I'm interested in what people think about housewives - are they irrelevant in modern society? And what about househusbands?
Me, personally? I can't understand how someone can be a housewive from say age 25 to 75. Wouldn't you get so god awfully bored? Ambition? Career?
I understand the desire to spend time with children, but say only till they're 3 or 4 and start school. What do you do when they go to school? Seems an awfully boring life to me. I personally think it suggests a lack of ambition, and I can't be attracted to a person like that as I find ambition a very attractive quality.
So, on the whole, not for me, don't get why anyone would be a housewife in the long run. Oh and ditto for househusbands, though its FAR, FAR more frowned upon by society, whatever the idealists on here say.
I have the utmost respect for them. Someone who is prepared to dedicate their time and energy toward maintaining a home and raising children, that's truly admirable. As long as there are no financial difficulties, this is the ideal family structure. I'm a firm advocate of family units which are structured around a stable home environment with a housewife or househusband (doesn't matter which) with a main breadwinner (or breadwinners).
Alternatively, instead of a housewife, some other family member can take on the role responsibilities which are traditionally held by a housewife. It can be a son, daughter, aunt, uncle...whatever.
If being a housewife was actually difficult all the feminists on here would claim it's part of the patriarchy and insist the men stay at home.
It's an easy option.
I'm not sure about it being "irrelevant", though. That's a bit of TSR otherworldliness, I think.
I respect ACTUAL housewives/husbands , that being those who actually spend their day doing work around their house and/or with their children. I have no respect for these lazy peoplewho have the whole day to do these things and act all confused when their spouse comes home all mad because the house is still a mess.
When you have two working adults with children then both adults should reasonably expect to share the job of looking after and running the house and looking after the children. For most people this means everyone getting home at 5 from school and work, meal to be cooked, house to clean, laundry, homework, paperwork etc. If one party (man or woman) is willing to take on the job of looking after those things instead of being employed then it means evenings and weekends are free from chores for the employed adult and family life can be enjoyed.
I'd far rather kids and husband come home to a clean house with a home cooked meal, all paperwork done and a relaxed and happy family sharing quality time together, than a chaotic place where everyone is busy and nobody has time for themselves or each other.