I don't want to be alone

Hi there,

Let me tell you a bit about me, I had a mental breakdown a year ago and I am still recovering from it. I had a traumatic time at university. Now I am on my holidays, I am not well enough to hold down a job. I have a group of friends from college but they are not very nice to me. I get very lonely because I have nothing to do, I have a concentration problem so I can't do any serious studying over the holidays. I feel as if the only way I can get better from my breakdown is if I had a girlfriend or some real genuine friends I could go out with.

My question is this. How do I get new friends or a girlfriend to get me back on track to normality again? I've tried clubbing with my old friends, a couple of dating agencies with no results. How can I find a person who can be there for me in my troubled times?

I need to get better and I feel this is the only way to get out of it.

P.s before you say it I already am medically consulted and I take medication, but its not enough.

Reply 1

khil

Just go out and meet new people. Don't be afraid of meeting new people and that way, you'll find people you can be friends with :smile:

You could PM me if you have no one to talk to? Being an "online friend" isn't much but hey it's better than nothing :smile:

What uni do you go to?

Reply 2

lilac!!

well why dont you get togther with some of your family friends or cousins and go out with them, or if you want to make some friends i would suggest you get into contact with someone you havnt talked to in a long time and then go from there.

Reply 3

high priestess fnord

dont get a girlfriend, your obviously not ready for one.

Reply 4

phoenixv

well u can always pm me as well lolx

anyway, bout friends, just go places/gatherings about your interests/hobbies if you have any

or sometimes, just go up to people and start talking to them at bus stops etc, it gives you practice as well

n bout the girlfriend bit, yeah... dun go straight into it, meet up wif people, get to know them, then maybe.

Reply 5

lilac!!

i agree with high priestess fnor, of you go into a realtionship now you might know what the outcome maybe and you could go back into your state again, why not make friends and then once your fuly recovered try the relationship side!! oh n u can pm me 2 lol
i hope it works for you
tc xx

Reply 6

Montrose

I know how you feel. I have had depression for nearly 4 years (its got worse and got better many times), and there are times when I have thought I have only got a few friends, only one of whom really cares. But as one of my friends said to me recently, although you cannot see it, people do care and you just have to make the effort. When you do break the cycle, it will be unexpected and it will come from within.

Say yes to new experiences, be adventurous what you do. Even if you're cacking it inside, smile on the outside and be outgoing. It will work. Hang in there, know how you feel.

Reply 7

bluenoxid

Well I hate to say this but you are NOT ready for a girlfriend. You would be better off getting a hobby of some kind where you can socialise with likeminded people.

Reply 8

Anonymous #2

Sometimes you need to just change your 'PERSPECTIVE' on life, meaning just change the way you view life. I think a lot of people take for granted the things they have in life. To be honest your life sounds normal to me, but maybe you expect too much from it. It's always better to appreciate the things you have in life. For example, you could be poor living on the streets, you could have a life threatening physical disease (assuming u dont), you could be physically disabled, you could be living in a war zone country right now...etc etc. Think about how small your problem sounds in comparison to what these problems sound like. If you put things into perspective, you'll realise that life aint that bad. :wink:

Also i think you need to BOOST your confidence by thinking to yourself that you can 'Achieve what ever i want to achieve'.
Also you might think that your group of friends are horrible, but your lucky to have a group of friends (some people don't even have that).
If you want life to change, having a GF won't help. You need to work on your confidence first and on your perspective of life.
HOPE THAT HELPS :wink:

........Oh and smile :smile: