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Friends? What friends?
Its official, i have no friends.
This whole summer holiday i've been out with my friends a total of 6 times. How incredably sad.
Whats even sadder is that i dont even like my own friends anymore. I know its normal to grow apart from your friends but it seems that i'm slowly growing apart from all of my friends and the same time, which leaves me high and dry.
I guess it doesnt help that it cost my friends £7 to come and see me, but still i would expect it at least a couple of times. I'm seen as quite popular and at school am in between varies friendship groups so have a big group of friends, but outside of school i'm not that much of a friend to hang out with them. However i could always count on my two best friends, you know the kind of friend whose been through thick and thin with you? Well one of them has gone on holiday, and is ignoring my calls and txts, yet txting and calling another not so close friend and her boyfriend. The other best friend spends all her time with her family (shes like obsessed with there company) and frankly when i've met up with her twice shes quite boring and just takes about her family.
God, its just that i want to go out and have fun like everyone else seems to be doing, but i dont have anyone to have a laugh with. I remember last summer holiday, where i wouls be going out every second day with various friends, and having sooo much fun and i was so close to everyone, and now its like i dont exist.
I cant wait till uni to make friends i really like, but in the mean time i feel really sad and pathetic, even my family think i'm weird for not going out as much as i used to.
Im stuck in a rut and i dont know what to do
This whole summer holiday i've been out with my friends a total of 6 times. How incredably sad.
Whats even sadder is that i dont even like my own friends anymore. I know its normal to grow apart from your friends but it seems that i'm slowly growing apart from all of my friends and the same time, which leaves me high and dry.
I guess it doesnt help that it cost my friends £7 to come and see me, but still i would expect it at least a couple of times. I'm seen as quite popular and at school am in between varies friendship groups so have a big group of friends, but outside of school i'm not that much of a friend to hang out with them. However i could always count on my two best friends, you know the kind of friend whose been through thick and thin with you? Well one of them has gone on holiday, and is ignoring my calls and txts, yet txting and calling another not so close friend and her boyfriend. The other best friend spends all her time with her family (shes like obsessed with there company) and frankly when i've met up with her twice shes quite boring and just takes about her family.
God, its just that i want to go out and have fun like everyone else seems to be doing, but i dont have anyone to have a laugh with. I remember last summer holiday, where i wouls be going out every second day with various friends, and having sooo much fun and i was so close to everyone, and now its like i dont exist.
I cant wait till uni to make friends i really like, but in the mean time i feel really sad and pathetic, even my family think i'm weird for not going out as much as i used to.
Im stuck in a rut and i dont know what to do
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Well it's pleasing to know that other people have no friends! PS: At least your family don't stress whenever you go out. For me, going out after 6p.m is such a big deal I don't bother kicking up the hassle it causes anymore. So I'm biding my time and accumulating my resentment towards my parents, until then. THEY are the reason why I never have fun.
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I was going to say the same thing.
I can't stand it when people who blatantly have friends complain about having "no friends." It just makes those of us who really don't have friends feel awful.
I can't stand it when people who blatantly have friends complain about having "no friends." It just makes those of us who really don't have friends feel awful.
If your refering to my post, having "friends" not really your friends, i might aswell have no friends at all, seeing as i do have no real friends.
Yet you've been out with friends six times....
When you say stuff like
It does make it seem like you have friends.
I haven't had someone like that since like... third grade or something.
i could always count on my two best friends, you know the kind of friend whose been through thick and thin with you
It does make it seem like you have friends.
I haven't had someone like that since like... third grade or something.
Why are you people so insensetive? It obviously matters to this person. Sure they exaggerate a little, but obviously still upset.
Well if you had bothered to continue reading you'd have found that these people i no longer consider my friends. What is this, and 'i have less friends than you, for the longest time so there!' competion. Should i come back and post in 5yrs?
You having no friends, should realise its not a nice situation to be it so why the hostility?
You having no friends, should realise its not a nice situation to be it so why the hostility?
GreenMonstrosity
Why are you people so insensetive? It obviously matters to this person. Sure they exaggerate a little, but obviously still upset.
I think it could actually be quite helpful adopting a less sympathetic approach in this case, in order to make the original poster aware of how they're not that badly off compared to a lot of people. It appears that, rather than the replies being insensitive, the original post demonstrates oversensitivity.
Im not a very popular person and in my home time I have ummm... 1 friend lol, who ive seen about 3 times this holiday, and where i go to uni i have about ummm.. 2 people id call friends..
im living with a bunch of people who as recently ive realised id prolly be best of not living with but im stuck unless i lose my deposit, they seem to get bothered by the fact i dont actually like going out and getting wasted, i like to go out, just not get wasted, but this really bothers them, so they dont even invite me now,
and at uni i have a weekend job, which i have to be up at 6am for so on fridays i use to get in between 12 and 1am, and soon this annoyed them so they stopped telling me when they were going, and even when it was things like going to another friend in another block to watch a movie
got that off my chest :P
im living with a bunch of people who as recently ive realised id prolly be best of not living with but im stuck unless i lose my deposit, they seem to get bothered by the fact i dont actually like going out and getting wasted, i like to go out, just not get wasted, but this really bothers them, so they dont even invite me now,
and at uni i have a weekend job, which i have to be up at 6am for so on fridays i use to get in between 12 and 1am, and soon this annoyed them so they stopped telling me when they were going, and even when it was things like going to another friend in another block to watch a movie
got that off my chest :P
~the_one~
Its official, i have no friends.
This whole summer holiday i've been out with my friends a total of 6 times. How incredably sad.
Whats even sadder is that i dont even like my own friends anymore. I know its normal to grow apart from your friends but it seems that i'm slowly growing apart from all of my friends and the same time, which leaves me high and dry.
I guess it doesnt help that it cost my friends £7 to come and see me, but still i would expect it at least a couple of times. I'm seen as quite popular and at school am in between varies friendship groups so have a big group of friends, but outside of school i'm not that much of a friend to hang out with them. However i could always count on my two best friends, you know the kind of friend whose been through thick and thin with you? Well one of them has gone on holiday, and is ignoring my calls and txts, yet txting and calling another not so close friend and her boyfriend. The other best friend spends all her time with her family (shes like obsessed with there company) and frankly when i've met up with her twice shes quite boring and just takes about her family.
God, its just that i want to go out and have fun like everyone else seems to be doing, but i dont have anyone to have a laugh with. I remember last summer holiday, where i wouls be going out every second day with various friends, and having sooo much fun and i was so close to everyone, and now its like i dont exist.
I cant wait till uni to make friends i really like, but in the mean time i feel really sad and pathetic, even my family think i'm weird for not going out as much as i used to.
Im stuck in a rut and i dont know what to do
This whole summer holiday i've been out with my friends a total of 6 times. How incredably sad.
Whats even sadder is that i dont even like my own friends anymore. I know its normal to grow apart from your friends but it seems that i'm slowly growing apart from all of my friends and the same time, which leaves me high and dry.
I guess it doesnt help that it cost my friends £7 to come and see me, but still i would expect it at least a couple of times. I'm seen as quite popular and at school am in between varies friendship groups so have a big group of friends, but outside of school i'm not that much of a friend to hang out with them. However i could always count on my two best friends, you know the kind of friend whose been through thick and thin with you? Well one of them has gone on holiday, and is ignoring my calls and txts, yet txting and calling another not so close friend and her boyfriend. The other best friend spends all her time with her family (shes like obsessed with there company) and frankly when i've met up with her twice shes quite boring and just takes about her family.
God, its just that i want to go out and have fun like everyone else seems to be doing, but i dont have anyone to have a laugh with. I remember last summer holiday, where i wouls be going out every second day with various friends, and having sooo much fun and i was so close to everyone, and now its like i dont exist.
I cant wait till uni to make friends i really like, but in the mean time i feel really sad and pathetic, even my family think i'm weird for not going out as much as i used to.
Im stuck in a rut and i dont know what to do
Come and scream BOGIIIIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEES! with me in the Natural History museum and we'll blame it on the schoolkids and dinosaurs.
If they meant anything to you as friends you'd make an effort to see them. Don't let it get you down though. Go and do things on your own if need be, you can sometimes discover great things about yourself on your own. (Sorry if you've said something that contradicts what I've said, I haven't read whole thread.)
Sarah xx
Sarah xx
~the_one~
Well if you had bothered to continue reading you'd have found that these people i no longer consider my friends. What is this, and 'i have less friends than you, for the longest time so there!' competion. Should i come back and post in 5yrs?
You having no friends, should realise its not a nice situation to be it so why the hostility?
You having no friends, should realise its not a nice situation to be it so why the hostility?
THere's no hostility coming from here, i'm just pointing out that, from what you've said, you seem to have friends. One of your best friends is on holiday, so that doesn't mean she doesn't want to be your friend anymore, and the other one talks about her family too much, and you don't like that. It's your choice not to call them your friends anymore... so it's not an issue of you not being able to make (or keep) friends, it's an issue of you not being happy with the ones you have... from what you've said you don't seem to have trouble making friends, so you could probably easily make new ones.
THere's no hostility coming from here, i'm just pointing out that, from what you've said, you seem to have friends. One of your best friends is on holiday, so that doesn't mean she doesn't want to be your friend anymore, and the other one talks about her family too much, and you don't like that. It's your choice not to call them your friends anymore... so it's not an issue of you not being able to make (or keep) friends, it's an issue of you not being happy with the ones you have... from what you've said you don't seem to have trouble making friends, so you could probably easily make new ones.
Honestly i know, and i can just feel that only one of my friends likes my. Thats the one that spends all her time with her family. My other best friend and i havent been friends for a while now, and we had a big talk about it and i was ment to go on holiday with her but shes been ignoring me, i know its going to be different when she gets back.
Its not that easy to make new friends at our age, besides school and extra curricular stuff its near impossible.
Our situations arent as dissimilar as you might think. Why dont you have friends? Most probably because you dont like or click with your peers. I may have a few friends (not that close to meet up with outside school) yet i dont like or click with them, as you should with friends.
If they meant anything to you as friends you'd make an effort to see them. Don't let it get you down though. Go and do things on your own if need be, you can sometimes discover great things about yourself on your own. (Sorry if you've said something that contradicts what I've said, I haven't read whole thread.)
I did make ALOT of effort to see them, but they blew me off time and time again, so now i dont think they do mean alot to me as friends anymore. I have done some good stuff this holiday on my own but still i miss having real friends.
Come and scream BOGIIIIEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEES! with me in the Natural History museum and we'll blame it on the schoolkids and dinosaurs.
Hey i walked past there today. I dont like scareing little kids they're too cute and fluffy.
Are you going to Uni after summer? If so it'll be easy to make new friends. I have friends, but i don't have a boyfriend so i feel left out a lot of the time when their talking about theirs,
~the_one~
Well if you had bothered to continue reading you'd have found that these people i no longer consider my friends. What is this, and 'i have less friends than you, for the longest time so there!' competion. Should i come back and post in 5yrs?
You having no friends, should realise its not a nice situation to be it so why the hostility?
You having no friends, should realise its not a nice situation to be it so why the hostility?
Because you fairly ****ing obviously have friends. If my friends had to pay £7 to see me they wouldn't see me at all. As it happens I've seen two, once each, one of whom I see every few weeks anyway out of habit (we never do anything) and one of whom I haven't seen for months, maybe years beforehand. The fact that you no longer consider them friends is kind of your fault. Just because you have decided they're not cool enough for you or whatever, doesn't mean they're not still there for you seeing you a hell of a lot more than people see me.
If I'd even stepped outside the front door once this week I'd be happy. ****, if people spoke to me on msn or I got a text once a month I'd be happy. You have friends. Shut up, or change the question, because the question clearly isn't "what friends?", it's "why don't I appreciate my friends when they're quite clearly nicer people than I am?".
*gets off soap box and hurls it across room*
Edit: oh yeah, and
.Edit 2: now these are friends.
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