Singledom- ouch!

Anyone else find it impossible? Broke up with my boyfriend about 2 months ago, he was lovely and said he wanted to remain friends but he's been ignoring me ever since (just 2-3 friendly texts asking how he is- if he wants to meet up etc, nothing heavy). Feeling v lonely. Met a really perfect bloke on holiday, got on like a house on fire but he's got a girlfriend. I don't want to just pull someone out of desperation at Uni but being single is SO lonely- any tips?

Reply 1

squigaletta

get used to being happy by yourself, its vvv easy (i know) to go from 1 relationship to another out of fear of being lonely but really it will make you much happier in the long run, you will find someone but if you try to hurry it you will find out that it totally wrecks your sense of self (i know)...you are not just someones1's gf, you are an individual!!!

Reply 2

Triplet1

13

i split up with my boyfriend about 2 months ago aswell we both wanted to stay friends but it never happened.... he felt it strange being friends with me which is fair enough. It did upset me for a while but i'm happy being single now! My tip is just too move on.... not necessarily with another guy but enjoy time with your friends and worrying about it.

Reply 3

username47781

20

being single is not a bad thing, if he was lovely how come you broke up with your boyfriend.

Reply 4

lilac!!

15

ice-cream always helps!! :biggrin:

Reply 5

*starry_eyed_*

14

singledom isn't impossible...i've endured nearly 18 years of it..and i'm still not used to it! ah well..there is someone out there :rolleyes:

just give it time to get over him, have fun with your friends and capiche, you'll find someone when the time's right! :smile:

Reply 6

ciara

13

Believe it or not your ex is doing you a favour by ignoring you - if he really is a nice guy you will be friends eventually, but if he'd agreed to meet up with you while you're like this it would have only made it all worse. Pretend he's disappeared off the planet for the next few months, and concentrate on stuff that doesn't involve boys. Go out lots with friends. You don't need a boyfriend all the time to be happy in life (if you do you need help). Girl power etc.

Having said that, a random pull might help as a temporary reassertion of your attractiveness to the opposite sex. Be very careful with this course of action though, and don't do it if you're the sort of person who gets attached easily.

Reply 7

1013

1

It'll just take time to get used to it. I broke up with my boyfriend last year and was miserable for ages (sorry, not trying to make it worse). I felt like I was never going to get over it but I am now, and I am loving being single. Don't rush yourself.

Reply 8

indy_punk

1

Ive always hated singledom, except when I am in a relationship.Think of all the pros of being single,the lack of obligation,expenses,drama and sacrifices. Sure itd can be great being in a relationship but just because your not in one don't get stuck in a rut and be overwhelmed by a break up.I loved my ex and the one before.It takes time to move on,it hurts,its lonely but look around.You are young,you've got soooo much to look forward to! Just be around people who make you laugh&who are caring.
Eating loads of chocolate,making a list of what I dint like about my ex, getting a new hair cut and clothes worked! As silly as it sounds try and move on.Time heals and soon you'll find its not as horrible as you think it is.
:hugs:

And being mates with an ex is really hard but give that time as well,both of you need to heal!

edit: Oh, everyone told me at uni Id meet the right bloke and ummm I did meet the ex,which was nice but I kind of wish I dint and just lived up the whole first year to the max.Join as many socities as you can, be yourself...once your environment changes so will your frame of mind! :smile:

Singledom- ouch!

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