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Can't show my personality

Hi, im 16 (nrly 17) and I am going to 6th form next year. I'm male and I feel like I cannot show my personality at all. I am really outgoing, like clothes and latest styles and take good care of my appearance. However, in my school if someone does something different (espesh boys) the other boys all get jealous so I have to supress my personality. Its really annoying how jealous they get, and I just can't wait until university to meet more open minded people who are actually up for a laugh.......

If you wear anything half stylish they will say something........... arrrrrr next year im gonna be like (cos one of them is my 'friend' (not) if you dont like my personality get lost its not my fault you can't adapt to all different types of people- they are so ignorant and can't accept anything different..... it doesn't matter to me whether people are gay, lesbian, or thier style- emo, punk It doesnt matter as long as they have nice personalitys I get on with them its just so hard I dont know whether to think...................... right, I will go in my clothes ( i like dressing up neatly or casually whilst they like just 'trakkie bottoms' and its so annoying they can't accept anything different).

I am a party person but they are all really boring so i am thinking....... stuff them........... ill do what I want to do, wear what I want to and just ignore the comments.

Sorry for the long post its just im dreading going back cos i like nice clothes and ill feel out of place. I just want to show my outgoing and friendly personality but they are all just boring as ****.

Reply 1

generalebriety

16

Do what you want. **** them. Some people aren't worth fussing over.

Reply 2

Navajo

14

Just put up with it until Uni I did and it gets a lot better :smile:

Reply 3

generalebriety

16

Exactly. I'm still in sixth form but people have learnt either to accept me as I am or to piss off. :rolleyes:

Well, most have. But the rest aren't worth it. :smile:

Reply 4

Sazarina88

11

If you're outgoing, you should be able to wear what the hell you like without worry.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

Sazarina88

If you're outgoing, you should be able to wear what the hell you like without worry.

I am ( or was) but now I supress my personality so much at school because then people wont be so nasty and Ill feel more confortable it just amazes me how ignorant they all I actually sometimes see the funny side- how will they be able to function in the real world. I think ill just keep my head up and inside i will laugh........

Another problem is, I have matured so much faster than the boys in my year........ I don't find thier humour funny its so childish and the childish comments they make are also annoying. ARRRRRRRRRGGHHHHHHHH i am just worried because I feel good outside school, I look at people at the street and look at how different some people are and I like it- i just think everyone should be individual and not have to fit in 'how to be a girl, or how to be a boy or how to dress, how to act like this or that or anything like that. If people want to act, dress etc in a certain way why is it so hard for them to realise.

Reply 6

Sazarina88

11

If you feel more comfortable suppressing your personality then that's fine.

But you only have one life so live it!

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

I mean why is it so hard for them to accept it

Reply 8

Sazarina88

11

Anonymous

I mean why is it so hard for them to accept it

They probably don't realise that some people are different. They probably expect people to fit into a mould and be the way society wants them to be.

As someone said, wait until you're a bit older and things will be much better.

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

Sazarina88

If you feel more comfortable suppressing your personality then that's fine.

But you only have one life so live it!

I dont like supressing it but its the only way they wont say or look at me funny. When im out with one of my best friends (this girl ive known for ages) we are so outgoing and love doing so many outgoing things........... they are just so boring and judgmental but it will be them who struggle in life because they are so ignorant.

Get this- we went on a school trip to manchester and they were SHOCKED. I am mixed race (like the only mixed race/dark person in the school-black and white) and they were like OHHHHHHHHHH why are there so many asians/black etc here in the UK and I was like you tw*ts they think they are so clever they are so ignorant. All they talk about is football.... i dont mind it but like thats all thier life revolves around I am just going to ignore the comments... I know im the better person for accepting everyone for what they are not for what they like

Reply 10

Livin_on_a_prayer

tbh its probably just the school your at. I was lucky to go to a really great school in a nice medium sized town. From what I see everyone wears what they want to these days, all over the country, sort of a revolution. I think its just your friends (the tracky bottoms makes me think they could be chavs...).

Reply 11

xChellex

Wear what you want and be how you want. I like to be quite dressed up with my clothes and jewllery. Sometimes people don't like it, but you just have to ignore them, 'cause at the end of the day - you made an impression and it's better than just blending in. Just because nobody else bothers, doesn't mean you should try to fade in among the rest. If they don't accept you as you are and make a fuss, then they are not worth bothering with themselves and the time you would have spent with them would have been wasted.

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Livin_on_a_prayer

tbh its probably just the school your at. I was lucky to go to a really great school in a nice medium sized town. From what I see everyone wears what they want to these days, all over the country, sort of a revolution. I think its just your friends (the tracky bottoms makes me think they could be chavs...).

The strangest thing is the parents are posh (big houses ect) and its one of the richest places in the UK

Reply 13

Livin_on_a_prayer

Anonymous

The strangest thing is the parents are posh (big houses ect) and its one of the richest places in the UK

Well, I think the best thing to do is start wearing what you want despite what they say, after a while they'll just come to accept it or you could move on and find better friends. All I can say is that in a few years you wont have any of these problems, trust me. You'll look back and think what the hell was everyone thinking. Its just abit of immaturity on their part. Dont worry, theres nothing wrong with lookin' good :cool:

Reply 14

Anonymous #2

erm..do you live in cheshire by any chance? sorry just curious..

Reply 15

Theresa Smells

1

What clothes are we talking about here? What is it you wear or want to wear that makes these people laugh?

Reply 16

CorpusNinja

15

clearly your taste in clothes must be rather obscure for them to go 'aaaaaaaaaar'. but then again, i agree that you should be able to express yourself how you like. but (double) then again, what is moaning on TSR gonna do? go tell them, not us.

Reply 17

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

erm..do you live in cheshire by any chance? sorry just curious..

Oh you hit the nail on the head! :tsr2:

Reply 18

iz_a_bell

10

You mentioned that they wear trackie bottoms. Are they chavs by any chance? That'll explain their behaviour towards other kinds of people.

Reply 19

Adarah

16

please don't try and not bring your personality out there into the world - in the end it's just frustrating and you miss out on being yourself.
It's very, very refreshing to find someone who dares to show their personality. I'm not as open as I could be by far - but I plan to be next year a bit more.
It will be easier at uni, simply because there will still be idiots with no life who will talk about you behind your back (go get a life you idiots!) but you won't know them and won't want to associate with them, so it'll be so much easier not to care and just find some proper friends.

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