if you were in a long-term relationship with someone, but had issues from earlier on in the relationship that were playing on your mind and affecting the relationship now, would you open up to your partner and tell them about them? such as youve found out about lies your partner told (they personally told you they lied), and concequently have lost trust and confidence in them deep down. even though bringing up the issues may potentially harm the relationship (not destroy it) would it be worth bringing up the past just to let them know how bad youre feeling?
alternatively, if your partner was having those thoughts and feelings, would you want them to open up to you so you could confront the problem and get over it or would you rather they kept it to themselves?