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Hi, basically my friend is getting married and she is muslim and asian, she doesn't really want to get married but is just going along with it really, anyway does anyone know what would be a good thing to buy as a wedding present? I know shes not allowed alcohol so can't get any wine glasses but im scared of getting something and her thinking its strange lol. Do muslim weddings differ a lot from english or not?

Reply 1

freshestkid

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Anonymous

she doesn't really want to get married but is just going along with it really

i know it goes on, but it still makes me think 'what the ****' when i read about that kinda stuff

Reply 2

omaremad

well there isnt much to a muslim wedding, just some declarations witnesses saying ok signing the register and thats it.

The wedding party on the other hand is merely traditional and depends allot on the country time placed etc...

I would think most wedding gifts would be thingys for the home like a crystal vase or something

Edit: some kind of coffe set (like those tiny coffe cups for really strong black coffe)

Reply 3

zain88

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Yes they do differ significantly. Firstly, they last over three days (hen night, wedding, afterparty (kinda the guy's hen night in a way)). And also, the actual ceremony won't be in front of everyone probably (as in the actual marriage agreement bit) but she'll still do the whole walking up the aisle thing, with the guy already there. And the best bit: EVERYONE'S invited to dinner, woohoo :smile:

Buy her something for her new house? (she's likely to be moving in with the guy for the first time, yes?) Photo frames are always good because they can frame their wedding pics.
She's muslim and asian but she's still normal you know, lol, why would she find things strange? If she's born and bred here then don't buy her a different gift from what you would normally buy someone (except the wineglasses). And also, you can get nice glasses that are not necessarily wine ones, in a set of two, which could be quite nice.

Reply 4

zain88

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OP, did you intend this thread to discuss the fact that she's getting married against her will, or to discuss gifts? Or both?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

OP

omaremad

well there isnt much to a muslim wedding, just some declarations witnesses saying ok signing the register and thats it.

The wedding party on the other hand is merely traditional and depends allot on the country time placed etc...

I would think most wedding gifts would be thingys for the home like a crystal vase or something

Edit: some kind of coffe set (like those tiny coffe cups for really strong black coffe)

Ok thanks, my nan gave me a never used toaster to give her lol but Id like to give something else as well, is it more or less the same as an English wedding then when it comes to presents?

Reply 6

high priestess fnord

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im assuming shes moving in with him so how about an appliance or something practical? alot of couples make wishlists for people to chose off with things like towels that they will need for the house.

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

zain88

OP, did you intend this thread to discuss the fact that she's getting married against her will, or to discuss gifts? Or both?

I want some ideas of what to buy her as a present but from what ive read its probably the same as any other wedding when it comes to gifts, which makes it easier.

Reply 8

poppy12

Anonymous

Hi, basically my friend is getting married and she is muslim and asian, she doesn't really want to get married but is just going along with it really, anyway does anyone know what would be a good thing to buy as a wedding present? I know shes not allowed alcohol so can't get any wine glasses but im scared of getting something and her thinking its strange lol. Do muslim weddings differ a lot from english or not?

that makes me really sad. and really angry, the fact that parents do this to their children makes me sick. as for presents is she's a traditionalist she'll love something homely but being asian she'll get 7 toasters so sometyhing different like a fruit bowl perhaps?

Reply 9

m.a.y.a

yes get her something you would buy for an english friend who was getting married apart from the wine glasses lol!

Reply 10

Anonymous #1

OP

zain88

Yes they do differ significantly. Firstly, they last over three days (hen night, wedding, afterparty (kinda the guy's hen night in a way)). And also, the actual ceremony won't be in front of everyone probably (as in the actual marriage agreement bit) but she'll still do the whole walking up the aisle thing, with the guy already there. And the best bit: EVERYONE'S invited to dinner, woohoo :smile:

Buy her something for her new house? (she's likely to be moving in with the guy for the first time, yes?) Photo frames are always good because they can frame their wedding pics.
She's muslim and asian but she's still normal you know, lol, why would she find things strange? If she's born and bred here then don't buy her a different gift from what you would normally buy someone (except the wineglasses). And also, you can get nice glasses that are not necessarily wine ones, in a set of two, which could be quite nice.

Yeah but for one I can't buy her anything like wine glasses cause she doesn't drink alcohol, its things like this I don't want to buy the wrong thing. If she is not keen on getting married then she probably won't think too much of photo frames lol, I dunno. I think she will be moving in with her husbands family so they might have a lot of house items already. I thought about getting her a clock but what do you think?

Reply 11

WaW™

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zain88

OP, did you intend this thread to discuss the fact that she's getting married against her will, or to discuss gifts? Or both?

Reply 12

Anonymous #1

OP

Weird and Wonderful

I want to know what to buy her why? Do you want a discussion on the marriage? Im not getting into it because at the end of the day its her choice really, if it was that bad she would refuse, even she said no one can force her and she can always get divorced if it doesn't work out.

Reply 13

m.a.y.a

then get something for her, to make her feel special, something like a pair of ghd straightners lol actually i need them cos my sis won't let me take hers when i move out for uni, fair point i guess!!!

ok seriously..........i duno make a hamper you know and add things she would like, or buy her a clock and everytime she looks at it she'll remmeber you :wink:

Reply 14

high priestess fnord

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if shes traditional then why not go to one of those fancy cook shops and get something interesting? they do all sorts of really pretty and cool stuff for the kitchen.

Reply 15

Anonymous #1

OP

m.a.y.a

then get something for her, to make her feel special, something like a pair of ghd straightners lol actually i need them cos my sis won't let me take hers when i move out for uni, fair point i guess!!!

ok seriously..........i duno make a hamper you know and add things she would like, or buy her a clock and everytime she looks at it she'll remmeber you :wink:

lol, yea ok I'l buy her a clock no one can have too many of them :p:

Thanks for the replies

Reply 16

Anonymous #1

OP

high priestess fnord

if shes traditional then why not go to one of those fancy cook shops and get something interesting? they do all sorts of really pretty and cool stuff for the kitchen.

hm not sure how traditional she is, I'l have a look round I'l probably end up with something like clock lol

Reply 17

romario

y dont u tell ur friend that under islamic law if she doesnt want to get married then she doesnt have to. infact if she doesnt agree to the marriage then it will be invalid. you might save a lifetime of misery.

btw the wedding ceremony isnt the same for all asian muslims. there can be quite alot of variety depending on the geographical/social/religious status of the family.