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Guys = aliens from another planet?

I'm confused by men generally, but one in particular. anyone else have this feeling?

A few weeks ago, me and this guy met up at quite an exclusive place so it meant i had to dress smartly, so i actually made an effort rather than what i look like round halls at uni where he usually sees me. After the occassion he said how he thought my dress was lovely. what does this actually mean - he just likes the dress? or he likes me in the dress/thought i look nice (does this even verge on him thinking i looked attractive)? He's said before how nice I looked at a ball, so is he just being a true gent and complimenting a gal when she makes an effort (even though he doesnt say it to other girls but then I am his closest female friend) or is more? hmph, so confuddled.

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Anonymous

I'm confused by men generally, but one in particular. anyone else have this feeling?

Not really

After the occassion he said how he thought my dress was lovely. what does this actually mean - he just likes the dress?

Why can't it just mean he liked your dress? :wtf?:

Reply 4

The Mudman

10

The problem is not so much the guy, for what he said is very simple and straightforward, the problem is your massive over-analysis of his comment. I have similar problems, but whatever it means exactly, it's a compliment, and as such is a good sign. He has also asked you out to a private dinner in an exclusive restaurant. I'd put money on him fancying you.

On a seperate note, I would also bet on him saying "Nice dress" and thinking 'it'd look great on my bedroom floor! Haha! I'm so glad she can't read my mind... *sex*'

Reply 5

Sazarina88

11

I think the dress comment genuinely meant he liked your dress.

Just because he doesn't comment on you when he sees you in halls (what is he supposed to say? Oooh, I like your jeans?!) doesn't mean he doesn't find you attractive.

I'd say flirt, flirt, flirt and more flirt. (that's if you want him)

Reply 6

Naino

I'd take that he just liked ur dress... but then again, we don't always say what we mean

Reply 7

Dude

14

Just in response to the title, its girls that are from another planet.

Guys are easy to understand, its girls that are complicated.

Reply 8

True Love

I agree with Dude!

Don't over-anaylse too much. I thought i did, but don't put so much emphasis on it. He likes your dress, hey, does that mean he's gay? :p:

Just, flirt back, see what happens and what will be will be :wink:

Reply 9

bunthulhu

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Anonymous

I'm confused by men generally, but one in particular. anyone else have this feeling?

A few weeks ago, me and this guy met up at quite an exclusive place so it meant i had to dress smartly, so i actually made an effort rather than what i look like round halls at uni where he usually sees me. After the occassion he said how he thought my dress was lovely. what does this actually mean - he just likes the dress? or he likes me in the dress/thought i look nice (does this even verge on him thinking i looked attractive)? He's said before how nice I looked at a ball, so is he just being a true gent and complimenting a gal when she makes an effort (even though he doesnt say it to other girls but then I am his closest female friend) or is more? hmph, so confuddled.

God forbid the poor boy ever strays near another compliment again :p:

I really think he just liked your dress.

Reply 10

Happy_Rocker

1

Dude

Just in response to the title, its girls that are from another planet.

Guys are easy to understand, its girls that are complicated.

noooooo i'd have to disagree, men (ok and women) can be soooo aggravatingly confusing, some of this is because alot don't like to discuss their feeling or discuss issues, instead just brush it off and pretend everything's alright... and they change their mind all the time, and say weird things then contradict themselves..i could go on :frown:

so i have to partly agree guys are from a different planet...then again so could be said for girls....but non of the planets are earth :mad:

to the OP men...life is confusing enough without over complicating the few simple things in life we get...he thought your dress was nice ok :smile:

Reply 11

Dude

14

Happy_Rocker

noooooo i'd have to disagree, men (ok and women) can be soooo aggravatingly confusing, some of this is because alot don't like to discuss their feeling or discuss issues, instead just brush it off and pretend everything's alright... and they change their mind all the time, and say weird things then contradict themselves..i could go on :frown:

so i have to partly agree guys are from a different planet...then again so could be said for girls....but non of the planets are earth :mad:

to the OP men...life is confusing enough without over complicating the few simple things in life we get...he thought your dress was nice ok :smile:

OK how about this. Why is it whenever girls have a problem and we ask what is wrong, they just say everything is fine and then then automatically assume that we know what is wrong with them?

And in response to your question, its because we are afriad of sharing our true feelings because we don't know what your reaction will be and that there is a chance that you will leave us.

Reply 12

True Love

Dude

OK how about this. Why is it whenever girls have a problem and we ask what is wrong, they just say everything is fine and then then automatically assume that we know what is wrong with them?

And in response to your question, its because we are afriad of sharing our true feelings because we don't know what your reaction will be and that there is a chance that you will leave us.

Well, didn't you think that the reason why guys don't show their feelings is the same reason why girls don't show their true feelings?

Reply 13

Dude

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True Love

Well, didn't you think that the reason why guys don't show their feelings is the same reason why girls don't show their true feelings?

The difference is that girls expect us to know everything about them as they know pretty much everything about us

Reply 14

Happy_Rocker

1

Dude

OK how about this. Why is it whenever girls have a problem and we ask what is wrong, they just say everything is fine and then then automatically assume that we know what is wrong with them?

And in response to your question, its because we are afriad of sharing our true feelings because we don't know what your reaction will be and that there is a chance that you will leave us.

i would find that annoying if i was a guy :p:

but its hard to explain... sometimes i personally cant just straight out explain my feelings (if im upset or something) and plus (sometimes) guys ask but they dont really care or arn't really listening..like the way people ask 'how is your day?' but dont really give a toss about the answer. so in order to decifer from these times i say 'nothings wrong' the first time... BUT IF HE ASKED AGAIN I'D SAY!!! thats how u know he dont care ...guys are like 'ok' like... do u really believe im ok just because i said it....cant you hear the tone :mad:

lmao

Reply 15

dyslexic_banana

1

This post is very anti-climatic, given the title of the thread. I'm sure that, were we to observe the behaviour of an alien species on another planet, then the most remarkable observation would be how the male aliens complimented the female aliens, as regards what they were wearing.

I really am truly fascinated by what I have read in the opening post of this thread; call in the psychologists, immediately.

I can't wait to hear what remarkable thing he does or says, next.

Reply 16

Mattmoy_2000

9

Do you fancy him? Is that making you think he likes you? Maybe he does, maybe he doesn't.
"Nice dress" could mean anything from "argh! wtf is she wearing, I don't know what to say" to "Nice dress - it'd look better on my bedroom floor" all the way through "that dress suits you and fits well". Noone can tell you what it means totally out of context, and without knowing the relationship between you. You're the one who's best placed to answer - other than him of course, and if you're close enough friends, can't you just ask him?

Reply 17

silverbolt

19

dudes right women are from that other planet, they are so damn confusing,

Reply 18

Changeling

Or it could be just that he knew you must have gone to extra effort to pick out a nice dress, and so complimenting your dress is jsut to show you that he appreciates and notices the effort you put into it. I think guy's are usually quite open, but then if you're used to saying 'nothings wrong' relying on tone to convey, then from your perspective it's more confusing. Because you're trying to listen to the tone for meaning rather than what is being said. Ah well, god only ordered half the amount of testosterone and oestrogen needed and had to divide it up =P you can blame that =D

Reply 19

Haineko

as with everything everyone says, its impossible to know what they really mean unless you actually know them. You're aware yourself that when he compliments on your dress it could mean a myriad of things, and theres no saying what he means exactly. i'm a guy and i cant help you with that =P

personally when i compliment someone on their clothing i'd mean that they look good in the clothes they're wearing or maybe i just like the clothes lol.

Guys = aliens from another planet?

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