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Having a hard time getting over being bullied as a child

[INDENT]I was badly bullied as a child, all the things you can think of they did to me. Lately I keep getting intense flashbacks about what happened, and I constantly worry what it would be like if I bumped into them. They were thugs back then, and I worry that the bullying would continue if I saw them again. I worry that somehow a fight would occur, as these guys are horrible people. Can someone give me some Advice?[/INDENT]


The bullies will probably either:
- have changed significantly in the years between. They will probably be ashamed of their actions and if they saw you would avoid talking to you so as to not remind themselves of the unkind things they did.
- if they are not ashamed chances are they are not remotely successful. Keep your head held high around them, they may be able to make you unhappy for a few minutes but they will be struggling to get by for the rest of their life and sooner or later your paths will never cross again.
Original post by Narcissist
The bullies will probably either:
- have changed significantly in the years between. They will probably be ashamed of their actions and if they saw you would avoid talking to you so as to not remind themselves of the unkind things they did.
- if they are not ashamed chances are they are not remotely successful. Keep your head held high around them, they may be able to make you unhappy for a few minutes but they will be struggling to get by for the rest of their life and sooner or later your paths will never cross again.


I guess so it's just something that's hard to forget
I was bullied as a child and I can understand how hard it can and the impact it has on the bullied person is horrific and significant. Apart from being bullied I have always been told by teachers, tutors and lecturers that I am not capable of anything or the specialism I was in was not for me. It is extremely difficult to move on from something that caused you immense pain and suffering. But at the same time it is very important. I agree with Narcissist as the people who bullied me ( I had curly hair) have now become acquaintances of mine and go out of their way to greet me and always smile at me. It is weird as hell to see that change in them especially as you do not have a positive image of them.

Unfortunately I did become a bully myself later on and I have experienced both sides and so I can understand both sides. What I learned as a bully was that bullies have a low self esteem at the time and need to exploit another persons weaknesses. This in turn gives the bully a false sense of self esteem and they feel good about themselves.

Focus on your positives because we all have them and aim to be proud of them. If the bullies see this positive in you then maybe they will not even bother you anymore. Remember that bullies will never get far because of their behaviour and attitude but the person being bullied can always get far and show the bullies what they are made of.

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