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2nd Year of Uni - Too late to make friends?
I didn't really make a lot of friends in the first year of uni 
mainly due to the fact I was low in the confidence area and ended up in a culture that I wasn't used to - i.e. different overall mentality of people from different places.
Also I went around meeting loads of people and became more of a friend of everyone in the sense that many people know me BUT never really ended up in a group.
I wan't this to change when I go back next year, I know I have to be more confident and not wast my uni years away
I'm just worried that it won't happen... not because I'm unbefriendable, but because people have formed their cliques by this point and probably won't be able to join a group
Is it possible to have a better 2nd year than the first? And to make friends and be invited to parties and stuff?
Is there hope for this loner
mainly due to the fact I was low in the confidence area and ended up in a culture that I wasn't used to - i.e. different overall mentality of people from different places.Also I went around meeting loads of people and became more of a friend of everyone in the sense that many people know me BUT never really ended up in a group.
I wan't this to change when I go back next year, I know I have to be more confident and not wast my uni years away
I'm just worried that it won't happen... not because I'm unbefriendable, but because people have formed their cliques by this point and probably won't be able to join a group Is it possible to have a better 2nd year than the first? And to make friends and be invited to parties and stuff?
Is there hope for this loner
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I didn't really make a lot of friends in the first year of uni mainly due to the fact I was low in the confidence area and ended up in a culture that I wasn't used to - i.e. different overall mentality of people from different places.
Also I went around meeting loads of people and became more of a friend of everyone in the sense that many people know me BUT never really ended up in a group.
I wan't this to change when I go back next year, I know I have to be more confident and not wast my uni years away I'm just worried that it won't happen... not because I'm unbefriendable, but because people have formed their cliques by this point and probably won't be able to join a group
Is it possible to have a better 2nd year than the first? And to make friends and be invited to parties and stuff?
Is there hope for this loner
mainly due to the fact I was low in the confidence area and ended up in a culture that I wasn't used to - i.e. different overall mentality of people from different places.Also I went around meeting loads of people and became more of a friend of everyone in the sense that many people know me BUT never really ended up in a group.
I wan't this to change when I go back next year, I know I have to be more confident and not wast my uni years away
I'm just worried that it won't happen... not because I'm unbefriendable, but because people have formed their cliques by this point and probably won't be able to join a group Is it possible to have a better 2nd year than the first? And to make friends and be invited to parties and stuff?
Is there hope for this loner
Must ... join ... more ... societies ...
No friends? ouch...
shouldn't really be an effort to make friends, they just come as you meet people
shouldn't really be an effort to make friends, they just come as you meet people
seriously mate, don't worry about it! like mentioned above, societies are the way forward, you already a common interest! also, i think most people are of the opinion that you can never have too many friends, so relax and just start chatting to people if you feel comfortable enough! my best friend in school ended up being someone i'd known since reception, but only started talking to them in year 10 when we took french gcse together!
Although people may have already formed their social and friendship groups, there's no reason why you can't join now.
As Fleece said, get involved and hopefully you should meet new people who can become friends.
As Fleece said, get involved and hopefully you should meet new people who can become friends.
it's never too late to make friends 
No, my 2ndyear neighbour basically made no real friends in the first year, and now has loads of us he hangs around with. Is entirely possible, assuming you're not a total arsehole.
Dr GreenThumb
honestly, if you've got no mates, it's because there is a problem with yourself. there cannot be any other explanation.
When you say problem its probably just that they are really shy and prefere to be alone, or this is the impression he/she gives.
Sunofnight
When you say problem its probably just that they are really shy and prefere to be alone, or this is the impression he/she gives.
even shy people make friends.
Just think, a third of Uni people will be in their first year so won't know anyone. So, pretend you're a first year too. Sneak your way into their groupings via your better knowledge of Uni life and, banzai! You're popular.
As I mentioned, I have made friends but am not in a close group of friends who I can go out with all the time...
At the moment it's like hit and miss chance of me being invited out by various people.. nothing stable!!
At the moment it's like hit and miss chance of me being invited out by various people.. nothing stable!!
As I mentioned, I have made friends but am not in a close group of friends who I can go out with all the time...
At the moment it's like hit and miss chance of me being invited out by various people.. nothing stable!!
At the moment it's like hit and miss chance of me being invited out by various people.. nothing stable!!
Anonymous
As I mentioned, I have made friends but am not in a close group of friends who I can go out with all the time...
At the moment it's like hit and miss chance of me being invited out by various people.. nothing stable!!
At the moment it's like hit and miss chance of me being invited out by various people.. nothing stable!!
Know how you feel there.
I have stable and close friends who I lived with last year, but course mates it's harder. I was off uni in the first two weeks with glandular fever, so I missed the time when everyone was forming cliques. You just have to keep chipping away though - in my German class I just forced myself to talk more to these girls I liked the sound of and added them to myspace etc. Before I knew it we were going out together at night.
Just takes a lot of effort when you might not particularly want to, but it's worth it.
I hope you've done all you can to try to get into halls, for your second year; that's the best opportunity to make friends. If you haven't, or didn't make it, then, well, you'll still be meeting new people, I suppose; "nil desperandum".
Anonymous
At the moment it's like hit and miss chance of me being invited out by various people.. nothing stable!!
Well if you're friends with people, it's totally ok to ask if you can join them for things, don't always wait for your friends to invite you or they might think you're not that bothered...
Many people by this time are cliquey. Avoid these types.
However a few cliques are more than welcoming to strangers with common interests.
Also, put yourself in situations where strangers are forced to mingle. Go into halls again, join societies, get a job, sit at a table in the library with one other person on it. Also remember that people away from their cliques are immeasurably more friendly.
Failing that, go to house nights on an E, and people will talk to you!
P.S. Do not do what I just said. It may work, but don't do it.
However a few cliques are more than welcoming to strangers with common interests.
Also, put yourself in situations where strangers are forced to mingle. Go into halls again, join societies, get a job, sit at a table in the library with one other person on it. Also remember that people away from their cliques are immeasurably more friendly.
Failing that, go to house nights on an E, and people will talk to you!
P.S. Do not do what I just said. It may work, but don't do it.
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