crushes

I don't exactly get why you need advice or what you want to know?

Reply 2

OP

i want to know -------------------------------------------------------------------------------

is your first crush the first person you've ever fancied, or is it the first time you fall madly in lust for someone and you literally cannot get them out of your mind, and your heart breaks.?

Reply 3

dh00001

16

erm talk to/ see gp (delete as appropriate)

Reply 4

OP

i feel like i love him but it cant be love since nothing happened...but since he is still in my head....though im over him....im not sure if my feelings for him were love...?

Reply 5

Doing a Google "define:" search it said:

puppy love: temporary love of an adolescent.

I agree really, I wouldn't say I have crushes any more.

Reply 6

You can love him if nothing happened. It would just be a different type of love to if you were in a relationship with him.

Advice: stop worrying about whether you loved him or not.

Reply 7

i_feel_shiny

I would define it as a crush because nothing actually 'happened' but you seem to have had fairly strong feelings that supposedly go beyond your past crushes. You could define it as 'unrequieted love' if you liked but personally I think real LOVE is something you only really get once you've loved, been loved back and then had your heart trampled on.
Happens to all of us I'm afraid but thems the breaks.

Reply 8

OP

im not really worrying about whether i loved him or not, hes still in my head even though im over him, so in a way i must do have some feelings for him like love?

Reply 9

lilac!!

15

Well i think crushes are someone you fancy for a while however you only truly love someone until you receive their love too because its how you got to know them and experienced them, it doesn’t have to be physical but still and i think you maybe have a big crush but i dout love

Reply 10

Navajo

14

Anonymous

i want to know -------------------------------------------------------------------------------

is your first crush the first person you've ever fancied, or is it the first time you fall madly in lust for someone and you literally cannot get them out of your mind, and your heart breaks.?

^ that doesn't nmake sense.

But I have been madly in lust for just two people in my entire life and I'm nearly 20.

I hate it, you cannot get them out of your mind for years, you think about them every day of your life.

Reply 11

i_feel_shiny

Navajo

^ that doesn't nmake sense.

But I have been madly in lust for just two people in my entire life and I'm nearly 20.

I hate it, you cannot get them out of your mind for years, you think about them every day of your life.

Agreed! I still think about this guy I used to be practically obsessed with when I was 14 and I'm 18 now. Not that I haven't moved on :p:

but yeah it's annoying as hell and makes you feel like a right saddo.

Reply 12

OP

Navajo

^ that doesn't nmake sense.

But I have been madly in lust for just two people in my entire life and I'm nearly 20.

I hate it, you cannot get them out of your mind for years, you think about them every day of your life.

ok then is your first crush, the first person you've ever fancied in your life whatever age you are be it ,6,10, or 12. or is your first crush when you really fancy someone and your feelings become really strong for the first time for someone.

Reply 13

i_feel_shiny

Could be either. I count my first crush as a boy I used to play kiss chase with when I was 4 and really fancied but obviously in a weird infantile way. It's up to you!

Reply 14

OP

its soo annoying, i dont fancy this person anymore, but i cant get him out of head still. im just confused as to whether i was just obsessed with him or whether my feelings for him were real.
your right navajo, its as annoying as hell...you think about them everyday of your life and you can never forget about them for years..

Reply 15

Perhaps it's a good thing that you do think about them - would you want to forget them?

Reply 16

OP

Sazarina88

Perhaps it's a good thing that you do think about them - would you want to forget them?

no i dont, i never want to forget him. but its come to the point that ive thought about him so much ive forgotten what 'my mind' was like before i started liking him. so in a way its annoying, i want to get back to normal like what i was before if you know what i mean

Reply 17

Anonymous

no i dont, i never want to forget him. but its come to the point that ive thought about him so much ive forgotten what 'my mind' was like before i started liking him. so in a way its annoying, i want to get back to normal like what i was before if you know what i mean

I'm sure you haven't really forgotten what your mind was like, it just seems to you that you have because you think about him a lot.

Reply 18

Navajo

14

It's annoying isn't it!

No I don't think the first crush is the one. As I have two, one I havn't seen for about 3 years but still think about her a couple of times a day.

Whereas other girls I've just forgotten about. And then there's another one I sometimes see each week in work (she's the only girl my stomach flips everytime I see/talk to her lol cheezzee).

You build them up to the point of them being some type of goddess or god and the ultimate goal of your life.

Some girls I see and think "oh yer she's hot and nice" but then you don't think about them again. But with these two I just can't stop thinking about them, it gets better with time but at one point it was terrible, even to the point of getting really worked up over them. This may sound sad to some people but you've obviously not experienced these kind of feelings that just take over your mind to the point of obsession.

It's simply not "well if I shagged her then it would be great", it's not like that at all, it's a kind of companion thing, you prehaps don't feel that physically attracted to them (sex) but the desire for them to be part of your life is incredible.

You wouldn't dare talk to them or ask them out because you've built them up so much in your mind.

:/

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