The 'Scene'

After alot of soul searching, and realising that i'm gay, i'm ready to get out there and find a boyfriend, but i don't know where to start. i'm not familiar with the scene, i dont know many other gay people, and i just don't like the thought of going onto a dating website, and find out somebody only wants me to be there shag buddy.

Help, can anybody tell me what i can do, im really stuck :frown:

Reply 1

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Anonymous

After alot of soul searching, and realising that i'm gay, i'm ready to get out there and find a boyfriend, but i don't know where to start. i'm not familiar with the scene, i dont know many other gay people, and i just don't like the thought of going onto a dating website, and find out somebody only wants me to be there shag buddy.

Help, can anybody tell me what i can do, im really stuck :frown:

Go to a gay club. Might help.

yeah or gay bars etc

First of all, well done for trying to be honest with yourself about your sexuality. It's an important first step. As for meeting people... I doubt that gay men meet people in much different ways to straight men. Know of any gay bars, for instance? You can try and meet people there. It's a starting point.

Reply 4

The Mudman

10

Don't bother any guy you see in the street. No offence, but as a straight guy, there's nothing worse than having a gay guy give you the eye, especially when you are obviously out with a lass :rolleyes:

Keep the flirting to guys you know are gay, or gay-bars. Please :smile:

Reply 5

freshestkid

1

Got any gay mates/associates who could introduce you to the 'scene'? Also, if youre at uni, there should be a LGBT society who should be able to help

Reply 6

Anonymous #1

OP

one of my closest freinds is gay, who could introduce me to the scene i could ask him, but strange as it may seem i feel nurvous about asking him. i'm still quite a shy guy

Reply 7

MickeyG

Y.M.C.A
It's fun to stay at the Y-M-C-A.

They have everything for you men to enjoy,
You can hang out with all the boys ...

Sorry no actual advice for this one, just thaught of the song.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

OP

The Mudman

Don't bother any guy you see in the street. No offence, but as a straight guy, there's nothing worse than having a gay guy give you the eye, especially when you are obviously out with a lass :rolleyes:

Keep the flirting to guys you know are gay, or gay-bars. Please :smile:

i dont intend to :p:

i dont want to break my nose....again :p:

Reply 9

Anonymous #1

OP

MickeyG

Y.M.C.A
It's fun to stay at the Y-M-C-A.

They have everything for you men to enjoy,
You can hang out with all the boys ...

Sorry no actual advice for this one, just thaught of the song.

Reply 10

Bubblebee

15

The Mudman

Don't bother any guy you see in the street. No offence, but as a straight guy, there's nothing worse than having a gay guy give you the eye, especially when you are obviously out with a lass :rolleyes:

Keep the flirting to guys you know are gay, or gay-bars. Please :smile:

oh yeah, straight blokes always think gay men are looking them up! :wink:

Reply 11

supertramp

9

Ditto on the gay bars. I'm sure plenty of people will talk to you.

Reply 12

alexjoh1

deffo go to gay bars! if you're going to uni in a major city, make the most of it! it's so fun! (the places i go tend to play pure cheese too, which is just an added bonus for going!!) personally, i don't like the idea of LGBT as there's not a straight society (imagine!!) so why should we get our own club? LGBT is a great way to make friends so i've heard though, works at my uni like a dating service. but yeh, to reiterate what people have said in previous posts, good job on admitting it to yourself, there's no shame whatsoever and any friend would understand if they're a true friend! all of my friends either said 'oh yeh, we've all known for ages', 'and...do you want a medal or something?' or 'so, you're still one of my best mates'!

Reply 13

Anonymous #2

Are you sure?? What's going to come out of it I mean you can't have kids or anything... not being harsh but I know this will be taken as an attack and homophobic but I'm interested in what you want to get out of it.

I'm Anon otherwise i'll get abusive PM's etc... :rolleyes:

don't be offended please I'm dead serious :smile:

Reply 14

MagicNMedicine

20

The Mudman

Don't bother any guy you see in the street. No offence, but as a straight guy, there's nothing worse than having a gay guy give you the eye

oh I don't know, you could have a Jew giving you the eye, or a Catholic?

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

Anonymous

Are you sure?? What's going to come out of it I mean you can't have kids or anything... not being harsh but I know this will be taken as an attack and homophobic but I'm interested in what you want to get out of it.

I'm Anon otherwise i'll get abusive PM's etc... :rolleyes:

don't be offended please I'm dead serious :smile:

I didn;t choose to be gay. i cant physically get arroused by women!

i'd love to have kids! there is a possibilty of serogate mothers, and before you say it, raising a child with gay parents will not make the child gay

Reply 16

doublex

Anonymous

I didn;t choose to be gay. i cant physically get arroused by women!

i'd love to have kids! there is a possibilty of serogate mothers, and before you say it, raising a child with gay parents will not make the child gay

Good topic for a debate.

It's selfish to adopt a child, due to the bullying he would get at school.

If someone wants a child its their right and they are just as likely to be good parents as any other, whatever their sexuality.

Hmmm

Reply 17

Clarence

14

Go to Soho. Best advice for you there.

Reply 18

janesmith

darn i thought this was about scene kids
my advice would be to look at chat rooms or information about the scene on the netat least u can find the places to meet others. im sure if u went to a gay bar alone it would be well easy cos someones bound to hit on u and make convo, that will prompt the other fellas to take interest. tell ur closest girl mate she would come with u or even boy

Reply 19

Segat1

16

doublex

Good topic for a debate.

It's selfish to adopt a child, due to the bullying he would get at school.

If someone wants a child its their right and they are just as likely to be good parents as any other, whatever their sexuality.

Hmmm

Hmm. Strangely, kids I know who get bullied have a mum and a dad.

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