oh no, its my birthday

its my birthday in a few weeks and im dreading it. The problem is i dont really have a group of friends that i can go out with and celebrate. Most of my friends are quite separated and i dont know what im going to do to celebrate.

This in itself my seem like a trivial problem but not having close friends is something which always bothers me since leaving year 11 and starting college. It being my birthday has just compounded the problem.

Is anyone else in a similar situation?
My family are obviously going to expect me to go out and celebrate and il feel like a loser if i dont.

Any advice would be really appreciated

thanks :rolleyes:

Reply 1

supernova2

11

jsut go out with a few close friends in a certain group.

Reply 2

Albannach

9

Go out anyway. Meet new people and claim to have "lost your friends" if you're bothered about being alone. You'll have a great time.

Reply 3

generalebriety

16

jaqueline17

its my birthday in a few weeks and im dreading it. The problem is i dont really have a group of friends that i can go out with and celebrate. Most of my friends are quite separated and i dont know what im going to do to celebrate.

This in itself my seem like a trivial problem but not having close friends is something which always bothers me since leaving year 11 and starting college. It being my birthday has just compounded the problem.

Is anyone else in a similar situation?
My family are obviously going to expect me to go out and celebrate and il feel like a loser if i dont.

Any advice would be really appreciated

thanks :rolleyes:

You can all expect me in here in early September complaining what a **** birthday I've had. :smile:

Reply 4

BeesKnees

16

Opportunity to bring all your friends together. Find a neutral venue... even if it's just to go out for a meal or something and then invite all your different friends. They're all your friends so likely that they'll have something in common.

Reply 5

generalebriety

16

Sweshar22

Opportunity to bring all your friends together. Find a neutral venue... even if it's just to go out for a meal or something and then invite all your different friends. They're all your friends so likely that they'll have something in common.

Ha! How wrong you are.

Well, in my case, anyway.

Reply 6

phoenixv

oh, and another one is to just forget your birthday, i did that... din realise it until my dad texted me lolx

yeah anyway juz go out wif a small group of frens, i prefer it much more, more personal, or spend it doing something you like, or meeting new ppl. or even im-ing n catching up wif frens etc is good.

or... you can pm me XD i won't mind hahaha *rofl*

Reply 7

Sithius

16

how old are you gonna be?

Reply 8

HeStoleMyCrayon

generalebriety

Ha! How wrong you are.

Well, in my case, anyway.

exactly the same here

Reply 9

phoenixv

lol... lonely hearts gathering this thread is... let's just get one big register n write all our bdays on it so we can pm each other n chat on msn on our bdays, shud b fun! :biggrin:

Reply 10

jaqueline17

OP

im gonna be 19.
And the bringing friends together thing sounds nice in theory, but like generalbriety said, would be very difficult to pull off, and awkward.

R.Stout Go out anyway. Meet new people and claim to have "lost your friends" if you're bothered about being alone. You'll have a great time.

seriously? this actually sounds quite tempting compared to other options!

Thanks guys nice to know im not alone :rolleyes:

Reply 11

so_this_is_sam

3

Go out drinking ! On my 18th i literally invited everyone i knew to come out with me or at least go to a certain club so that everyone wld be there at some point of the night. That way you can see all your friends but they dont have to mix if they dont want to!

Reply 12

phoenixv

actually that's quite a good suggestion, sam, unless she doesnt like clubbing/drinking etc lolx. i'd still suggest do something u r interested in, join a group of ppl that haf the same interest etc

shud b fun :biggrin:

Reply 13

Anonymous #1

My mum has organised a party for me and I have 3 close friends but there have been so many problems over the past year between different people that I cannot find anyway of inviting someone without upsetting someone else by them being there- some people I know are immature like this. I am just going to ask everyone up town for my birthday but for a party its a bit more difficult because everyone is in the same place.

In the end I just thought its my party so I will invite who I want there and if other people arn't happy then that will be there problem. (I can be a bitch at times!)

Reply 14

generalebriety

16

so_this_is_sam

Go out drinking ! On my 18th i literally invited everyone i knew to come out with me or at least go to a certain club so that everyone wld be there at some point of the night. That way you can see all your friends but they dont have to mix if they dont want to!

Again putting a personal perspective onto this - all my friends are younger than me (I'm the oldest in my year and have quite a few friends in the year below, but the very few I had in the year above will all be at uni by my 18th birthday), so clubbing's not an option.

Reply 15

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

My mum has organised a party for me and I have 3 close friends but there have been so many problems over the past year between different people that I cannot find anyway of inviting someone without upsetting someone else by them being there- some people I know are immature like this. I am just going to ask everyone up town for my birthday but for a party its a bit more difficult because everyone is in the same place.

In the end I just thought its my party so I will invite who I want there and if other people arn't happy then that will be there problem. (I can be a bitch at times!)