what should i do?

my girl best mate has changed dramatically this year! she was always there for me, especially when i took an o.d and came out to my mum she was my rock!! the best a lad could ask for! i always say if i wasnt gay we would be a great couple! because most people who dont know about me think we were!

but ever since she started hanging around with a few more girls in our year at college shes really changed. we use to always do everything togther but in fairness we did both get jobs which stoped our saturday afternoon together but going clubbing she seemed to only txt me if she wanted another head and not spend time together as when i asked her come out she would make an excuse up!!

it really hurt to see her going out and having a laff without me because i know i would never leave her out. we have spoke about this before and she does say that ive changed especially when i got with my on-off bf. she was set against from the start as "it would end up in tears" which it has and shes she has laughed in my face! which hurt especially when she didnt come out of a club to meet me when he hit me. she stayed in there with her 5 minute friends. thur these friends shes met a group of lads she been out with one of them and snogged his mates! 8 in total shes getting in deep water and a reputation i dont like she it because shes a lovely girl at heart!
she has been under alot of stress latetly at home but going with these lads and getting drunk (which is not like her) has seriously changed her!! her girl best mate and me are worried but she doesnt seem to care!!
what should i do?? i dont want go university not speaking like we are now because theres sooo much tension!
HELP

Reply 1

squigaletta

as harsh as it sounds sometimes the best thing to do is just step back, im not saying thats definitely the right thing to do but maybe its just a phase, and when she grows out of it you'll be there to pick up the pieces, but until then theres not much point trying to froce you help or friendship on her

Reply 2

lala_land

If you've alreadt talked to her about this and she doesn't seem interested n hanging out with you anymore, i'm afraid theres not much else you can do, sad fact is people grow apart

Reply 3

lilac!!

15

okay shes a bit sad on you!! i had a friend like that but she was a b*tch from the beginning i just didnt know it lol, well i think you should talk to her and tell her how you feel, i mean she might not even know that this is hurting you so bad :smile:

good luck xx

Reply 4

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

it really hurt to see her going out and having a laff without me because i know i would never leave her out. we have spoke about this before and she does say that ive changed especially when i got with my on-off bf. she was set against from the start as "it would end up in tears" which it has and shes she has laughed in my face! which hurt especially when she didnt come out of a club to meet me when he hit me. she stayed in there with her 5 minute friends. thur these friends shes met a group of lads she been out with one of them and snogged his mates! 8 in total shes getting in deep water and a reputation i dont like she it because shes a lovely girl at heart!
she has been under alot of stress latetly at home but going with these lads and getting drunk (which is not like her) has seriously changed her!! her girl best mate and me are worried but she doesnt seem to care!!
what should i do?? i dont want go university not speaking like we are now because theres sooo much tension!
HELP

No offence, mate, but you both sound like you've changed. She sounds like she's having a good time, even if it is without you, and you sound like you're struggling under an "on-off" boyfriend (so she was probably right about "it'll end up in tears", and probably feels hurt that you chose to betray her). Of course, she doesn't sound like she's turned into a wonderful specimen of a human being herself, but you've both changed, and probably both hurt each other. Maybe she just disliked being kind of reclusive, because however she seemed to you, anyone who can spend that much time with one person looks reclusive to everyone else. Age-old advice - talk to her. :smile:

If she still is your friend in any way she'll listen. Invite her out for a coffee or something, something quiet or something that you used to do, and don't row with her, but make her see that she's hurting you, and then, if it goes well, catch up on what you've missed of each other's life and agree that people change and you'll stay friends. Worst case scenario is that she says no - and at least then you'll know where you stand.

It's a crappy situation to be in, trust me, I've been there myself, down to (almost) the last detail. :frown:

If you ever need any advice or anything, feel free to PM me (and if you want to stay anonymous, get a new account or something). :smile:

But don't worry about it. People change - you've changed and so has she. Sadly some people change faster than others and that's something I've never been able to understand, but that we all unfortunately have to accept once in a while.

If you don't mind me asking, how old are you? Just curious.

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

im 18! we went out last wkend and i told her we needed talk properly! she agreed! we put it on pause to have a night out as a group then later she gave my m8 a fiver get home with to give me becuse we normally and agreed to get taxi back together as we only live down the road of each other. but she went back some house party! i ant heard off her since!!
HELP

Reply 6

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

im 18! we went out last wkend and i told her we needed talk properly! she agreed! we put it on pause to have a night out as a group then later she gave my m8 a fiver get home with to give me becuse we normally and agreed to get taxi back together as we only live down the road of each other. but she went back some house party! i ant heard off her since!!
HELP

Why do you keep shouting help? Phone her. I've given my advice. :confused:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

no way if she wants make up she can txt me!

Reply 8

TKR

15

problem with fag hags

straight girls suck major ass a lot of the time

Reply 9

Anonymous #2

Anonymous

no way if she wants make up she can txt me!

well then, there's nothing you can do then is there, so stop rambling to us about it! also, sorry but your grammar is appalling!

Reply 10

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

no way if she wants make up she can txt me!

Err, bye then.

Reply 11

generalebriety

16

Anonymous

well then, there's nothing you can do then is there, so stop rambling to us about it! also, sorry but your grammar is appalling!

Look at you, oh my god, where have your capital letters gone? :eek3:

I may just have to disregard everything you say if you don't shape up, young man!

(Edit: or woman, but that doesn't sound as patronising.)

Reply 12

That artistic one

1

generalebriety

Look at you, oh my god, where have your capital letters gone? :eek3:

I may just have to disregard everything you say if you don't shape up, young man!

(Edit: or woman, but that doesn't sound as patronising.)

errr....yeh young lady actually as you say in your edited part, p.s. it was aimed to be contradictory because im a very strange mood, hahhaha! also, i do know my grammar, i cant be bothered to press captials everytime there need be. :biggrin:

anyhow, i see this thread is disappearing quite rapidly!

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