I don't know their birthdays, all of their fave colours, their fave artist (well,I knew one of them), their sibling's or their parent's name. I don't even know where they're studying right now and yet I said that they were my best friends. I always thought that I was a good friend and yet, I knew next to nothing about them. I know that I'm practically ranting now and I apologise for that, this is really stressing me out and with the exams next week, I really don't need the extra stress.
Anyway, I talk to one of my old friend's about it and she told me that " becoming best friends doesn't rely on how much you know each other but how much you had fun hanging out and all that" but I know that she's just being nice. i really want to make amends and learn about them, learn about things that I should have known as their best friends but I'm an awkward person with a foot-in-mouth disease that has the special talent in making things awkward so I really don't know what to do without sounding creepy and stalker-ish. 😔
i really want to make amends and learn about them but it's just awkward y'know.
So, ummm, any advice or opinions? Do you guys think that If you don't know anything about your best friend then you're a bad friend or do you guys think it's all about having fun hanging out?
Don't worry, you're not the only one making things awkward. Chances are, you are an introverted fellow, overthinking every situation. Friendship isn't about remembering details about others. I don't usually call my best friends for their birthdays, and they don't call me for mine, and yet we are still good friends. There's nothing wrong in asking others for what they like - everybody's best topic of conversation is themselves, whether they'd admit it or not. If your friends think you're not worthy of their friendship because you don't know some details about them, then you're probably not a good match. However, it may be that they also have the same worries as you and they may overreact simply because they are meant to. Don't take it personally, nobody knows what they're doing and everybody's following some role model. Simply discuss your concerns with others.
Gods, I sound whiny, sorry.