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A love affair..

I know that I'll be getting some harsh responses from you but I seriously need some advice.. and I can't talk to my friends about it so as a last resort I've turned to you on here.

When I was on holiday a few weeks ago I met a guy who's quite older than me. My mum was next to me too but he seemed like he wanted to talk to me first. Anyway we all got talking and hang around together.. my mum and him started to get really close. I didn't think anything of him but we got along really well and I felt really comfortable with him. One night we went to a night club. I had to go to the loo so he came with me as I didn't know where it was so he was waiting outside for me. When I came out he was sitting on a sofa, I went and sat next to him and we were dancing, then he put his arm around me and got really close. I said we shouldn't be leaving my mum alone so we went back. I think if we stayed a few more seconds he would have kissed me. A few weeks later me and my mum went to his place to stay for two days. We drank and danced in the house, it was mad. When I was about to go sleep he showed me a bedroom and said I could sleep there, and he came to say goodbye and gave me a kiss on the lips when my mum couldn't see us.

The second night, my mum was in the bathroom and we were in the living room, we hadn't drank anything yet so we weren't drunk. He got me from my hand and we started to slow dance. I didn't know how it happened but as the attraction was there from before we started to kiss. I couldn't believe it and I tried pushing him away because I knew it was wrong and was also scared that my mum would come and see us, but he leaned in closer. We kissed two times after that and then he told me that he loves me.

After that they we had to come back to England, and he keeps texting me and my mum seperately. When he texts my mum he always asks about both of us and nothing special to my mum, but when he texts me its always about us and he tells me how much he misses me, loves me and wants me.

The thing I'm wondering here is, is he playing both me and my mum, or is he using my mum to be close with me? It's because he knows that no way my mum will let me have a relationship with this man, so if he can't see my mum he can't see me either.

He says that he's planning on coming to England soon. I don't know how it's going to work out. Should I end my relationship with him or carry on? I don't want to upset my mum but firstly I never felt this strong towards anyone else and secondly my mum was going out with someone else at the same time so I feel that my mum doesn't deserve him.

Sorry this is long, but I really appreciate some advice. Thanks.

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Reply 1

la fille danse

How old IS he and how old are you?

Reply 2

ladyportacabin

Well, the nice side of me says he's a sweetie for getting on with your mum and trying to make a good impression.

The bad half of me thinks that even Jeremy Kyle would be open mouthed at this one.

Reply 3

Sazarina88

Don't get involved with someone you think may also be interested in your Mum. It won't end nicely.

Reply 4

Anonymous #1

He's QUIET a lot older than me.

Reply 5

Sazarina88

Anonymous

He's QUIET a lot older than me.

quiet?

I think it would help if you said...

Reply 6

sparkler

just say the age difference then..

:smile:

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

25 yrs difference :smile:

Reply 8

Sazarina88

Anonymous

25 yrs difference :smile:

Forget it.

Reply 9

Sticky

Your mum and you sound like a great laugh!.. :rolleyes:

It's strange that you go on and on about how the guy kept trying and trying like a horny, desperate dog, and it seems to be the main thing you have to say about him (you don't have anything else to say about him, that's particularly positive)... and at the end of it all, you mention that you've never had such strong feelings for someone?

Reply 10

Mattmoy_2000

I'm assuming you're under 25. He's a pervy old man.

Reply 11

sparkler

duw duw duw...

that is a bit much, in my opinion

Kinky!

Jebus your gullible

He doesn't have to be pervy. Catherine Zeta Jones is with a man who's 25 yrs older than her..

Reply 15

MickeyG

Please tell me 25 years was just a sick lil joke :smile:

Reply 16

Harv616

Anonymous

He doesn't have to be pervy. Catherine Zeta Jones is with a man who's 25 yrs older than her..

YOU are a fool, this is either a troll post or you are incredibly stupid to think ANYTHING could happen with him.

For crying out loud, hes with your MOM

Reply 17

sparkler

but she's (CZJ) probably a lot older than you are...

25 is way too much

Yeah he's with my MUM but is the reason he's with my MUM so that he can be close to me?? Because when my mum said that she'll go next to him soon for holiday, he said come when it's your daughter's holiday too! SO basically he wants to see me? As I explained before he couldn't have come close to me if he wasn't with my mum.