what to do when you don't want to form a friendship?

what to do.
I am currently working in my local supermarket and I met this girl also working there. She is nice and we have spoken a couple of times. Today she asked me if I wanted to go to a bar with her. I said I was busy which isn't true.
The thing is, I'm really not interested in making friends with her. Just because we worked together for 3 weeks doesn't mean we have to be friends. I just wanted someone to talk to during my break.
How can I tell her I'n not interested in a nice , not too obvious way?
I am worried she'll want my msn adress or mobile number next.
What to do or say? Thanx :tsr2:

Reply 1

The Mudman

10

As soon as she tries to talk to you, punch her in the face. Repeat until she doesn't approach you anymore.

Reply 2

Stick Man

11

You don't want a friend? Seems odd. 90% of the people on TSR would kill for a friend :p:

Reply 3

dementedbunny

11

tell her you can't hang out because you've been in mourning since your cat died 3 years ago and it would induce great heartbreak if you left the house apart from working in the grocery since you need the grocery money to buy dead mice and fish to hang above your cat's grave.

Reply 4

Eternity Forever

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Stick Man

You don't want a friend? Seems odd. 90% of the people on TSR would kill for a friend :p:

Reply 5

-Kav-

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dementedbunny

tell her you can't hang out because you've been in mourning since your cat died 3 years ago and it would induce great heartbreak if you left the house apart from working in the grocery since you need the grocery money to buy dead mice and fish to hang above your cat's grave.

Sounds reasonable.

Reply 6

~Hena.87~

OP

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dementedbunny

tell her you can't hang out because you've been in mourning since your cat died 3 years ago and it would induce great heartbreak if you left the house apart from working in the grocery since you need the grocery money to buy dead mice and fish to hang above your cat's grave.

Please, I need serious advice not silly answers.

Reply 7

generalebriety

16

Blah. Deal with it. Maybe she likes you, maybe she fancies you, maybe she just wants someone to talk to too and thinks it's polite. Steer clear of her in the supermarket (not in a rude way, but in a less friendly way) and you'll be fine.

I know what you mean though...

Reply 8

Stick Man

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yellow.mellow

Please, I need serious advice not silly answers.

Chat is for spam and crappy pisstakes. For serious discussion try the Health & Relationships forum or maybe General Discussion. :smile:

Reply 9

Juwel

18

Tell her the truth: that you're a selfish ingrate who wants someone to associate with on your own terms rather than a friend because heaven forbid you to engage in a give and take relationship.

Reply 10

mc_watson87

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Juwel

Tell her the truth: that you're a selfish ingrate who wants someone to associate with on your own terms rather than a friend because heaven forbid you to engage in a give and take relationship.

Well put J.

Reply 11

generalebriety

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Juwel

Tell her the truth: that you're a selfish ingrate who wants someone to associate with on your own terms rather than a friend because heaven forbid you to engage in a give and take relationship.

Maybe this girl is just plain bloody annoying.

I've been there.

Reply 12

Berto90

11

Watch the Extras, the Episode where Ricky Gervais (Andy) doesn't want to make friends with that large bald man. Do whatever he does.

"Telling someone you don't want to be their friend is like saying that you have a fundamental problem with their personality" :rofl:

Reply 13

Aeris

15

Just pretend like you're busy when she comes around (i.e. listening to an ipod, straightening your work area, pull out cell phone and pretend you have a call), and if this doesn't work, throw things at her. :smile:

Reply 14

Profesh

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generalebriety

Blah. Deal with it. Maybe she likes you, maybe she fancies you, maybe she just wants someone to talk to too and thinks it's polite. Steer clear of her in the supermarket (not in a rude way, but in a less friendly way) and you'll be fine.

I know what you mean though...

Oh, God. Seconded.

Reply 15

Profesh

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Berto90

Watch the Office, the Episode where Ricky Gervais (Andy) doesn't want to make friends with that large bald man. Do whatever he does.

"Telling someone you don't want to be their friend is like saying that you have a fundamental problem with their personality" :rofl:

Actually, that's an excerpt from Extras; although, in fairness, I couldn't tell the difference either.

Reply 16

~Hena.87~

OP

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Juwel

Tell her the truth: that you're a selfish ingrate who wants someone to associate with on your own terms rather than a friend because heaven forbid you to engage in a give and take relationship.

UHM sorry but i'm far from being a selfish ingrate! Lots of people like me because I'm so kind. However I have had enough of being kind and as a human being, I have a human right to not make friends with someone I just don't appreciate enough ( ie don't have much in common, barely know, is 3 years younger) sometimes, one just doesnt want to get involved.
I sort of avoided her today but just before I left she managed to get me and even asked for my mobile number. I gave it to her and I'm sure she'll text me some day. I don't want to hurt her feelings but I don't want to have to make up excuses for the rest of my life. If you cant understand that, then maybe you shouldnt bother giving advice!

Reply 17

bunthulhu

14

To be honest if you want her to be there on your lunch break so that you can have someone to talk to, but you don't want to be her friend, that seems a bit like having your cake and eating it. Most people assume that when someone wants to talk to them, i.e. be friendly, they want to be friends. If you don't want that, don't talk to her at all, lunch break or not :smile:

Reply 18