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Ever fallen in love with someone you're not supposed to fall in love with?

It seems I have fallen simultaneously for two girls. The one, I adore, but have little in common with; with the other I have an incredible rapport. I have a close emotional connection with the former, but an effortless mental and "spiritual" connection with the latter. I am on the verge of a relationship with the first, and could have a chance at a relationship with the second - if I act soon. Short of melding them into one (pretty much perfect) girl (incidentally with very good proportions) I'm at a loss as to what to do. Ever fallen in love with two people at the same time? I think I have done this and now feel trapped between the two. I'm interested in your thoughts,

Reply 1

Anonymous #1

**** em both, its not that difficult, just make sure you don't mess up the names. Good luck!

Reply 2

GreenMonstrosity

OP

Anonymous

**** em both, its not that difficult, just make sure you don't mess up the names. Good luck!

LOL might actually just solve the problem.

Reply 3

Gem

14

I've fallen in love with 2 guys I shouldn't have fallen for. It all ends hurty.

All I can say, is cut your losses before you get hurt, you'll find someone perfect soon :smile:

That said, do you not have a 'extra special' feeling about one of them?! I dunno if it's possible to be in love with more than one person at once.

Reply 4

Profesh

20

I'd esteem the spiritual connection, the 'rapport', as paramount. Purely emotional 'connections' (and by that token, the relationships that they predicate) can prove transitory; conversely, a true, spiritual nexus (notwithstanding its rarity) promises longevity as well as commonality.

Reply 5

-Kav-

12

Profesh

I'd esteem the spiritual connection, the 'rapport', as paramount. Purely emotional 'connections' (and by that token, the relationships that they predicate) can prove transitory; conversely, a true, spiritual nexus (notwithstanding its rarity) promises longevity as well as commonality.

Hah, that's a mouthful, even for you.

More relevently, a friend of mine has spent the last year and a bit in very much the same situation as this and it all ended up going to Hell for her. I'd strongly advise making a decision as quickly as possible, as difficult as it may be to do.

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

basically, they all agree with me. it can be done, youre a clever girl, so have your cake AND eat it

Reply 7

GreenMonstrosity

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Profesh

I'd esteem the spiritual connection, the 'rapport', as paramount. Purely emotional 'connections' (and by that token, the relationships that they predicate) can prove transitory; conversely, a true, spiritual nexus (notwithstanding its rarity) promises longevity as well as commonality.

My rational aspect concurs with you, yet the emotional reality on the ground prevents one from acting impetuously. Still, I have a truly kindred spirit with the second, and consequently feel rather more readily drawn to her than I am to the other. Even then, having invested my emotions into the first moreso than the second, I would feel I had "led her on" and to spurn her at this point would be unchivalrous.

Reply 8

billbonesknowswhatimean

so close to a perfect Buzzcocks reference in the thread title there

Reply 9

Sithius

16

No
Maybe
Yes

Erm... no.

Reply 10

Mark S

17

GreenMonstrosity

It seems I have fallen simultaneously for two girls. The one, I adore, but have little in common with; with the other I have an incredible rapport. I have a close emotional connection with the former, but an effortless mental and "spiritual" connection with the latter. I am on the verge of a relationship with the first, and could have a chance at a relationship with the second - if I act soon. Short of melding them into one (pretty much perfect) girl (incidentally with very good proportions) I'm at a loss as to what to do. Ever fallen in love with two people at the same time? I think I have done this and now feel trapped between the two. I'm interested in your thoughts,

What you mean to say is 'have you ever wanted to f*** your cousin'. And here's what i've got to say to that son, there is nothing wrong with a bit of hanky panky with your cousin, as long as you dont tell the folks

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

Erm - twice i think. One was a girl who i met, became close friends with, and who i probably would say is my best friend now. The other was another friend's ex.

Reply 12

Sazarina88

11

Deep down, do you have a feeling about which girl you want more?

Reply 13

GreenMonstrosity

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Sazarina88

Deep down, do you have a feeling about which girl you want more?

To be honest, I do. But im getting sucked into a relationship with the other one faster than I can stop it without upsetting anybody.

Reply 14

Sazarina88

11

GreenMonstrosity

To be honest, I do. But im getting sucked into a relationship with the other one faster than I can stop it without upsetting anybody.

Well, perhaps you may have to upset some people :frown:

Reply 15

Profesh

20

GreenMonstrosity

My rational aspect concurs with you, yet the emotional reality on the ground prevents one from acting impetuously. Still, I have a truly kindred spirit with the second, and consequently feel rather more readily drawn to her than I am to the other. Even then, having invested my emotions into the first moreso than the second, I would feel I had "led her on" and to spurn her at this point would be unchivalrous.

You knew that before you posted here: assuming that your 'rational aspect' is responsible for this thread, you must be at least somewhat amenable to persuasion either way.

I suspect that you're going to have to commit an act of the utmost unchivalry. Still, better now than further down the line.

Reply 16

Zafda

8

put it this way, a good relationship lasts when the couple, even if the have their differences, are almost the best of friends and can trust/compromise with each other.

and no-ones almost perfect, they often seem it, but its hardly true.
depends what your idea of perfect is though..

Reply 17

Anonymous #3

yup, fell in love with my teacher...still am..i know its not appropriate...i know its not really love.. but i really do have feelings for him. i dont care what people say if they say i cant have feelings for him but at the end of the day, its how i feel inside and i say that i do.

its a bitch isnt it to have feelings for someone and your not supposed to,...

Ever fallen in love with someone you're not supposed to fall in love with?

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