i HATE feeling like this!!

tonight my boyfriend is going on holiday with his friend and its not that i dont want him to go, quite the opposite, i mean i want him to go because he has never been on holiday before but i am just going to miss him so much! its so pathetic ill be the first to say it because we have been together for 2 years! so what is 2 weeks apart? but i just keep thinking of him being with me this morning and how hes not going to be here tomorrow or the next day or the next!! and i just feel a sadness in my heart i hope it gets better because i hate feeling like this I HATE IT!! i know i sound like a mad person but i just dont know why i am like this!? I admit i am worried about him going on a plane because of all the bomb threats laterly but realistically, i know that his flight to spain is highly unlikely to be targeted so please...could you give me some tips and pointers on how to stop feeling so sad! thanks

Reply 1

username47781

20

It's a natural feeling to feel worried and sad, but if he loves you he will come running straight back into your arms when he comes home, try keep yourself busy in that time and you can look forward to when he comes home, hopefully he can find the time to ring you every so often while he is out there.

Reply 2

harry5069

Keep busy so you don't have time to think about what he's up to.

Reply 3

xChellex

It can be hard that he will be away, but if you occupy yourself for the next two weeks it will be ok. Just think about how good it will be when he comes back and can tell you about the great holiday that he has had.

I am glad that you said you want him to go, as it shows your heart is in the right place. Just hold on and be patient for him to go and have his holiday. He will come back soon and when you reunite, you will have missed each other and will have loads to tell each other, so it could even be a refresher for your relationship.

To stop feeling sad - listen to upbeat music and don't watch any sad films. If you watch TV etc. go for positive things, such as comedy, rather then things that will make you think of your boyfriend.
Fill up your week - go and see friends, find other things to do, maybe go spend time with family etc. If you work, why not take more hours (as long as you enjoy the work)?
The best thing to do that I have found is going and spending time with active, outgoing and upbeat people, as they can take my mind off things, rather then spending time with friends who would focus my attention and conversation on the boyfriend.

Reply 4

Zafda

8

hmm.
i've repeated myself soooooo many times over the past few days.

just go out, have fun with your friends, do stuff to keep your mind occupied, just be happy that hes going away and will be happy, even if you secretly hate it, put it this way.. his happiness should be your happiness? he'd really appreciate you not saying you miss him 24/7, i know 2 years is ages but everyone needs some quality space.

so yeah, do all the stuff you normally don't do when hes around, within the limits ofcourse.

Reply 5

Whistle_1989

Yeah i definitely do want him to go!! and to whoever said i should take up more hours from work, i have done that!! got 40 hours mon - fri.!! should be good loadsa £££'Z!

Im working all week, going to see my nan who i havent seen in a couple of months tomorrow, and going to try and find some time when im not working to go out with my girls <3 hopefully that will be next week when im not fully booked with work :p:

I have also taken a pledge to keep on my healthy eating plan!! <3 and i am really determined to lose some weight because i have been meaning to do it for ages and haven't got round to it :P

Im looking forward to him calling/texting me tomorrow to let me know he's had a safe journey :redface: