I'm NOT a virgin and I feel so ashamed about it

Some of my friends are virgins, but one in particular talks about her being a virgin to me all the time. It's good that she waited, but she would talk about a guy who likes her and would always say to me "That guy likes me, but I don't want to feel pressured to sleep with someone, I want to do it when I'm ready, because I remember that guy you first slept with......" And she would keep going on about it and I don't like speaking about my sexual past, because Im ashamed.

There are many 26 year old virgins and every day and I kick myself for not waiting.

Stop placing an unrealistic importance on sex.

Go out tonight and sleep with a few more.

Hi just wanted to get something off my chest that's been bothering me a bit. I lost my virginity when I was 20, I'm not proud of it because I felt pressured into doing it. Then I had a boyfriend and I slept with him, but felt comfortable. After my boyfriend and I broke up, I felt lonely, so at the first opportunity, my guy friend and I hooked up and we hook up once every year, so guess Im being abstinent for 364 days of the year.

Some of my friends are virgins, but one in particular talks about her being a virgin to me all the time. It's good that she waited, but she would talk about a guy who likes her and would always say to me "That guy likes me, but I don't want to feel pressured to sleep with someone, I want to do it when I'm ready, because I remember that guy you first slept with......" And she would keep going on about it and I don't like speaking about my sexual past, because Im ashamed.

I'm ashamed I'm not a virgin anymore and Im ashamed a guy will not like me, because I'm not a virgin and I've been with 3 people.
I see my guy friend once every year, so I don't have sex regularly, it's just things like this remind me of who I've been with and I feel so ashamed and embarrassed. There are many 26 year old virgins and every day and I kick myself for not waiting.

I would love to be in a committed non-sexual relationship, but how can I be. I'm scared if a guy I fall for knows I'm not a virgin, he would see me as tainted and used, as most guys like virgins.

What should I do?

That's a bit sluty...

That's a bit sluty...

this

What's wrong with that ?

I really wish people would stop thinking sex has little importance; especially as to go so far as to suggest sleeping with some more people casually!!

It's terribly naive with respect to understanding some peoples feelings. People can get all sorts of thoughts and feelings from having slept with someone, and to think that everything's always going to be ok is what can lead to people getting hurt.

Forget about being in a relationship; focus on yourself: your studies, job etc. Accept Jesus as your Lord and saviour and you will feel comfort. Jesus can forgive you of your sins.

Nothing. Just a lifestyle choice I don't choose or find attractive.

That works out well then because it just so happens that I couldn't care less about what you find attractive.

I'm not naive in the slightest.

I used to be exactly the same when I was younger, it dissipates with age and experience.

After you've slept with a few people you realise just how overly hyped it is when you're younger. It's not healthy and it causes a lot of misery for young people who put some magical fantasy scenario with every encounter. Sex simply is not a big deal, it's just sex. To say you wish wished you weren't a virgin is just ludicrous and shows how warped and outdated people mindsets are on sex.