Holiday romance dilemma

Why did you give in to this french guy, you should have dumped your boyfriend first as its obvious you are not comitted to him.

I don't know why you didn't attempt to work it out with your current boyfriend and find out why you have gone off him, you may as well tell him now but be prepared for him to be very heartbroken.

Who says relationships don't work because of University, mine did and many others did also, but i wouldn't wait till uni to dump him i'd get it over with.

Reply 3

dh00001

16

you shouldve told him about the french guy as soon as you got back.
tell him as soon as and if he doesnt end it you should being as you have no apparent interest in him anymore.

and speaking frech in your ear? do you have any idea what he was saying :p:

Reply 4

Kil-Kev

5

come clean otherwise he may try and hang on to you

Reply 5

i doubt it would work with the french guy either

Reply 6

kizer

15

Sorry, but you are being too easy on yourself. You owed it to your boyfriend to tell him you wanted to move on before getting off with a random guy you just met. You seem way too unconcerned about hurting someone you love, to the point where it sounds like you don't love him at all.

HOWEVER - that doesn't mean the best thing to do now is hurt him unnecessarily. Just tell him you feel you want to move on, and be done with it. And if he ever does find out about frenchie, well maybe everyone realising you are a cheat will make you realise how badly you acted.

Reply 7

OP

I know that i definately don't want to be with him anymore- i just didn't realise cos I love him its hard to realise that i don't actually fancy him or have any sexual desire.
I gave in to the French guy cos i really liked him- i had (and stil have) a huge crush on him which i told myself i wasn't going to do anything about but he just wasnt giving up (but in a romantic way not a forceful way).
As for speaking french in my ear it was jus the usual chat up lines- u have beautiful eyes, im crazy bout u, i love the way u kiss, i'd really like to kiss u, etc.

Reply 8

Kil-Kev

5

yeh, once you've had one baggette you've had them all.

Reply 9

OP

Carl1982

i doubt it would work with the french guy either

I don't want to be with the french guy (Greg) cos he's moving to california anyway to do a masters degree. but he just made me realise my relationship isnt worth saving. its not like i want one or the other. im jus guna b friends wit Greg now- hes guna gelp me relearn french via email

Reply 10

OP

KingKev

yeh, once you've had one baggette you've had them all.

?? meaning al french guys r the same? or once u start u jus cant stop ( a la pringles)

Reply 11

flyingpig

I know that i definately don't want to be with him anymore- i just didn't realise cos I love him its hard to realise that i don't actually fancy him or have any sexual desire.
I gave in to the French guy cos i really liked him- i had (and stil have) a huge crush on him which i told myself i wasn't going to do anything about but he just wasnt giving up (but in a romantic way not a forceful way).
As for speaking french in my ear it was jus the usual chat up lines- u have beautiful eyes, im crazy bout u, i love the way u kiss, i'd really like to kiss u, etc.

Any reason why you suddenly gone off your boyfriend, has he changed, have your feelings changed etc?

Reply 12

Kil-Kev

5

flyingpig

?? meaning al french guys r the same? or once u start u jus cant stop ( a la pringles)

what i should have said is a fresh baggette never lasts more than 2 days :biggrin:

same goes to the French in wars, lol

Reply 13

OP

My bf is 10 yrs older than me and we've been together nearly 3yrs now. sumtimes i jus look at his face and i can c his age- he always used to look rly yung but now its kinda crept up on him. i kno thats not his fault but it makes me feel dirty and that our relationship is wrong. i think its jus ran its course rly. also we havent had sex for months now 4 certain reasons and it feels like hes jus more of a gd friend than a bf.

Reply 14

yeah thats the problem unfortunatly with a 10 year gap especially when your say only 18 for example he's 28 and when you met you;d be 15 he'd be 25, course your feelings do change more at your age.

Reply 15

OP

KingKev

same goes to the French in wars, lol

my dad has exactly the same feelings
and thats another thing- he had dinner wit hte parents and they rly liked him which they dnt with my bf cos hes so much older and hes neva rly made the effort wit them.
the french dude is 21 so is still 3 yrs older, but it dnt feel it- he feels the same if u kno wot i mean- we dnt look odd together

Reply 16

contractador

1

something simmilar happened to me. Once i cheated i realised that there wasnt anything in the relationship between us two (i do realise the irony that i was the one saying this) but it showed i have nothing to give to the relationship.

I ended it a few weeks later. Never told my gf tho. Don't think you should either for their sake

Reply 17

dh00001

16

plez dnt shrthnd :confused:

you need to break up with your boyfriend your no longer attracted to him mentally or physically, and you have no desire to be with him.

Reply 18

OP

I'd finish with him straight away but i work with him so it'd make things pretty awkward (not that they aren't know cos i think he can sense sumink is wrong as I move away everytime he tries to touch me).

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