I'm better at talking to them now but generally struggle to make conversation with them.

If this is a drought, then I've felt like this since high school. I'm surprised that I managed to survive through university.

PS - I am working.

Reply 6

Hev456

11

i can completely relate to that :frown:

its not the factor of having ambition (well its not for me anyway), its the fact of having to wait. at the moment i'm stuck at home, doing nothing because my college doesn't start up until september. i don't have a huge amount of friends, and the ones i do have are continually letting me down that i don't bother so much anymore - meaning i'm continually stuck indoors, with evening the worse because i don't have anyone to go out anywhere with even if i wanted to.

personally i dont' know how to change the situation, but you're definitely not alone.

Reply 7

1st id talk to your parents tell them that you hope to be able to save enough money to move out, but until then you are 22 and hopefully can come to some sort of compromise about going out. if you 22 and its been like this since high school chance are its only going to get worse and so action needs to be taken NOW (hehe i like the drama) get ur rents on your side then get out there and get a good group of friends who will keep u occupied!

Reply 8

Rainbow_Chick

1

You should try and stay away for the internet and find something else to take up your time. Gain a hobby or join a club there must be something your interested in.

Reply 9

I know I should get off, but it's the only place where I can communicate to mass amounts to people.

Ambition

mrt84

I'm the only child, so my parents actually PREFER it that I stay at home and be a loner. This discourages me to go out more, even on my own.

My parents are exactly the same and it annoys me so much! I feel like I'm living in a cage half the time! It's why I'm looking forward to uni so much, I can go out whenever I want and no annoying parents to stop me.

You need to do something about that, you're 22! You're not a kid anymore, get a job and save money up for an apartment or something.

Reply 12

generalebriety

16

mrt84

I know I should get off, but it's the only place where I can communicate to mass amounts to people.

I used to think the same but then realised it was better to talk to a few people you knew well and liked a lot in person than loads of people you couldn't even see who weren't interested in you and were probably playing WoW or watching tv at the same time. :smile:

Reply 13

Yeah, I know. But ever since I was a kid, I've been afraid to make the initial conversation with strangers. I only ever talk to people who make the initial contact. :frown:

Reply 14

Toy Soldier

3

Ahh now, you see the problem here is that life is infact empty. The problem when you ponder it is that you will inevitably find no meaning, only existence and chaos. So what you ACTUALLY need to do, is not to search for clarity and 'purpose', but rather to allow yourself to be taken in by illusion, delusion and 'the flow of events'. This covers the emptiness, and hopefully you'll be able to keep it up (at least most of the time) until you die, as is the case with the entire human race.

Heh, this post makes it sound like I'm feeling the same as you are, but I'm not. I can assure you, I spend most of my time thoroughly enjoying every minute of the illusion! So just stop thinking about it so much, and you'll find that rather than needing to "get a life", life will inevitably find you.

Reply 15

Rainbow_Chick

1

mrt84

I know I should get off, but it's the only place where I can communicate to mass amounts to people.

I know and i understand it will be hard to stay away but i think it would be better for you to communicate face to face with people. You say you lack the skills to socialise communicating to people on the online wont nessasarly help this. If you did not isolate yourself as much maybe you would not feel this feeling of emptiness.

Reply 16

Toy Soldier

Ahh now, you see the problem here is that life is infact empty. The problem when you ponder it is that you will inevitably find no meaning, only existence and chaos. So what you ACTUALLY need to do, is not to search for clarity and 'purpose', but rather to allow yourself to be taken in by illusion, delusion and 'the flow of events'. This covers the emptiness, and hopefully you'll be able to keep it up (at least most of the time) until you die, as is the case with the entire human race.

Heh, this post makes it sound like I'm feeling the same as you are, but I'm not. I can assure you, I spend most of my time thoroughly enjoying every minute of the illusion! So just stop thinking about it so much, and you'll find that rather than needing to "get a life", life will inevitably find you.

problem with that is sometimes life doesnt so much flow as become a stagnant pond, then u have to stir it up urself a bit

Reply 17

Rainbow_Chick

I know and i understand it will be hard to stay away but i think it would be better for you to communicate face to face with people. You say you lack the skills to socialise communicating to people on the online wont nessasarly help this. If you did not isolate yourself as much maybe you would not feel this feeling of emptiness.

I fully get where you're coming from. I just have this false hope that I can meet local people to become friends with. Had this hope for some four years now.

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