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Will be starting uni in September and already really nervous! i'm not worried about the academic side, but I am nervous about making friends and getting on with my flatmates. I think i'm fairly easy to get on with, but i'm pretty shy and don't really like talking to people I don't know, don't really like going out to clubs etc. any advice?
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Hi Im the same here, havent started uni yet though, but reading threads on TSR have really diminished my fears. Dont worry, unis have plenty of ways to make friends, as sessions also have group work, so you can meet others from your course and dont forget the societies! There you`ll meet people with the same interests as you, which will make it easier to socialise plus there are societies where you can build new interests!
So dont worry you`ll be fine
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Heya, you really have nothing to worry about. When I started uni I didn't like talking to people that much and found it hard to start conversations with complete strangers. But remember they are in the same boat as you and there are plenty of places to make friends either on your course, societies and of course your flat mates. There will be people who don't like going out clubbing ect so you really won't be alone in that respect, my advice to you though would be try to push out of your comfort zone and make small talk with people.
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Don't worry, there will be plenty of people in the same situation and since so many of them don't know anyone else, they will be keen to make friends. Just make sure to get yourself in there from the start so you have a chance of meeting as many people as possible and meeting potential friends.
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There are loads of people who will feel the same way as you. Just relax and join societies, you'll meet a lot of people there.
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Heya, you really have nothing to worry about. When I started uni I didn't like talking to people that much and found it hard to start conversations with complete strangers. But remember they are in the same boat as you and there are plenty of places to make friends either on your course, societies and of course your flat mates. There will be people who don't like going out clubbing ect so you really won't be alone in that respect, my advice to you though would be try to push out of your comfort zone and make small talk with people.
my only worry is that i'm going to leeds and I know it has a bit of a reputation for partying!
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my only worry is that i'm going to leeds and I know it has a bit of a reputation for partying!
I can't really comment on Leeds reputation having not gone there myself, however there will be people like you, who don't like going out partying and that's ok. It doesn't mean you have to be antisocial, you can join in when people predrink and just get to know people through those social events. You don't have to drink, but it will be one of those things where you will have to push through your comfort zone for a few hours.
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(Original post by jacksonmeg)
Will be starting uni in September and already really nervous! i'm not worried about the academic side, but I am nervous about making friends and getting on with my flatmates. I think i'm fairly easy to get on with, but i'm pretty shy and don't really like talking to people I don't know, don't really like going out to clubs etc. any advice?
I'm a very quiet person, and I also find it hard to talk to people I don't know. I also don't like going out to clubs, pubs etc. Despite all of this, I had no trouble making friends and settling in at university. The first week or so may feel a bit odd, and that is perfectly normal. You will get to know people on your course in an academic environment, rather than having to go out. In halls you'll meet people when cooking/eating together. Your university may also organise a variety of events, many of which will still appeal to the quieter types.

You'll probably find that there are loads of like minded people. It's not that unusual at all to be quiet and less keen on loud parties etc. There will be plenty of alternative things to do.
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Hi, i am just finishing my first year at uni and i felt the same before i went
I find meeting new people and making friends can be quite awkward, and i dont like clubbing so i was terrified of going to uni and being somewhere where i dont know anyone.
Freshers was pretty rubbish, i found it was all about clubbing and i found myself doubting whether i made the right choice going or not, however once freshers was over and courses started etc i found that i made friends, and now i love uni, i made friends with people on my course more so than those in my flat, but i still get along with them. There are quite a few people who don't like clubbing and loud parties etc, you'll be fine
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Hi, i am just finishing my first year at uni and i felt the same before i went
I find meeting new people and making friends can be quite awkward, and i dont like clubbing so i was terrified of going to uni and being somewhere where i dont know anyone.
Freshers was pretty rubbish, i found it was all about clubbing and i found myself doubting whether i made the right choice going or not, however once freshers was over and courses started etc i found that i made friends, and now i love uni, i made friends with people on my course more so than those in my flat, but i still get along with them. There are quite a few people who don't like clubbing and loud parties etc, you'll be fine
This made me feel so much better !!!


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im glad i know it seems like everyone at uni is just drinking and partying all the time, but apart from freshers it isn't always like that, and people are generally quite accepting of the fact that you don't always want to go out etc.
glad i helped feel free to pm me if you have any questions or anything
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Meh I guess people are lucky with societies and course mates, I don't exactly go to a renowned university so the societies are pretty much dead and everyone on my course has their own clique and isolates themselves from anyone else.
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Everyone will be nervous so don't worry.
In fresher's week everyone goes mental and just wants to meet as many people as possible.
You'll meet people through your course, societies, clubs, through your friends etc.
Just chillllll

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I was pretty much the same as OP but I enjoyed first year. My main advice would be join societies/extracurriculars as not doing so is pretty much my biggest regret for first year (but I'll hopefully be rectifying that next year).
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I am nervous too but as I am a mature student therefore I have made up my mind that my main objective at university is to study hard and get good grades so that one day I can get my dream job. So, I am not worried about my social life but certainly I am worried about the coursework. Although, I have already started self-study (I am enjoying it). Many people have told me to not take too much pressure as things will come on right time but I am still nervous (in fact I am shaking ). I don't know what to do? Any advice will be appreciated!!!
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Everyone is nervous, you just have to really make an effort, go out and socialise as much as you can physically stand, spend plenty of time in the bar, join clubs and actually turn up to them, and just be very, very chatty to people on your course, in your societies and in your halls.

The first two weeks are dead easy to make friends, PROVIDED you make a real effort. If you miss your chance during the first two weeks, it does get a bit harder. Have a rule of never saying no. if someone say "wanna come to the pub" say yes. If someone says "wanna come to the shop" say yes. If someone says "wanna go and play tennis" say yes. Whats the worse that could happen?
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(Original post by cole-slaw)
Everyone is nervous, you just have to really make an effort, go out and socialise as much as you can physically stand, spend plenty of time in the bar, join clubs and actually turn up to them, and just be very, very chatty to people on your course, in your societies and in your halls.

The first two weeks are dead easy to make friends, PROVIDED you make a real effort. If you miss your chance during the first two weeks, it does get a bit harder. Have a rule of never saying no. if someone say "wanna come to the pub" say yes. If someone says "wanna come to the shop" say yes. If someone says "wanna go and play tennis" say yes. Whats the worse that could happen?
I will be staying at home during my time in university. Will it affect my social life in university?
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