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I have issues with safety and secrurity
its hard to explain, but its like im paranoid with 'bad' people and being safe, like when i was in my room, id have to search the cupboards and behind the curtains to make sure no one was lurking and id have to have the window shut and the curtains drawn, and when at my parents house i have to have at least two of the dogs in my room at night. When downstairs i have to have the front door chained and the back door locked at all times and when alone i always think someone is there in the house.
and at the mo, im house sitting with my bf at his family home, and its a large 4 bed detached house, and ive got so paranoid that im sleeping in the locked bathroom at night and for the last 2 nights ive thought someone has been lurking in the attic!
no idea why, well, someone did try and break in about a week previously but the dog barked and they fled, but still i cant sleep at night cause im almost certain someone is in the house, when there just cant be!!
should i get some sort of outside help? ive spoken to my mum and dad and there commn over on monday to re assure me but still...i need to think longer terms really
and at the mo, im house sitting with my bf at his family home, and its a large 4 bed detached house, and ive got so paranoid that im sleeping in the locked bathroom at night and for the last 2 nights ive thought someone has been lurking in the attic!
no idea why, well, someone did try and break in about a week previously but the dog barked and they fled, but still i cant sleep at night cause im almost certain someone is in the house, when there just cant be!!
should i get some sort of outside help? ive spoken to my mum and dad and there commn over on monday to re assure me but still...i need to think longer terms really
Whenever you feel paranoid, try and do something that will occupy your mind. Maybe watch the tv. Listen to some music (not headphones though because that can cause paranoia). Do something that will stop you from thinking about this. Also, this might help, before you go to bed, just give the house a once over so that you KNOW that everything is safe and secure, then you won't have anything to be worried about.
Cielo is giving some good advice although I do think you would benefit from going to your GP and getting him/her to refer you to a specialist. At the end of the day, you have nothing to lose. Doing things to pre-occupy yourself will only hide the problem in the short term. You need to find out why you feel so insecure at home. Perhaps the attempted burglary had a greater impact on you than you think.
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Cielo is giving some good advice although I do think you would benefit from going to your GP and getting him/her to refer you to a specialist. At the end of the day, you have nothing to lose. Doing things to pre-occupy yourself will only hide the problem in the short term. You need to find out why you feel so insecure at home. Perhaps the attempted burglary had a greater impact on you than you think.
Hmm, I'm not so sure. I often do this for a few days and then my fear goes away. It's worth a try anyway. I would only expect a GP to send them to a councellor since it's a predominantly pyschological issue that can probably be bettered by seeing a councellor. Unless this problem continues and you spiral into depression, I don't think the GP could prescribe anything as yet. Though I maybe wrong.
I find myself in a similar mindset to you sometimes.
My house was robbed 3 or 4 years ago, I was tied up and locked in my lounge.
For ages, I convinced myself I was fine but then I started to experience the same things as you ... worrying others were in the house etc.
As someone said, do things to try and take your mind off of things. Also, rationalise. Think to yourself that the likelihood that there is someone in your house is very low.
I went to see a psychologist as a result of going to see my GP, it didn't particularly help me but it might help you. As far as I was concerned, it was worth a try.
Good luck, you can PM if you want to chat more.
Sarah xx
My house was robbed 3 or 4 years ago, I was tied up and locked in my lounge.
For ages, I convinced myself I was fine but then I started to experience the same things as you ... worrying others were in the house etc.
As someone said, do things to try and take your mind off of things. Also, rationalise. Think to yourself that the likelihood that there is someone in your house is very low.
I went to see a psychologist as a result of going to see my GP, it didn't particularly help me but it might help you. As far as I was concerned, it was worth a try.
Good luck, you can PM if you want to chat more.
Sarah xx
no, neither, and im finding it hard to pin point exactly where this problem has come from, it hasnt been my whole life and prolly only really started about 12 months ago when i got my own place
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no, neither, and im finding it hard to pin point exactly where this problem has come from, it hasnt been my whole life and prolly only really started about 12 months ago when i got my own place
Well, I really can't comment since I don't have my own place, but I imagine if you tell yourself firmly that it's all locked up alright. Maybe install things like extra burglar alarms and a good fire alarm? These are the things that make me feel safe in my house. Also plus the fact I have 3 dogs to keep me safe! Do you live in a city? Block of flats?
i live in a town at the moment, but soon il be moving to the city, my new house is already installed with every safety device i could think of and im hoping this will help, at my family home there are 4 very protective dogs and when at home with them, after a house search i am fine and settle quickly, but when at my own place i just cant settle at all, and at the mo at my bf house im tucked up in the bathroom using the laptop because the thought of sitting downstairs using the desktop, altho my boyfriend is there reduces me to tears and constant phone calls to my mum and dad, anything like a shadow will see me running for the door and i must have every county police station number in my mobile phone!
also after getting my own place when ever alone, ie no bf i have to sleep with the light on
cause i just cant switch it off
also after getting my own place when ever alone, ie no bf i have to sleep with the light on
cause i just cant switch it offAnonymous
no, neither, and im finding it hard to pin point exactly where this problem has come from, it hasnt been my whole life and prolly only really started about 12 months ago when i got my own place
yea, I dig you. It must be driving you crazy to not know why.
I used to sleep with an automatic weapon under my pillow and check the house as you described every time I came in. I've got slightly better now, and keep it in the safe (next to my bed). But I know why so it's slightly easier to cope with.
I don't know...you're probably best getting a really big and loyal doggy and working out what the problem is
ps: for all the idiots who will moan, the gun is legal.
Anonymous
its hard to explain, but its like im paranoid with 'bad' people and being safe, like when i was in my room, id have to search the cupboards and behind the curtains to make sure no one was lurking and id have to have the window shut and the curtains drawn, and when at my parents house i have to have at least two of the dogs in my room at night. When downstairs i have to have the front door chained and the back door locked at all times and when alone i always think someone is there in the house.
and at the mo, im house sitting with my bf at his family home, and its a large 4 bed detached house, and ive got so paranoid that im sleeping in the locked bathroom at night and for the last 2 nights ive thought someone has been lurking in the attic!
no idea why, well, someone did try and break in about a week previously but the dog barked and they fled, but still i cant sleep at night cause im almost certain someone is in the house, when there just cant be!!
should i get some sort of outside help? ive spoken to my mum and dad and there commn over on monday to re assure me but still...i need to think longer terms really
and at the mo, im house sitting with my bf at his family home, and its a large 4 bed detached house, and ive got so paranoid that im sleeping in the locked bathroom at night and for the last 2 nights ive thought someone has been lurking in the attic!
no idea why, well, someone did try and break in about a week previously but the dog barked and they fled, but still i cant sleep at night cause im almost certain someone is in the house, when there just cant be!!
should i get some sort of outside help? ive spoken to my mum and dad and there commn over on monday to re assure me but still...i need to think longer terms really
I'm exactly like this too, I'm extremely paranoid! I'm alright just as long as I'm not on my own. I know it's irrational and silly but I can't help it, so I know exactly where you're coming from. Once when I was home alone I locked myself in the downstairs bathroom for 20 minutes clutching the biggest kitchen knife we had! I would even get someone to phone me up because talking to someone calmed me down, and I would stand at the front door with the door open so that I would be able to run away if the intruder in my house decided to appear at the top of the stairs and come running down at me!!
In essence, don't worry, I think I am crazy too.
By the way - I have never been burgled so I don't know where this came from lol!
I don't feel that way inside the house, but outside on my own i could just never do it! I'm scared that i'll never become independent, i mean I've never been out anywhere on my own i dread just thinking about it, I'm lucky that i've got my friends to depend on but I'm aware one day I'll have to grow up but i just don't have the courage to go out alone! I'm always scared that something bad will happen, like ill get lost/mugged/kidnapped etc lol paraniod much
I can see why you are like this. I sometimes think there is someone downstairs if its night and everyone else is asleep and i hear a noise from downstaris. I always go down to investigate. I even take a weapon with me If there is anythng handy lol
Its ever since my dog died, since before hten if there was a noise i assumed it was her, plus if someone came in she would probably make a lot of noise. She would not attack anyone, but would always jump on people as a greeting and being a stafordshire Bullteria means this would probably scare of a burgular.
Saying that we had a burgual get in to our back garden and she started barking, so maybe she knew something was up since she pretty much never ever barked.
Its ever since my dog died, since before hten if there was a noise i assumed it was her, plus if someone came in she would probably make a lot of noise. She would not attack anyone, but would always jump on people as a greeting and being a stafordshire Bullteria means this would probably scare of a burgular.
Saying that we had a burgual get in to our back garden and she started barking, so maybe she knew something was up since she pretty much never ever barked.
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