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Can't have a life!!
okay i'm feed up and really feel yak!!!
okay i'm only 15!! but i have to cook, clean, baby sit and do all the jobs of a mother!! i have to look after my stepmothers children
she's a nice lady but she thinks i'm nothing!! i have got my exams next month and wanted to spend all my time revising but it won't happen now because my stepmother got another job, 
in the morning after she comes back from work its stright to the gym, from the gym back to work! (she doesnt work full time) its giving me a head ach, i feel like crap!! i cant take a shower properly because the babies start crying or something (ones 4 and the other is 1 and a half) i cant mail my bf because of the babies, i cant go shopping, i cant revise, i can't have a life!! the time i do revise is around 10 at night because she's back from work, i want to be normal 
my dad is at work and doen not realise that it is effcting me, infact he encourgaes her to do more work and get overtime!!
its not just that but even when we go shopping on the weekends i'm stuck at home with one of the babies while they are off enjoying, if i need something i have to tell them in advance and my step mother even knows about what pads i buy!!!!! because i cant go and buy them myslef!!!! its really anoying!!
i was wondering if anyone has been in this siutation or have known someone who was in one?
also i was wondering if anyone can give me tips on how to keep cool like this, please help someone!!!!!
okay i'm only 15!! but i have to cook, clean, baby sit and do all the jobs of a mother!! i have to look after my stepmothers children
she's a nice lady but she thinks i'm nothing!! i have got my exams next month and wanted to spend all my time revising but it won't happen now because my stepmother got another job, in the morning after she comes back from work its stright to the gym, from the gym back to work! (she doesnt work full time) its giving me a head ach, i feel like crap!! i cant take a shower properly because the babies start crying or something (ones 4 and the other is 1 and a half) i cant mail my bf because of the babies, i cant go shopping, i cant revise, i can't have a life!! the time i do revise is around 10 at night because she's back from work, i want to be normal my dad is at work and doen not realise that it is effcting me, infact he encourgaes her to do more work and get overtime!!
its not just that but even when we go shopping on the weekends i'm stuck at home with one of the babies while they are off enjoying, if i need something i have to tell them in advance and my step mother even knows about what pads i buy!!!!! because i cant go and buy them myslef!!!! its really anoying!!
i was wondering if anyone has been in this siutation or have known someone who was in one?
also i was wondering if anyone can give me tips on how to keep cool like this, please help someone!!!!! Scroll to see replies
Reply 1
You're 15 you shouldnt have to deal with that stuff, tell you dad how he would like it if it happened to him when he was 15.
Its there job to deal with kids, you obviously could help out but not as much... say to him, he keeps this up hes gonna ruin you're life.
Its hard enough to make yourself revise without having other choirs...
Its there job to deal with kids, you obviously could help out but not as much... say to him, he keeps this up hes gonna ruin you're life.
Its hard enough to make yourself revise without having other choirs...
Reply 3
lol as if they are going to pay me look after my two "brothers" i know i should tell and i do but then after a week they start doing the same thing again!!! its making me mad!! does anyone have any ideas on how i can be cool, considering they have their nap time lol which is around 11-12:30 or something
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okay i'm feed up and really feel yak!!!
okay i'm only 15!! but i have to cook, clean, baby sit and do all the jobs of a mother!! i have to look after my stepmothers children she's a nice lady but she thinks i'm nothing!! i have got my exams next month and wanted to spend all my time revising but it won't happen now because my stepmother got another job, in the morning after she comes back from work its stright to the gym, from the gym back to work! (she doesnt work full time) its giving me a head ach, i feel like crap!! i cant take a shower properly because the babies start crying or something (ones 4 and the other is 1 and a half) i cant mail my bf because of the babies, i cant go shopping, i cant revise, i can't have a life!! the time i do revise is around 10 at night because she's back from work, i want to be normal
my dad is at work and doen not realise that it is effcting me, infact he encourgaes her to do more work and get overtime!!
its not just that but even when we go shopping on the weekends i'm stuck at home with one of the babies while they are off enjoying, if i need something i have to tell them in advance and my step mother even knows about what pads i buy!!!!! because i cant go and buy them myslef!!!! its really anoying!!
i was wondering if anyone has been in this siutation or have known someone who was in one? also i was wondering if anyone can give me tips on how to keep cool like this, please help someone!!!!!
okay i'm only 15!! but i have to cook, clean, baby sit and do all the jobs of a mother!! i have to look after my stepmothers children
she's a nice lady but she thinks i'm nothing!! i have got my exams next month and wanted to spend all my time revising but it won't happen now because my stepmother got another job, in the morning after she comes back from work its stright to the gym, from the gym back to work! (she doesnt work full time) its giving me a head ach, i feel like crap!! i cant take a shower properly because the babies start crying or something (ones 4 and the other is 1 and a half) i cant mail my bf because of the babies, i cant go shopping, i cant revise, i can't have a life!! the time i do revise is around 10 at night because she's back from work, i want to be normal my dad is at work and doen not realise that it is effcting me, infact he encourgaes her to do more work and get overtime!!
its not just that but even when we go shopping on the weekends i'm stuck at home with one of the babies while they are off enjoying, if i need something i have to tell them in advance and my step mother even knows about what pads i buy!!!!! because i cant go and buy them myslef!!!! its really anoying!!
i was wondering if anyone has been in this siutation or have known someone who was in one?
also i was wondering if anyone can give me tips on how to keep cool like this, please help someone!!!!! Not your children, not your responsibility. Infact, i believe it is illegal to make you do that if you are under 16. It is her children, so ok she's working, it's acceptible that she needs to do that, but she dooesn't need to go to the gym. Talk to her and tell her that you ned a life. These are not your children, and you will not do as she says anymore. Stand up to her. Although it may cause a row, you cannot be treated like this! Talk to your dad also. If she wants a babysitter she can pay for one!
okay thats so not fair on you!!! you have to do things which SHE should do!!
to answere your question, well i think you shouldgo look after yourself when the babies are asleep, then continue your work and when your stepmother does come, pretend you have some work and stay in your room till she is at home
to answere your question, well i think you shouldgo look after yourself when the babies are asleep, then continue your work and when your stepmother does come, pretend you have some work and stay in your room till she is at home
Reply 6
your studies cme first
not some womens kids
tell your dad
not some womens kids
tell your dad
Reply 7
i have spoken to my dad and gess what he did??
he started making me go to tution, in his eyes thats helping me but its more work!!
he started making me go to tution, in his eyes thats helping me but its more work!!
i mean there are some things that you do that are really handy, eg cooking, but yeah.
other people in similar situations, not sure about that. i have to do most of that, but i make sure i get my time.
to keep your cool, i dunno, its hard i suppose, just try and talk to your parents and let them know how important your education is and how you need a break from babies and stress.
other people in similar situations, not sure about that. i have to do most of that, but i make sure i get my time.
to keep your cool, i dunno, its hard i suppose, just try and talk to your parents and let them know how important your education is and how you need a break from babies and stress.
Reply 11
if your dad wont listen and your stepmom wont is there no one else you can turn to and make them change their ways.
until then you need some you time. while you are looking after them couldnt you sit down in a room with ur books and revise. have the boys in the same room but one could be watching tv quietly or they could colour in while you are writing and maybe they will enjoy it cos they are like big sis and copying ur actions. you need to try and incoporate your studies in the babysitting. even if you arnt paying it your full attention you will feel better that you've learned and retained even the smallest bit of information.
until then you need some you time. while you are looking after them couldnt you sit down in a room with ur books and revise. have the boys in the same room but one could be watching tv quietly or they could colour in while you are writing and maybe they will enjoy it cos they are like big sis and copying ur actions. you need to try and incoporate your studies in the babysitting. even if you arnt paying it your full attention you will feel better that you've learned and retained even the smallest bit of information.
Reply 12
OK that's really not on. First it's not your responsibility, and second it's really not responsible anyway to leave 2 babies with a 15 year old for most of the time. You're effectively a 15 year old single mum!
you know what, in life there are always some people who will take advantage of you. Unfortunately you seem to have ended up with these people as your parents. It's hard because you're still a dependent, you depend on them for your basic survival and so they have you and it's easy for them to abuse you this way. And yes I'd call it a form of abuse.
I'm not sure what you can do as you're still just 15, but I'd make a fuss - a big fuss. Let them know you're a human being that can't be used like this. And threaten to walk out maybe stay at a friends house for a few days if they don't change things. Your stepmum really needs to change her life, if she has babies then she can't work all the time. Simple as that.
no matter what the financial situation your parents simply cannot BOTH work full time with 2 kids under 5. Tell them to apply for some benefits or something, that's what its for!
you know what, in life there are always some people who will take advantage of you. Unfortunately you seem to have ended up with these people as your parents. It's hard because you're still a dependent, you depend on them for your basic survival and so they have you and it's easy for them to abuse you this way. And yes I'd call it a form of abuse.
I'm not sure what you can do as you're still just 15, but I'd make a fuss - a big fuss. Let them know you're a human being that can't be used like this. And threaten to walk out maybe stay at a friends house for a few days if they don't change things. Your stepmum really needs to change her life, if she has babies then she can't work all the time. Simple as that.
no matter what the financial situation your parents simply cannot BOTH work full time with 2 kids under 5. Tell them to apply for some benefits or something, that's what its for!
Reply 13
Your way too young for all this responsibility, ok yes sometimes you need to help round the house, but spell it out to them you need to revise for your exams and stress how important it is, afterall they were once at school as well.
Reply 14
Tell them it is not normal for someone of your age to have to do all this!
My dad keeps telling me to help around the house, but genraly i wash the dishes a couple of times a week aswell as vacume cleaning or mowing the lawn occasionaly. My dad does more then i do.
What i dont understand is how does it take all your time up? cooking and cleaning should not keep you busy all night. Is it the babies that are the trouble, i cant comment on this i have never had to deal with them, but cant you just give them the basics like food and drink but just ignore them sometimes if they are only wanting attention since you dont have the time.
My dad keeps telling me to help around the house, but genraly i wash the dishes a couple of times a week aswell as vacume cleaning or mowing the lawn occasionaly. My dad does more then i do.
What i dont understand is how does it take all your time up? cooking and cleaning should not keep you busy all night. Is it the babies that are the trouble, i cant comment on this i have never had to deal with them, but cant you just give them the basics like food and drink but just ignore them sometimes if they are only wanting attention since you dont have the time.
Reply 15
Aww. When I was 15 it became a bit like this for me: my dad actually tried to make me feel guilty for revising!
You really need to tell your dad how much it's affecting you. Life will be beginning to get stressful for you what with GCSEs and other things, so to have all this extra work on top of all that just isn't fair. He obviously hasn't understood how much of a strain all this is on you if he's merely sent you to tuition!
I agree with what theCapitalist has said. You need to make a bigger fuss. They're trying to have their cake and eat it: they obviously think you're mature enough to look after young children and yet they don't have the decency to listen to you. The babies should be your stepmum's responsibility, not yours. Do you get on with your stepmum well enough to talk about your concerns? Perhaps you could try being a bit rebellious and make a point of piling a huge pile of homework or coursework on the table and studying in front of them, or tell them in advance that you're going to go to a friend's house for the evening so they'll see that you want to have a life?
When I was 15 it became a bit like this for me: my dad actually tried to make me feel guilty for revising! You really need to tell your dad how much it's affecting you. Life will be beginning to get stressful for you what with GCSEs and other things, so to have all this extra work on top of all that just isn't fair. He obviously hasn't understood how much of a strain all this is on you if he's merely sent you to tuition!
I agree with what theCapitalist has said. You need to make a bigger fuss. They're trying to have their cake and eat it: they obviously think you're mature enough to look after young children and yet they don't have the decency to listen to you. The babies should be your stepmum's responsibility, not yours. Do you get on with your stepmum well enough to talk about your concerns? Perhaps you could try being a bit rebellious and make a point of piling a huge pile of homework or coursework on the table and studying in front of them, or tell them in advance that you're going to go to a friend's house for the evening so they'll see that you want to have a life?
Just downright refuse to do it. Say you need to study and these are not your children but hers and as their mother she is not doing what she should! Just be blunt to her and say she is not acting like a mother and you're acting the mother and these are not your kids.
And if they insist on going out, just go out an hour before you know they are going to. Go to the library and don't come back til evening. You'll have work as evidence to show them that you've been studying - and if they say family should come first, then just state that these are NOT your children, so why can't the actual mother do some babysitting? And if pleasure is more important than kids to her then just employ a babysitter.
Think of it this way, when you're older and have your own kids, you're gonna be one experienced mother
And if they insist on going out, just go out an hour before you know they are going to. Go to the library and don't come back til evening. You'll have work as evidence to show them that you've been studying - and if they say family should come first, then just state that these are NOT your children, so why can't the actual mother do some babysitting? And if pleasure is more important than kids to her then just employ a babysitter.
Think of it this way, when you're older and have your own kids, you're gonna be one experienced mother
Reply 17
I have a great idea! When your dad and step mum are out having fun, ask a freind to look after the babies for a few hours, when your parents get back and ask where the babies are say "Iv had enough of them so i put them up for adoption"
Reply 18
*titanium*
I have a great idea! When your dad and step mum are out having fun, ask a freind to look after the babies for a few hours, when your parents get back and ask where the babies are say "Iv had enough of them so i put them up for adoption"
ha brilliant idea, rep coming your way for that
Okay, this is seriously not on. Your parents are on the edge of child abuse here, you're entitled to your own life. Confront them about it. If they do nothing, you should seek outside help. Places like NSPCC and Childline deal with this sort of thing, they can tell you what to do.
You should not run away from your problems. The longer this goes on, the worse it's going to get. They're taking advantage of you.
You should not run away from your problems. The longer this goes on, the worse it's going to get. They're taking advantage of you.
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