Family and love!!

I am very confused on my situation, in my culture its hard for me and my bf to be and up to this day i dont think anyone has had a relationship like me and him, he is the cousin of my brothers wife :frown:

i really didnt like him in the beginning but as time passed i got more and more attracted to him, now that both of us are together we had a family problem!!! he lives in another country by the way, he only came last Christmas on his school holidays and thats how we met.
we had both given up on our relationship and stopped mailing however both of us could not rest and we once again stared to mail, its impossible for us to stop the relationship as we tryed many times but one of us just mails the other one. i dont really know why i posted this but maybe to get some opinions about other peoples views on the situation, please help!!! :frown:

Reply 1

Zafda

he is the cousin of your brothers wife, why can't you and him be then?
is it because of the long distance thing..?

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

no not because of the long distance thing but because he is realted to me in a way, therefore that mucks things up

Reply 3

billbonesknowswhatimean

but..not genetically. it's not as if your child'll be born with the scrapings from the bottom of gene pool

Reply 4

Mellanie

Yep, as the ppl before me have said too, I am just failing to see exactly why you two can't be together?!?!

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

okay the ting is, if he is my sister-in-laws cousin does that not make him my borthers "brother" and if so then hes realted to me. i think that might make more sence

Reply 6

billbonesknowswhatimean

nope. there's absolutely no natural barrier between you two

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

well it feels a lot better as eveyone does not think its a problem, but my family will once they find out, how can i explain this to them?

Reply 8

lilac!!

well it would be easy, i mean once they have seen that you guys really do love each other it should be easy, unless your parents are strict or something then..... :s

Reply 9

Zafda

well you're both not technically related unless your brothers wife is your cousin or something..
which i doubt.

two of my mums brothers are married to two of my dads sisters, its a coincidence i know but they're not related.. their kids are related, but not them.. so i don't see a problem.

go for it i tell ya ;D

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

thanks for your advice, its really put a lode of my mind!!!

Reply 11

The Green Manalishi

You're not related by blood, but only through the bond of your brother's marriage.
Would you like to share with us why your family would think badly of it? Have they mentioned anything?

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

well its not that they have said anything but my cultures like that, because my bf is the couin of my brothers wife he is my brothers, brother so therefore hes related to me, thats the problem

Reply 13

billbonesknowswhatimean

you might wanna hire a crowd for the wedding though cos it sounds like you'll be short on numbers..

Reply 14

True Love

I see no problem with it cos it's not actually incest.

But i suppose we must identify what culture you're a part of in order to understand the context. What culture are you part of?

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

well im from the asian culture, i had a talk with my brother about it last night and what he said sounded as if there is a poosiblity but im still scred incase