Regret?

What's the best thing to do when you regret not telling someone how you felt? I was aware I'd feel like this - a guy I really, really liked and still do more than anyone else I know, I didn't tell him and now it's too late because I'm unlikely to see him properly to say something! I mean I could hunt him down, but that's just silly! I just don't know what to tell myself to make me feel better. I feel like I've lost my chance for a great relationship! You could say I'll meet somebody new, but this is unlikely atm, and I know what I want! Help!

Reply 1

Sazarina88

11

Why is it silly to track him down if you really, really liked him?

Yes you may meet someone new but, by the sounds of it, you will still have this guy at the back of your mind.

If you think it's worth it, track him down.

Reply 2

Ron Stoppable

14

Sazarina88

Why is it silly to track him down if you really, really liked him?

Yes you may meet someone new but, by the sounds of it, you will still have this guy at the back of your mind.

If you think it's worth it, track him down.

Would you put that into practice? :rolleyes:

Reply 3

Sazarina88

11

Ron Stoppable

Would you put that into practice? :rolleyes:

You know the answer to that.

Reply 4

Eccentric Man

8

Anonymous

What's the best thing to do when you regret not telling someone how you felt? I was aware I'd feel like this - a guy I really, really liked and still do more than anyone else I know, I didn't tell him and now it's too late because I'm unlikely to see him properly to say something! I mean I could hunt him down, but that's just silly! I just don't know what to tell myself to make me feel better. I feel like I've lost my chance for a great relationship! You could say I'll meet somebody new, but this is unlikely atm, and I know what I want! Help!

Even though l'm a bloke i was in a very similar situation about a month ago... l was mad on this girl for years yet she never clicked that when l mentioned stuff like suggesting to meet up i was after anything more than just being a nice friend...

Anyways this is how i helped myself get over her

stage 1
email her telling her straight

stage 2
read reply feeling sad that shes rly taken it to heart and reply

Stage 3
re-read email and discover shes actually being so self-centred that she doesn't even pass comment on your feelings

stage 4
realise she's actually an arogant bitch

stage 5
look back on evidence and notice its likely she's gay

stage 6
get the hint shes not worth it after +1 month oof not receiving a reply fromm someone who says "she would love to keep in touch with you"

hope you can do similar things :wink:

Reply 5

Anonymous #2

Yeah, I'm in exactly the same position. I'm in love with this girl, and I mean true love (or at least as far as I define it - please let's not argue over what "love" is, everyone's interpretation is different), but we're going to different unis in September, and she has a b/f now, so there is nothing I can do to tell her how much I love her :frown:

. I actually love her with every fibre in my body, and can't stop thinking of her, but there is nothing, nothing at all I can do about it. I don't know what to do, I rarely feel well, and have given up caring about anything except her - she's all I can think about.

Reply 6

Eccentric Man

8

Anonymous

Yeah, I'm in exactly the same position. I'm in love with this girl, and I mean true love (or at least as far as I define it - please let's not argue over what "love" is, everyone's interpretation is different), but we're going to different unis in September, and she has a b/f now, so there is nothing I can do to tell her how much I love her :frown:

. I actually love her with every fibre in my body, and can't stop thinking of her, but there is nothing, nothing at all I can do about it. I don't know what to do, I rarely feel well, and have given up caring about anything except her - she's all I can think about.

I know this sounds really shallow but my best advice is to somehow become pissed off with her, i found it worked well for me. An older woman friend actually read the email i mentioned above and told me it was actually arrogant, and that helped me endlessly.

Reply 7

matt@internet

12

Anonymous

What's the best thing to do when you regret not telling someone how you felt? I was aware I'd feel like this - a guy I really, really liked and still do more than anyone else I know, I didn't tell him and now it's too late because I'm unlikely to see him properly to say something! I mean I could hunt him down, but that's just silly! I just don't know what to tell myself to make me feel better. I feel like I've lost my chance for a great relationship! You could say I'll meet somebody new, but this is unlikely atm, and I know what I want! Help!

Are you in college? Will he be there on results day? If so talk to him then. That's what I'm planning to do.

Reply 8

Zlatan

1

Eccentric Man

Even though l'm a bloke i was in a very similar situation about a month ago... l was mad on this girl for years yet she never clicked that when l mentioned stuff like suggesting to meet up i was after anything more than just being a nice friend...

Anyways this is how i helped myself get over her

stage 1
email her telling her straight

stage 2
read reply feeling sad that shes rly taken it to heart and reply

Stage 3
re-read email and discover shes actually being so self-centred that she doesn't even pass comment on your feelings

stage 4
realise she's actually an arogant bitch

stage 5
look back on evidence and notice its likely she's gay

stage 6
get the hint shes not worth it after +1 month oof not receiving a reply fromm someone who says "she would love to keep in touch with you"

hope you can do similar things :wink:

Are you Andy Murray in desguise?

Reply 9

Eccentric Man

8

Falco

Are you Andy Murray in desguise?

uhhhhhhh, I'm sure if i knew more about tenis players that'll be funny. But as l don't could you enlighten me? :confused:

Reply 10

Anonymous #3

I'd go against the flow here and say don't bother with trying to tell him.

I listened to all the advice, you know, you regret the things you don't do more than those you do, tell him so at least you know blah blah. It's all rubbish, don't listen.

The truth is if you know him and has been interacting with him he will have got some clues that you like him. And the fact he hasn't responded means he's trying not to notice because he doesn't feel the same, but doesn't want to lose your friendship. Tbh if someone liked you something would have happened by now.

So what happens if you track this guy down and confess all? he will um and ah and say things like, but I do like you, it's not that, it's just I'm confused etc etc. I can almost guarantee you won't get a straight answer out of him. And despite what you think is an apocalyptic bringing up of an unspoken topic that will forever change everything, it will change nothing. You still don't know exactly what he feels, you'll never get a straight 'yes' or 'no' and if you stay around you may have that conversation again and again, with the same inconclusive result.

So all in all you end up giving your heart away, without any kind of answer and without knowing for sure and being constantly in pain for as long as this goes on. All I can recommend, and this is some honest advice from bitter personal experience, is to not touch this guy with a barge pole! Cut off contact and just have him out of your life.

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