He takes me for granted

Me and this guy had a bit of a break recently (2 months) from our 4 year long relationship which I was feeling a bit disillusioned by. When I came back, he was wonderful for about a month, and our relationship was fantastic again. Now he's slipped back into his old ways, taking me for granted, ignoring me a lot when he's 'stressed' and being really dismissive. Even his ex said that she knows that he loves me but he takes me for granted. How can I stop him from doing this?

dump the lazy ****

stand up to him and tell him how you feel, if he continues them dump him for good.

Reply 3

Gem

You're not going to get anywhere if you don't talk to him about this, for all you know he might not know he's upsetting you as much.

You deserve to be treat better than this, tell him how you feel. :smile:

Reply 4

Laika

I'm sure if they got to the point of a 2 month break they've discussed it already. I realise I took my girlfriend for granted when we were together and if I had a chance to go back I would have been a lot better. it seems like he got the hint because he acted differently for a while but he let himself slip back to the old routine.

How much time do you spend together? Maybe you need to see a bit less of eachother to remind him how important you are to him. Maybe you need to reinforce that you can't stay in a relationship like that and if he doesn't change then he will lose you. It's definitely worth working at it because I'm sure he will have a lot of regrets if he loses you over this, but on the other hand if he can't learn to change then maybe a long term future isn't good.

Reply 5

GreenMonstrosity

Spend less time together. Absence makes the heart fonder, and if you become to accustomed to one another's presence, well, you merely become another mundane fixture in the other's life.

Reply 6

danni_bella

Yeah that doesn't sound fair. Anyway as per usual I thoroughly agree with everything Gem has said above, she's always right IMO :smile:

Reply 7

kabir_cob

I think if you really feel for him then just talk to him nicely.. dont be rude and all and jus tell him whatever you think... I think even you will agree that these kind of things are bound to happen but then I guess breaking up is not the only answer.. thats wat i feel....

Reply 8

Nick R

It's not fair to treat you like that. And I bet he knows he's doing it.

See less of him. If that doesn't work, then like people have said, break up with him. Ignore him for a little while - he'll probabally beg you to have him back. Then do whatever your heart tells you...