girls just randomly ditched boys they fancy!!!!?????

I have had this expereince like 5 times at least.

girls come flirting to me, making the move etc.. some of them I liked, some I didnt.

i treated them very nicely

but all of them, for no apparent reason, one day, they all just "lost" interest in me. there was no more contact between us ever. i was very stunned.

is it normal?

Reply 1

Captain Scarlet

1

Girls are very "complex" things. I wouldnt worry about it.

Reply 2

lilac!!

15

i think they got bf's

Reply 3

Crimson Black

13

lilac!!

i think they got bf's

How complex. :rolleyes:

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

OP

no they dont. i am certain (like 95% :s )

Reply 5

Captain Scarlet

1

Dschingis

How complex. :rolleyes:

I say "complex" because i have been bullied into stopping calling girls comlicated, crazy etc. so they are aparently "complex".

Reply 6

lilac!!

15

well too tell you the truth, maybe there another "hot" guy that has taken your place or something, or maybe there buzzy?

Reply 7

dyslexic_banana

1

Anonymous

I have had this expereince like 5 times at least.

girls come flirting to me, making the move etc.. some of them I liked, some I didnt.

i treated them very nicely

but all of them, for no apparent reason, one day, they all just "lost" interest in me. there was no more contact between us ever. i was very stunned.

is it normal?

Welcome to my world; in bold is your answer. This is what many refer to as 'The curse of the nice guy'. Women get bored of being treated nicely; it's not exciting enough for them. 'Treat 'em mean, and keep 'em keen.'

But, hey, it's a little too soon for this topic to crop up again........

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

i did not mean "too nicely" :wink:

i am sure I didnt over do the niceness. (only on 2 girls, but still... :s)

I was just acting myself (wasnt really bothered either way)

Reply 9

Zafda

8

those girls just probably like leading guys, some girls do.
depends where you met them aswell..

Reply 10

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

i did not mean "too nicely" :wink:

i am sure I didnt over do the niceness. (only on 2 girls, but still... :s)

I was just acting myself (wasnt really bothered either way)

Maybe they just wanted to be friends. Or can't you be friends with girls? I'm sure you have more than 5 male friends you've lost touch with.

Reply 11

Anonymous #2

Yea you slipped into the friend zone, make subtle negative comments every now and again just so you dont look like a supplicating loser. Also it sounds like you were waiting for them to make a move, which is always a bad idea, show dominance and confidence.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

all from school, but some I talk too outside of school, like in the park or football field etc..

Reply 13

Zafda

8

oh.
well if they're nice to you for a bit, as some people have said they're just being friendly.
often it takes A LOT for a girl to like someone.
girls are generally pretty nice & polite, unless these girls were being more than nice.
how nice were they with you, that made you feel like they were leading you on? eg what did they say/do

Reply 14

Ron Stoppable

14

Anonymous

girls come flirting to me, making the move etc.. some of them I liked, some I didnt ... i treated them very nicely ... but all of them, for no apparent reason, one day, they all just "lost" interest in me.

They

Keep you guessing the whole day through

Play your emotions and push all your buttons - it's true

Cos that's what girls do.

Reply 15

dyslexic_banana

1

Anonymous

i did not mean "too nicely" :wink:

i am sure I didnt over do the niceness. (only on 2 girls, but still... :s)

I was just acting myself (wasnt really bothered either way)

To treat some women nicely at all, is to treat them "too nicely".

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

generalebriety

Maybe they just wanted to be friends. Or can't you be friends with girls? I'm sure you have more than 5 male friends you've lost touch with.

Sorry I meant lost contact like as in "when I talked to them. they just seemed uninterested, unpolite (dunno why?!), and just gives u a CLEAR feeling they are not interested in being friend or gf or whatever.

btw, those girls still go to my school, but they avoid me, and whenever they have to talk to me, they are rude. for no reason, :confused:

Zafda

oh.
well if they're nice to you for a bit, as some people have said they're just being friendly.
often it takes A LOT for a girl to like someone.
girls are generally pretty nice & polite, unless these girls were being more than nice.
how nice were they with you, that made you feel like they were leading you on? eg what did they say/do

like flirt with me, and once when I was packing my bags (leaving class late), this girl waited for me and said "come, i'll walk with u to the next class".

so I smiled and said "ok".

anyways she started going whereever I went (like sitting next to me in lunch, talking to me, flirting, just focusing her attention on me for the next week (she could have been with her other friends (girls)), then suddenly the next day, I said "hi" and she ignored me, and just started treating me rudely and just shrugging me off? :confused:

and btw, can u explain the bolded part of ur answer in detial?
thx

Reply 17

Anonymous #3

I think those girls are stupid if they dont want to be treated nicely. ANd then these type of girls complain that their bf is treating them like junk/doesnt care about them.

Unfortuantely, from what ive experienced and witnessed (im a 20 year old guy), most girls around my age are like this :frown:

Reply 18

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

Sorry I meant lost contact like as in "when I talked to them. they just seemed uninterested, unpolite (dunno why?!), and just gives u a CLEAR feeling they are not interested in being friend or gf or whatever.

btw, those girls still go to my school, but they avoid me, and whenever they have to talk to me, they are rude. for no reason, :confused:

Yersh, I have friends like that too.

Reply 19

quinny132

Women love to be fancied. So even if they have no intrest in you they will flirt to get you thinking they like you. This then means your nice to them and they look popular. They then run to their little friends and go oh jimminy so wants me can't you all tell. This meaning all her girlie friends think wow all the boys want her, when in reality she started flirting with you just so she will look good down the line.

girls just randomly ditched boys they fancy!!!!?????

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