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I'm a stalker!!

God help me I've turned into a stalker, looking up my ex bf's profile (who I've lost contact with for a few years) in hi5. Worst thing is he's got like 260+ friends all girls and pretty too :frown:

question is a) how do you get that many friends, I don't even know 260+ people and my friend who is by far the most popular party-girl I've ever known only has 40

and b) is this the slippery slope to full stalkerhood?

:confused:

Reply 1

dh00001

16

would depend on why you looked at it.
and you should approach them first if youre really that bothered.

Reply 2

Anonymous #2

That level of stalking I'm sure isn't that uncommon or weird... Well, I hope not. I used to look at my ex's last.fm page constantly, just seeing what music he was listening to! :s-smilie:

But gradually I just became less and less interested in him and stopped doing that.

As for the friends, meh, that amount of friends can't be real friends, just silly people who go round adding EVERYONE they've ever come into contact with as friends...

Reply 3

HeStoleMyCrayon

lol how is that stalking? unless youre planning on hiding in the bushes videoing him in the shower...then gathering the stubble from his morning shave for possible DNA to clone your very own version of him who you can train to be your slave...

and at some point boil his bunny

Reply 4

dyslexic_banana

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Anonymous

God help me I've turned into a stalker, looking up my ex bf's profile (who I've lost contact with for a few years) in hi5. Worst thing is he's got like 260+ friends all girls and pretty too :frown:

question is a) how do you get that many friends, I don't even know 260+ people and my friend who is by far the most popular party-girl I've ever known only has 40

and b) is this the slippery slope to full stalkerhood?

:confused:

a). By spending a few years in front of a computer screen, using chatrooms, perhaps.

b). Depends how much you feel you want to know more; not necessarily. All sounds perfectly above board to me.

Under what circumstances did the two of you split up?

Reply 5

Sazarina88

11

There's nothing wrong with that. You're just curious as to what he's getting up to now.

And as for the number of friends, I agree with what someone else said about it just being people that add evvvvveryone they can to "look cool."

Reply 6

Chumbaniya

17

Isn't it normal to want to know how someone's doing after a long time since seeing them, especially if it's someone you were close to?

Reply 7

Anonymous #3

I used to read an ex-bfs blog. It was weird, I was obsessive, but meh. I found my next boyfriend by harassing him til he went out with me so...

Reply 8

dh00001

16

Anonymous

I used to read an ex-bfs blog. It was weird, I was obsessive, but meh. I found my next boyfriend by harassing him til he went out with me so...

sounds wonderful :smile:

Reply 9

Kunster1337

1

Anonymous pm me.. ive got some private advise for you..

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

dyslexic_banana

a). By spending a few years in front of a computer screen, using chatrooms, perhaps.

b). Depends how much you feel you want to know more; not necessarily. All sounds perfectly above board to me.

Under what circumstances did the two of you split up?

Is that how this amazing popularity on myspace and hi5 and stuff usually happens? (I'm always scared to join cos I have pitifully few friends :redface:

) It makes sense though, despite that many friends no one's left him any messages.

And really it's not stalkerish? I also do things like google his name and stuff, just managed to find his address as well, it's getting worse! But don't think I'll be going round his house to boil anything...

I don't like this hanging-on obsessiveness, it ended with me just deciding never to have anything to do with him again. If i saw him in the street I'd cross it! Thought it'd be a clean break and has been apart from this uncontrollable curiousity.. How/do other people 'stalk' their exes?

Reply 11

bunthulhu

14

Anonymous

God help me I've turned into a stalker, looking up my ex bf's profile (who I've lost contact with for a few years) in hi5. Worst thing is he's got like 260+ friends all girls and pretty too :frown:

question is a) how do you get that many friends, I don't even know 260+ people and my friend who is by far the most popular party-girl I've ever known only has 40

and b) is this the slippery slope to full stalkerhood?

:confused:

a) Some people are just like that, that's what myspace is all about, but why does it even matter?

b) If you don't stop, and you carry on being so obsessive, then maybe.

:frown:

Reply 12

username47781

20

don't worry about him, just concentrate with your own friends.

Reply 13

MNBStyle

9

Anonymous

God help me I've turned into a stalker, looking up my ex bf's profile (who I've lost contact with for a few years) in hi5. Worst thing is he's got like 260+ friends all girls and pretty too :frown:

question is a) how do you get that many friends, I don't even know 260+ people and my friend who is by far the most popular party-girl I've ever known only has 40

and b) is this the slippery slope to full stalkerhood?

:confused:

hi5 is like a chain where friends of one member are connected to friends of another member if you get me???
So most of these 260+ girls probablly dont even know who he is, ive got over 30 on my hi5 and i only know about 8 of them

Reply 14

Psyk

16

I've looked up people I have only seen around (as in never actually spoken to them, just seen them in lectures and stuff) on stuff like myspace. I hope that doesn't count as being a stalker.

Reply 15

Anonymous #4

Anonymous

God help me I've turned into a stalker, looking up my ex bf's profile (who I've lost contact with for a few years) in hi5. Worst thing is he's got like 260+ friends all girls and pretty too :frown:

question is a) how do you get that many friends, I don't even know 260+ people and my friend who is by far the most popular party-girl I've ever known only has 40

and b) is this the slippery slope to full stalkerhood?

:confused:

Most people are well capable of behaving like that. Why do you think people point out stalkers so much? It's because they recognise a trait of theirs that worries them themselves.

There's a big difference between how people are behind closed doors and how they want people to see them and stalkerish attitude is something you want to keep out of your public image.

Reply 16

*titanium*

12

You cant judge someone by their online 'freinds' look at the people on the freinds list of those with 250 freinds, the first thing you notice is that all their os called freinds are living in other towns and other countries.

I have like 50 something in my myspace freinds list and most of them are people that i know or random people that decided to add me (or a few that i added)

If you make a freind request to someone, they ussualy say yes, so whats hard about getting 250 freinds?

If some one i dont know adds me and has this amount of freinds i will now always decline them.

Reply 17

Anonymous #5

So glad I'm not the only one that does this...lol :redface:

Reply 18

Anonymous #1

OP

*titanium*

You cant judge someone by their online 'freinds' look at the people on the freinds list of those with 250 freinds, the first thing you notice is that all their os called freinds are living in other towns and other countries.

I have like 50 something in my myspace freinds list and most of them are people that i know or random people that decided to add me (or a few that i added)

If you make a freind request to someone, they ussualy say yes, so whats hard about getting 250 freinds?

If some one i dont know adds me and has this amount of freinds i will now always decline them.

It's weird why do people just request to be added to some strangers list? Do you go looking through all the photos and approach all the ones that look hot? Does that not spell sleaze? This is why I don't like network things like hi5

even worse this means my ex has been looking through all those girls pics and adding ones that look hot :eek:

And yeah I know why do I still care, I dunno! Just the thought of that pisses me off.

And it's so true, most of us have a stalker side. It's also something that's a lot more addictive than anything like alcohol I think, that's why I'm worried, I think it's a VERY steep and slippery slope. But anyway this is so interesting keep your stalker stories coming!

Reply 19

*titanium*

12

Anonymous

It's weird why do people just request to be added to some strangers list? Do you go looking through all the photos and approach all the ones that look hot? Does that not spell sleaze? This is why I don't like network things like hi5

even worse this means my ex has been looking through all those girls pics and adding ones that look hot :eek:

And yeah I know why do I still care, I dunno! Just the thought of that pisses me off.

And it's so true, most of us have a stalker side. It's also something that's a lot more addictive than anything like alcohol I think, that's why I'm worried, I think it's a VERY steep and slippery slope. But anyway this is so interesting keep your stalker stories coming!

The only people i dont know that i have added are girls that seemed cool (and hot) living near by i thought i would start chatting do, but i have done this maybe 4 times. Oh and 1 girl from Israel i wanted to speak to, thou i actualy only messaged her and we where chatting and she added me.

I'm a stalker!!

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