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a little background info:
i'm 15 and met this really sweet guy last december, he came over my house and stayed for a week being a family friend and all, anyway he liked me however didnt tell me when we were together, now that he went back to his own country we kept in touch through mail and chat, 17 mails later he told me like me and i said yes, its been 7 months and our relationship is still going, however sometimes i feel that he only mails me just because, but this could totaly in my head, we cut our cahtting down to once a week as both our parents don't agree on having bf/gf, due to this would you think we will last, i really love him to bits however theres somtimes that little feeling that tells me that he only mails me for the sake of it, however he is concerned for me and does love me, what do you guys think, will this last, accouding to out age and realtionship? :confused:
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You're only 15. To be honest, I'd stop worrying about whether a boy in another country actually likes you and go and find someone nearer to you.
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its tough to say, i mean hes gone back to his own country not sure of his age but your only 15, but you never know not many of them survive but yours might be the one that does, difficult to say though.
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i know we are only 15 but its been 7 months!! i mean most people who live near each other dont even get that far, but then again the age confuses me 2, how about actually him mailing me because sometimes its a 2 sentence long mail to tell you the truth
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i know we are only 15 but its been 7 months!! i mean most people who live near each other dont even get that far, but then again the age confuses me 2, how about actually him mailing me because sometimes its a 2 sentence long mail to tell you the truth
Sounds like you're putting all the effort in.
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no not really because hes done a lot of things too, i mean both families dont like the idea about gf/bg and hes spoken to his mum about me, saying positive things

ahhh i'm really confused now
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Based on your age, no.

It's possible that you could meet up at an older age and start dating, but for now, you live far away from each other, and your parents won't let you date anyway.
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true but he might he come again this december and its not like we are gona go out, just stay at home and admire eachothers company, however my parents do get feeling that me and him are really close and i dont think they like it much, it could be possible that in the near furture the would agree on it, rit?
i know its the age but come one 7 months!!
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no it wont. hes in another country, you only keep in touch via mail which he only writes a small amount. and youre 15.
just because its been 7 months doesnt mean your going to get married and go off and live in where ever hes from.
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so there no chance hell??
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theres always a chance. but dont just pin all your hopes and dreams on it.
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true but hes got all his hopes and dreams pined on it, i mean he even once tryed to commmit suicide because of this problem we had that was resulting to us not being together in the furture, i'm really concerned for it because if this do happen ill proabaly cry my head off and feel depressed but he would do something really stupid!! im seriously confused and concerned for him
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anyone?
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7 months of "brb"ing and "lol"ing with the occasional (L) or (K) isn't the same as 7 months of seeing someone and having an actual relationship
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7 months of an online relationship doesn't really mean much in general relationship terms to be honest. You're saying "wow, it's lasted longer than most relationships" but then most relationships actually involve people spending a lot of time together and learning a lot about each other. These relationships can sometimes end because either party finds out something that makes them incompatible, or they simply realise it's not going to go anywhere. Sending emails gives both you and your boyfriend complete control over what you want to say, so it's doubtful you'd find out something you don't like about him. At 15, I suggest that you go out with your friends and have fun - not worry about whether your online relationship is going to work.
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I gotta agree with billbones...I dated a guy at 15 for about 8 months, and really I think the only reason we stayed together that long was because we didnt see each other that much. Things like that seem like they are going to last forever, but please dont pin all your hopes and dreams on it because if it does end, you will be crushed. Just because your relationship is compatible(Sp?) over email etc, does not mean it will work in real life. When you dont see someone, you dont have to put up with their worst habbits then if you see someone regulary. An actual relationship takes more then a few seconds of writing an email to keep going.

You never know, we might all be wrong, but tbh i wouldnt count on it.
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i know we are only 15 but its been 7 months!! i mean most people who live near each other dont even get that far, but then again the age confuses me 2, how about actually him mailing me because sometimes its a 2 sentence long mail to tell you the truth
Seven months and a few emails. That's not a relationship.
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I don't mean to sound patronising but you are very young, especially to start a long distance relationship. They are tough (as I am sure you already know) and what you have experienced emotionally within those 7 months is only a preview of what would come if you started a relationship.

Although it may seem bad right now, maybe its best to be just friends. I'm not sure how old he is, but 15 is young- you've got plenty of time to go out, have fun & find a boy who means a lot to you.
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HMMM

im going away to uni and will be seeing my bf about every two weeks for a couple of days at a time, once or twice for 4/5 days over the 10 week term, then seeing him all the time in holidays (which last about 5 weeks for christmas and easter, and 3 months for summer) and i'm worried about whether that is gonna work

an email a week doesnt count as a relationship
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well thanks for the advice eveyone its helped!!
humm no it wznt an e-mail a week but 2/3 emails a day lol
well i think yo u guys are right about not pining all my hopes and dreams on it but i wanna caryy on because this guy is really someone i really like but thanks again eveyone for eveything!!
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