The funny guy needs abit of girl help.

billbonesetc, you're right that its a terribly cliche advice, but what else can you really expect in this case?? dear anon, a sense of humour is great, but you dont want to put yourself in a position where you are the joke or something - sense of humour is good with confidence and a strong personality! the advice is not only to be yourself, but to build up your self confidence and stop worrying about what girls think or dont think about you so much! who cares?? its probb because you're so stressed or worried that things arent going how you want. On the other hand, its probably most in your head because you seem to worry and stress so much about this! people see us as we present ourselves - be who you honestly are inside (sorry billbonesetc), and only those who deserve your attention will gain it. relax!!

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billbonesknowswhatimean

yeh i know, that's why i said it lol :smile:

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Anonymous

I need a spot of help. I'm always seen as the funny guy, which is great around lads yet it's proving agrivating when trying to get into girls etc.

It's fine on holiday due to girls don't properly know me. Yet people in my school constantly can't really take me seriously. Therefore, I get left out alot. And now, after simply hanging around with my mates for about a year and hardly going out with girls at all (not gfs just to town etc.) So what should I do to make them take me more seriously?

Thanks

Well you need to change your humour a little for the girls I'm guessing, but this can be a good way to break the ice and get talking. If you like a girl once you've been talking for a while you need to make a statement of intent(SOI), which can be a "you look really beautiful(sexy)". Now you can say this along with something else, it's actually better if you do. Like if they like your sense of humour, and are humourous themselves, you can say "beautiful(sexy) and funny". This let's them see that you like them in that way, etc. Also, girls feel more comfortable if on approach and while talking to them u give them small touches, on the arm etc. Just helps relax, but it has to be natural so that neither of you really conciously notice you doing it. And finally when you feel the conversation drying up a little give them a hug(if it's dried up and you're gonna split and walk away, or something), and look at them as if you wanna kiss them. If they look back at you like this then go for it. Try and get their number also. This is more for a club situation though. :biggrin:

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Marta Ferreira

billbonesetc, you're right that its a terribly cliche advice, but what else can you really expect in this case?? dear anon, a sense of humour is great, but you dont want to put yourself in a position where you are the joke or something - sense of humour is good with confidence and a strong personality! the advice is not only to be yourself, but to build up your self confidence and stop worrying about what girls think or dont think about you so much! who cares?? its probb because you're so stressed or worried that things arent going how you want. On the other hand, its probably most in your head because you seem to worry and stress so much about this! people see us as we present ourselves - be who you honestly are inside (sorry billbonesetc), and only those who deserve your attention will gain it. relax!!

I agree with this fully

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Pandamonk

This is more for a club situation though. :biggrin:

uh, the whole "you're beautiful, i want to kiss you look and give me your phone" thing really might be for the club situation - doing that might not get him "taken seriously" on most occasions with girls, but i take your point

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+ thx for agreeing with me :biggrin:

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Another good piece of advice is that, if there's a girl who's being chatted up by another guy and she really doesn't look interested at all, and she's looking for a way out, as long as shes given you a look(you'll know what i mean if it happns)walk over and try and help her out. Maybe say "hiya" and put your arm around her looking at the guy as you do, as if she's your gf or sister. This usually scares the guy off and she's usually quite grateful. This can go horribly wrong though, lol. Also you need to make a girl want you, and the only way a girl wants something is if she can't have it, lol. So if you get quite long eye contact with her, you have to be the 1 to look away first, lol. After a while, look back and try and gain eye contact again, then look away. If you look round a bit later, and she's still looking, walk over to here and introduce yourself. Then apply all the techniques I've suggested earlier, lol. :biggrin:

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Marta Ferreira

uh, the whole "you're beautiful, i want to kiss you look and give me your phone" thing really might be for the club situation - doing that might not get him "taken seriously" on most occasions with girls, but i take your point

Well to ever be taken seriously you need to have a way to get in touch with each other, so you need the phone number. Also, you could ask if she wants a drink, and suggest meeting up in a few days if things seems to be going well. The looking like you wanna kiss is only if everything seems to be going well, and is a test to make sure you don't kiss her when she's not interested. If she is then she'll probs do it back, then get in there, lol.

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but he's saying "not gfs, just going out to town etc", not clubs and kissing necessarily - thats a confidence issue, not a girls issue, if you see what i mean - your advice might be good if hes out hunting for girls or something, but not just to get along with 'em in the first place:P

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Marta Ferreira

but he's saying "not gfs, just going out to town etc", not clubs and kissing necessarily - thats a confidence issue, not a girls issue, if you see what i mean - your advice might be good if hes out hunting for girls or something, but not just to get along with 'em in the first place:P

Must of missd that bit, lol, sorry :redface:

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