I hate parties! How am I going to survive freshers?

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The idea of Freshers is terrifying me. Being crammed in a room of strangers, hot and sweaty, let alone the intrusion of personal space and the illnesses!

What are the alternatives?
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There are no alternatives, it's not like you have to go to the house parties, you can just go to events such as clubs etc but I wouldn't say you should do that because the people you meet in the first week will be your friends on wards. If you stay in your room on freshers you'll most likely stay in there for the whole year. I suggest you face your fears and just 'try' to enjoy it and socialize. Personally, I am looking forward to this even as a fresher in September. I don't drink, however, that doesn't stop me from knowing people.. Does it?
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Not a freshman, but I'd say do what makes you comfortable. I've never been a party person, or that sociable in general. There are other ways to meet people: class, clubs, and much, much more. Do you have any friends starting school with you?
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When it is freshers week there will be alot of clubbing and drinking. But you don't have to do any of that if your not that type of person, depending on the uni you go to, there will be other things to do such as quiz nights and karaoke etc.
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There will be loads of non-drinking and non-clubbing events at your Fresher's Week. Go to those. And go to society events in the first few weeks. I've been clubbing like 3 times in 3 years at uni and hated it every time. There's no point making clubbing-type friends if that's not who you are because you'll never do anything together. Yes, I met my best friend in Fresher's Week but we met through our course and everyone I met at non-course related things in Fresher's Week (except one girl who I lived with and still live with) I don't talk to anymore.
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(Original post by ArghJo)
The idea of Freshers is terrifying me. Being crammed in a room of strangers, hot and sweaty, let alone the intrusion of personal space and the illnesses!

What are the alternatives?
You don't have to go to clubs!

I spent the majority of my freshers week in bars, you can actually talk to people and get to know them, not like in a club. I think I only went out one night!

And join societies that are doing non-alcoholic events, talk to them at the freshers fair to find things that you enjoy.

Freshers is whatever you make it to be. See it as an opportunity to socialise and get to know people before you have to get down to some hard work
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(Original post by ArghJo)
The idea of Freshers is terrifying me. Being crammed in a room of strangers, hot and sweaty, let alone the intrusion of personal space and the illnesses!

What are the alternatives?

I felt exactly the same way as you when I started uni, and I'm still not a big fan of the clubbing scene. You can try it out just for one day, but no one can force you to do something that you don't want to do! There are many alternative things you can do to socialise. From on campus BBQs, bowling events, and also pubs and bars can provide a much more spacious and chatty atmosphere (and you don't even have to drink if you don't want to!). It's also the same with societies - some have members that a big partiers, so their socials will probably consist of that sort of thing too. But there are other societies who do different socials that you might enjoy more, just like the one I joined. It's all about finding the right kind of people, and there are lots of people to meet at uni!
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It may be useful to point out that all the social union type events in Freshers week are completely optional. No need to attend at all or to stay long if you feel uncomfortable. Find a buddy and do something else instead.
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I love this idea that Freshers' Week is analogous to the old Foriegn Legion where you'd walk in, sign on the line, and as soon as you walk through the door - that's it - you just get told what to do and you have no choice in the matter.
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You hate parties? wtf? Do you hate fun and happiness too?
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"I hate parties... [and fun and stuff]" - sounds like a line that a future super villain would say!
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(Original post by cole-slaw)
You hate parties? wtf? Do you hate fun and happiness too?
Certain types of parties aren't everyone's cup of tea and there are many other things to do to have fun!
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(Original post by Charlotte Goss)
Certain types of parties aren't everyone's cup of tea and there are many other things to do to have fun!
I hate purity. I hate goodness. I don't want any virtue to exist anywhere.
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There are other discussions similar to this one, all of which have lots of replies from students who didn't go out drinking or clubbing in Fresher's Week and still had a great time. I think there's a misconception about what Fresher's week is like - just enjoy yourself and, like others have said, look for the pubs or bars or other places where you can sit and chat I'm sure you'll have a great time! Good luck!
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I've been to Uni and you just have to make the most of it. Whether it's in a hot and sweaty room or not. I don't smoke but most of my friends do so we usually sat outside our halls during parties (most people went outside really) so there's that. Flats tend to stick together so buddy up with them pretty quick then when you go to any flat parties or anything you at least have them to talk to all night

good luck!!!!
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I understand what you mean, I'm sure they'll be a variety of students some who love partying, some who don't. Also there are many other events what don't involve drinking or partying that you will enjoy.
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I am most nervous about the parties!!! I just published a post on my blog, just this topic! Read it here you like www.studentbloggisms.wordpress.com
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you'll still make friends through your course and where you live!! and even after freshers you'll still meet people don't be terrified because nobody can make you do something you don't want to do! when i first went to uni on my first day when my parents left me i just sat down and had a nice cup of tea and went for a walk around campus! it's not all about partying! in fact you'll probably be better off not partying as you'll be studying instead! just make sure you look after yourself and don't put too much pressure on yourself to make friends! and remember to ring home once in a while to check in with your parents theyre probably more scared than you!
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Upon arrival at your student halls each accommodation block will have a senior student who will tell you what you will be doing for the week and when you have to where, I suggest you take notes because you will only be told once. There will be a nominal roll taken at least 6 times a day, if you miss a single one you had best be prepared for some serious consequences, you will be told what events to attend and you WILL have fun. Usually you will be allowed to leave the event after a period of time usually 4 -6 hours and not a moment before, however this is down to the senior student's discretion and is subject to change.


The campus security team will be patrolling the halls to ensure no students are in 'out of bounds' areas between 18.00 and 00.00 hours (i.e their rooms) anyone caught in out of bounds areas will be removed and held at accomodation services until they are retrieved by their block senior, where they will face disciplinary action from their senior.

roll call will be:

06.00 - stood beside your beds, senior student will be looking for high standards of drunkeness, with a minimum of at least a 7/10 hangover. Bed can be either made or messy, but should not show signs of being slept in at any point during the week.

07.00 - Breakfast, to include leftover takeaways, toast or a selection of store brand cereals. Beverages will be tea or coffee. Any unfinshed containers of alcohol must be consumed before non alcoholic beverages are served.

10.00 - Sports, the University sports teams will be holding a selection of taster sessions for your enjoyment. Dress is PT kit, (fancy nikes at least £120 in value, a t shirt sporting a humorous logo and shorts/jogging bottoms) anyone forgetting to bring PT kit will take part in their underpants. Bring a beverage to hydrate yourself, vodka is a good choice.

12.00 - Lunch. Meet outside the block, after nominal roll is taken you will proceed to a pub chosen by your block senior, you will enjoy a meal accompanied by at least 5 alcoholic beverages.

17.00 - pre drinks, you will wander around your corridoor, drinking store bought alcohol, you will engage in conversation with your floor mates and decide on what you will wear for the evenings festivities whilst choking everyone with copius amounts of aftershave/deoderant/perfume, consumption of a light meal or snack is advised but not mandatory, it is your last chance to eat before midnight.

18.00 - All students to have exited their room, senior student will take nominal roll and ensure maximum attendance, students will then be briefed on the evenings activities, alcohol may or may not be provided, it is STRONGLY recommended you bring your own.

00.00 - Mindnight snack, at this point the senior student may use their discretion to allow the weaker members of the student body to go home. This is the point where the consumption of food becomes allowed, however caution should be used, since "eating is cheating".

04.00 - After party. Remaining students will gather outside a takeaway and discuss their next objective, at this point senior student will likely have relinquished authority on the grounds of "being smashed" and students will exercise individual responsibility. Options usually include, after drinks in someones kitchen, wandering the streets aimlessly, hooking up or passing out in a public place.

06.00 - stood beside your beds, senior student will be looking for high standards of drunkeness, with a minimum of at least a 7/10 hangover. Bed can be either made or messy, but should not show signs of being slept in at any point during the week.


THIS IS YOUR ONLY OPTION MAKE PEACE WITH IT!
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(Original post by bubadeeboop)
Upon arrival at your student halls each accommodation block will have a senior student who will tell you what you will be doing for the week and when you have to where, I suggest you take notes because you will only be told once. There will be a nominal roll taken at least 6 times a day, if you miss a single one you had best be prepared for some serious consequences, you will be told what events to attend and you WILL have fun. Usually you will be allowed to leave the event after a period of time usually 4 -6 hours and not a moment before, however this is down to the senior student's discretion and is subject to change.


The campus security team will be patrolling the halls to ensure no students are in 'out of bounds' areas between 18.00 and 00.00 hours (i.e their rooms) anyone caught in out of bounds areas will be removed and held at accomodation services until they are retrieved by their block senior, where they will face disciplinary action from their senior.

roll call will be:

06.00 - stood beside your beds, senior student will be looking for high standards of drunkeness, with a minimum of at least a 7/10 hangover. Bed can be either made or messy, but should not show signs of being slept in at any point during the week.

07.00 - Breakfast, to include leftover takeaways, toast or a selection of store brand cereals. Beverages will be tea or coffee. Any unfinshed containers of alcohol must be consumed before non alcoholic beverages are served.

10.00 - Sports, the University sports teams will be holding a selection of taster sessions for your enjoyment. Dress is PT kit, (fancy nikes at least £120 in value, a t shirt sporting a humorous logo and shorts/jogging bottoms) anyone forgetting to bring PT kit will take part in their underpants. Bring a beverage to hydrate yourself, vodka is a good choice.

12.00 - Lunch. Meet outside the block, after nominal roll is taken you will proceed to a pub chosen by your block senior, you will enjoy a meal accompanied by at least 5 alcoholic beverages.

17.00 - pre drinks, you will wander around your corridoor, drinking store bought alcohol, you will engage in conversation with your floor mates and decide on what you will wear for the evenings festivities whilst choking everyone with copius amounts of aftershave/deoderant/perfume, consumption of a light meal or snack is advised but not mandatory, it is your last chance to eat before midnight.

18.00 - All students to have exited their room, senior student will take nominal roll and ensure maximum attendance, students will then be briefed on the evenings activities, alcohol may or may not be provided, it is STRONGLY recommended you bring your own.

00.00 - Mindnight snack, at this point the senior student may use their discretion to allow the weaker members of the student body to go home. This is the point where the consumption of food becomes allowed, however caution should be used, since "eating is cheating".

04.00 - After party. Remaining students will gather outside a takeaway and discuss their next objective, at this point senior student will likely have relinquished authority on the grounds of "being smashed" and students will exercise individual responsibility. Options usually include, after drinks in someones kitchen, wandering the streets aimlessly, hooking up or passing out in a public place.

06.00 - stood beside your beds, senior student will be looking for high standards of drunkeness, with a minimum of at least a 7/10 hangover. Bed can be either made or messy, but should not show signs of being slept in at any point during the week.


THIS IS YOUR ONLY OPTION MAKE PEACE WITH IT!
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