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Blemishes on a girl's face...

I'm a girl, and am very self-conscious of my spots, and am rather aware that makeup usually makes my skin worse... nevertheless I do try and lessen the redness etc eventhough it tends to "cake" and gets greasy.

The reason being... when I look at another girl, I'm instantly drawn to the blemishes/imperfections on her face and think how noticeable it is. (The majority of my friends though do have perfect skin though, grrrr...) Especially in the harsh daylight. I know its not nice, and I reckon that's what people do to me. I avoid looking people in the eye and cover parts of my face, but that probably draws more attention.

On the other hand, if it's a guy, I won't be so bothered about him having spots and stuff. Is it just me or is it more "acceptable" for a guy to have less than flawless skin than a girl?

I had a massive breakout due to exam results stress and saw my crush and his friends today. Oh I wanted to hide my face in shame. I tried to smile but all I can think of was how hideous I looked. :frown:

Would you be put off by someone with spots eventhough they have reasonably pretty features?
I really wouldn't be bothered if a girl had some spots or blemishes tbh. It's kinda insignificant.
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Anonymous
I'm a girl, and am very self-conscious of my spots, and am rather aware that makeup usually makes my skin worse... nevertheless I do try and lessen the redness etc eventhough it tends to "cake" and gets greasy.

The reason being... when I look at another girl, I'm instantly drawn to the blemishes/imperfections on her face and think how noticeable it is. (The majority of my friends though do have perfect skin though, grrrr...) Especially in the harsh daylight. I know its not nice, and I reckon that's what people do to me. I avoid looking people in the eye and cover parts of my face, but that probably draws more attention.

On the other hand, if it's a guy, I won't be so bothered about him having spots and stuff. Is it just me or is it more "acceptable" for a guy to have less than flawless skin than a girl?

I had a massive breakout due to exam results stress and saw my crush and his friends today. Oh I wanted to hide my face in shame. I tried to smile but all I can think of was how hideous I looked. :frown:

Would you be put off by someone with spots eventhough they have reasonably pretty features?


You're halfway there - you know you being selfconscious about it draws attention to it, and i think the reason you notice more on girls is because you are one yourself!

Drink lots of water and keep your skin as make up free as you can bear, and just ignore it. I'm sure it's not as bad as you think, and remember that if you don't notice guys skin it's unlikely they'll notice yours! Now stress is over too it should clear up loads anyway.

Everyone looks for in other people what they are conscious of themselves, so chances are people are looking at you thinking "i wish i had bum/hair/eyes like hers!"

Keep smiling and it will distract from any spots anyway, that's my theory!
I have a friend who really obsesses about her spots and wears loads of make up to cover them up and to be honest I think she looks better without it. She has got very pretty features though and while usually the spots dont make her look that bad, on an awful day it can ulter her appearance completely.
I dont think that is is more 'acceptable' for guys to have less perfect skin though because I know that personally it is something I notice quite early on and I think it makes as much difference to me as it would to a boy looking at a girl with spots.
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i personally don't mind a few spots, as long as it's not too many haha.

i dun haf perfect skin anyway. dun worry, guys who dun like u coz of a few spots are not worth your time.
If I were to be stereotypical then, yes, it is more acceptable for a guy to have less than flawless skin. When looking for a partner, a girl looks for qualities such as honesty, stability and wealth whereas a guy looks for someone that is more likely to successfully reproduce e.g. healthy looking. (This is one of the main theories of attraction and I certainly don't agree with it).

As for whether somebody should or would be put off if a girl had spots, well if they are put off then they're not the guy for you. The right person for you wouldn't mind that every now and again you have a break-out and that you might have a few blemishes.

I can't actually think of a single girl that I know that has "perfect skin." There are some that come very close but this is probably because they are very clever with their use of make-up. Even most celebrities that we think have gorgeous skin actually don't.

If I'm honest, I think "perfect skin" looks too perfect and that it can be better to have a few blemishes as it all adds to your individuality.

So, stop worrying about when your next break-out will be and think that one day you'll find someone who loves all those little blemishes.

Sarah x
I don't think airbrushed celebrities in glossy magazines help matters. Most people have some blemishes and the sooner people accept it and get on with it the better.
keep off the make up! it just makes it look worse unless your talking about the tiniest bit of concealer. the spots arent a problem, you just need to be more confident about the way you look.
My boyfriend really doesn't have perfect skin. Although he's Italian (with a mediterranean complexion) he gets quite bad acne, which I maintain is due to his poor diet. [3 cans of coke per day, plus lots of carbs - doesn't like many vegetables *sigh*]

Despite the fact his skin isn't (and probably won't ever be) entirely clear, I love him completely. It's cheesy, but you fall for the person... not the shell...
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Anonymous
I'm a girl, and am very self-conscious of my spots, and am rather aware that makeup usually makes my skin worse... nevertheless I do try and lessen the redness etc eventhough it tends to "cake" and gets greasy.

The reason being... when I look at another girl, I'm instantly drawn to the blemishes/imperfections on her face and think how noticeable it is. (The majority of my friends though do have perfect skin though, grrrr...) Especially in the harsh daylight. I know its not nice, and I reckon that's what people do to me. I avoid looking people in the eye and cover parts of my face, but that probably draws more attention.

On the other hand, if it's a guy, I won't be so bothered about him having spots and stuff. Is it just me or is it more "acceptable" for a guy to have less than flawless skin than a girl?

I had a massive breakout due to exam results stress and saw my crush and his friends today. Oh I wanted to hide my face in shame. I tried to smile but all I can think of was how hideous I looked. :frown:

Would you be put off by someone with spots eventhough they have reasonably pretty features?


If it bothers you that much.
Sazarina88

1.

The right person for you wouldn't mind that every now and again you have a break-out and that you might have a few blemishes.

2.

I can't actually think of a single girl that I know that has "perfect skin." There are some that come very close but this is probably because they are very clever with their use of make-up. Even most celebrities that we think have gorgeous skin actually don't.

3.

If I'm honest, I think "perfect skin" looks too perfect and that it can be better to have a few blemishes as it all adds to your individuality.

4.

So, stop worrying about when your next break-out will be and think that one day you'll find someone who loves all those little blemishes.


1 - Undoubtedly true.
2 - Exactly! Celeb mags are created to make money, not tell the truth about peoples' skin.
3 - Who wants someone with Joan Collins' or Sophia Loren's computerised-effect skin? That's not youthfulness, that's scary! Even Lara Croft would be a bore if she were real because being too perfect carries the baggage of a loss in perceived character.
LauraDanielle
Perfect looks are definitely too boring.
Booyah! <rejoices> :biggrin: