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How to tell him

My best (male) friend recently told me he likes me 'like that'. We've already made plans to go to the same uni, we are in the same halls and everything. I really care about him but don't like him like that. I've tried to explain to him when he hinted at it before - saying I wasn't ready (I've just broken up with my last bf who hurt me incredibly badly) and that this is a bad time for stuff to start happening. I think he took this as meaning that something will happen between me and him eventually which I know it won't as he has kept persisting. I want to be honest with him but I also don't want to create any bad feeling between us at the beginning of what is gonna be the best few years of our lives, especially as we're gonna be living in such close proximity to each other, and i definitely dont want to hurt him as hes been through a lot himself.How should I deal with this?
Tell him again. As straight as possible. Sit him down and tell him nothing will ever happen.
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That's a tough one. I suggest you just talk to him and tell him.Nothing like the truth to make sure things are okay in the end. Good luck :hugs:
The Mudman
Tell him again. As straight as possible. Sit him down and tell him nothing will ever happen.


And make sure he understands.
Anonymous
My best (male) friend recently told me he likes me 'like that'. We've already made plans to go to the same uni, we are in the same halls and everything. I really care about him but don't like him like that. I've tried to explain to him when he hinted at it before - saying I wasn't ready (I've just broken up with my last bf who hurt me incredibly badly) and that this is a bad time for stuff to start happening. I think he took this as meaning that something will happen between me and him eventually

Well... can you blame him? Men generally never were great at taking hints. Tell him, three times, in clear English, that you're not interested, and he'll get there.