Homesickness at Uni :(

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Reply 1

freshestkid

you'll be too drunk to be homesick. Don't worry about it

Reply 2

Flicker

Jenski

I know I'm not there quite yet but I just know I'm going to be terribly homesick, especially in the first few weeks :frown:

Has anyone been through this and knows of any good ways of coping? I want to enjoy my time and not seem like I'm permanently unhappy!

As a rule of thumb, people who were expecting to be very homesick were much less affected by it than people who thought they'd be fine!

Just keep yourself busy, there's so much to do you really don't have time to be sad for a couple of weeks. If you do get down ring home if you need but really really try not to go home for at least 2 weeks - coming back makes it worse.

Everyone gets a bit down but you come through the other side! and it's nice to go home when you've missed it as you appreciate everything so much more :smile:

Reply 3

phoenixv

mix around wif more ppl, make more friends, it will be fine :biggrin:

Reply 4

Sazarina88

To be honest, it's not necessarily a bad thing to feel homesick. You miss home but it makes you appreciate how good home life really is.

Yes, it may be horrible for the first few weeks to think that you're actually not living at home anymore but you'll gradually adapt and grow to love university life.

As someone's already said, don't just sit around thinking and perhaps wishing you were at home. Get involved with all the activities going on and only ring home when you really need to.

I'm sure your family at home will be feeling somewhat similar (or perhaps they'll be glad to get rid of you?!) but it's just a part of life. Don't shy away from being homesick, accept that you do miss home but also accept that you're starting a new chapter of your life that will be full of excitement and adventure. :smile:

Good luck,
Sarah x

Reply 5

Mutant

There will be people feeling the same as you, as mentioned just get involved. Im sure everyone will feel a bit homesick at some point.

Reply 6

Ghetto_Princess12

Don’t worry. You’ll be fine. The first couple of weeks are the hardest weeks to get by. But at some point you will adapt to University Life. Being homesick is natural as many people can relate to this issue but you also have to comprehend that you cannot be reliant on your family you will at some point in life be independent and university Life permits you to do the exact same. You’ll meet a great amount of people who are exactly feeling similar to you. You would not feel left out and Freshers week is a great opportunity to meet new people and make new friends and gives you an insight on how university life is actually like. And it will also enable you to blend with a lot of people and shortly after a couple of weeks you’ll look back and you will gradually foreget about being homesick.

Reply 7

Siz

First off, don't worry too much until you get there! I thought I'd feel far worse than I did - but when I got there I was just too excited to miss home. There were a couple of days when I felt really down, but that was before I'd made any really good friends and I was hanging around with the people from my corridor who were really nice people but I knew we weren't ever going to be close. As soon as you make friends (and it happens very quickly, you can't help but get chatting to people on the club nights/in the bar/in the corridors in halls/whatever) you'll begin to stop missing home. As the other posters have said, get involved with everything you can. But most importantly, give yourself time. No-one expects you to feel 100% settled in straight away! For some people it can take the most part of the first semester to feel really settled in, for others it can take just the first couple of weeks. Either way, you will get used to it and find yourself having a really, really good time. And don't forget, home's only an email/phone call away - but I'd be a bit wary about spending hours every day on the phone, you don't know how many prospective friends are waiting around outside :P

Good luck, have fun, and talk to people if you feel bad, chances are you'll find a lot of people who are feeling the same way!

Sarah x

Reply 8

Fordyville

I think alot of people do feel homesick for quite a while.

It took me time to adjust to living at uni. In my case it wasn't so much missing my family and friends (altho i did miss them) but it was more the fact that i was used to living out in the country so i had to get used to being constantly surrounded by people.

The best way to combat it, is just go out and try and enjoy yourself as much as possible, that way you won't have time to think about things like that.

Reply 9

*titanium*

What does it feel like being homesick? can you be physicaly sick? sorry its just i have never been home sick, i have been homesick, when i have been away fomr my home/parents for a few weeks i felt happy to come back home, but i was not like really missing home like that it upset me or anything.

Reply 10

kitten with a whip

I was so homesick in my first year of university. It was the first time I'd ever really been away from my mum and I was also just getting over a lengthy illness, which wasn't a great time to be away from her. I found it helped to have a set day and time when I could give her a call, or to chat with her over instant messenger. It gave me something to look forward to.
What really helped was making friends. When you're out doing something and having fun you forget about being homesick. If you're living in a dorm, leave your door open while you're in your room. People will walk in and introduce themselves. Also, take the initiative to go around and introduce yourself to people. Invite them out to do something, they'll probably be just as grateful as you are to have a new bud. Eventually you'll become less and less homesick. And hey, you can even let people know you're feeling a bit blue. They're usually more than willing to help cheer someone up. My friends have done the most ridiculous things to cheer me up and I love them for it.
Good luck!

Reply 11

Absinthe

School nurse at my old high school suggested that, if you feel homesick after a while, go home for a weekend. But don't give up on your course (apparently a lot of students drop out due to homesickness!); just go home for a weekend if you really miss your family. You might find after that that you want to go back to university, unless you've left your partner behind...

*titanium*

What does it feel like being homesick? can you be physicaly sick?

You're not physically sick (well, I don't know - some people could be - personally I have felt homesick but never felt physically ill at the time) but you do feel a longing for home.

Reply 12

chocmonster

its a big change not living at home anymore, but its fantastic to be independent!
i didn't get homesick once, not even a little bit (even thought i love home!)...just too busy making the most of fresher year to think about it! x

Reply 13

Navajo

When I first left for Uni I was a little homesick, but I just delved into Uni life and now I hate going back home.

I feel like I have two seperate lives.

Reply 14

*titanium*

One thing i never understood is why

sea sick or car sick= is being sick of being at sea or in a car

home sick= missing home

It doesnt make sense to me! Surley home sick means your sick of home, you want to leave!

Reply 15

Tuna

I know I'm gona be home sick, I feel weird enough staying in a hotel with people I know. I think it's just the fact that I like my room and know where all my stuff is, etc.

Also I'm gona HATE being so far away from my bf :'(

Reply 16

Mellanie

O ppl, the title of the thread and the OP just sums up how i feel now too!!!!!

I thoroughly expected myself to get the results to go to a LOndon uni (where i live - london) so i wouldnt have to move out, but it just shows u cant overrely on something cos den ur absolutely ****ted up :frown:

Now im moving away to leicester :frown:

I feel so sad I'm leaving my mummy and daddy and my room and my wardrobe and stuff behind :frown:

Reply 17

cinder

Think of it this way, its going to happen someday, better sooner than later.
I'm sure if you keep yourself occupied l8ike somebody else said, you'll be fine. Make friends and have so much fun you find it too hard to miss home.
I have a friend who enjyed uni so much he got unisickness when he was home...he hated being home and wanted to go back so bad.

Reply 18

Jonatan

Jenski

I know I'm not there quite yet but I just know I'm going to be terribly homesick, especially in the first few weeks :frown:

Has anyone been through this and knows of any good ways of coping? I want to enjoy my time and not seem like I'm permanently unhappy!

You'll be surprised how short 3 years is.

Reply 19

taran

i just finished my first year, well technically not yet. retakes have come to haunt me.

it took me the whole first term to get over being homesick.

then in the first holidays, i actually wanted to go back to uni.

having your own space and stuff is just the best, hell my uni room was bigger than my box room at home!

but yea just depends on the person, some get over it quicker than others.

learn how to cook though! that solves some of the problems with uni too. if you can make nice food that you like then thats one less problem to worry about when living on your own two feet.

well thats my experience