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Wondering why...?

it's always been something in my head. i've always wondered why, and i'm just going to put it out there and see what everyone thinks/says.

my first kiss was with a girl at a party a year ago. we both got very drunk, and we're both the type of people who wouldn't get with anyone when drunk, let alone actually get drunk.

she was in the year above me, and we were casual acquaintences, not friends. after we pulled, she immediately told me there was this other guy. i was ok with that. when the party ended, i decided to not stay over at her house (since she had invited me to the day before the party).

after that, we tried to meet one another at school and stay in contact, but by the time we could really get to know one another, it was the end of the year and she had graduated. by then, i'd had a girlfriend by that summer and didn't talk to this girl much.

on and off in the past year i'd spoken to her, always tried to meet up with her. after breaking up with my gf i realised i had v. strong feelings for this girl. she'd routinely agree to meet up but then would cancel on me, saying she was busy (she's a wannabe dancer with a contract signed) or ill. sometimes i wasn't too sure whether she was telling the truth or not.

but looking back, i've always wondered...was there anything there? was it a genuine attraction or just a silly drunken night one off thing that you hear teenagers always do?

Reply 1

so_this_is_sam

Yeah perhaps there was something there, but could there still be? If she REALLY liked you she would make time to see you...but then again maybe she's also a bit scared about the intensity of her feelings? I dont really know, because I dont know the situation like you do. But do you believe in fate? because if you and her are meant to be then it'll happen, maybe not now, but some years down the line. But if you cant wait that long, then do something about it now. If she keeps cancelling on you, perhaps it really wasnt meant to be, good luck.

Reply 2

Sazarina88

It seems as though she is making up excuses not to see you but, like sam said, this could be either because she doesn't want to see you or is apprenhensive/scared about meeting you because of her feelings.

What is more important here is are you serious about this girl? Is she worth the perseverance? I know you said you have very strong feelings for her but do you think you might be clinging onto the past and what happened then?